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It's been almost two weeks since he's broken up with me,he still likes me and cares for me(as he said when he was breaking up) and wants to remain friends..but it hurts too much for me to be friends at this moment.

 

I was so in love with him but he was really nasty to me at the end of our relationship,because of how he was to me,I was moving on quickly than expected,but not when he texted me..

 

My friends' suggestion is keep the NC rule,I wont text him first,but the problem is I find it difficult not to text him back, he knows well that I am not ready to be friends yet,but he still texted me which reminded me of the pain,this is really mean... people suggested me to tell him what I think,which is "we cant be friends right now because I am not over you yet",but I cant do it..

 

So should I just ignore his text messages? and calls if he ever calls me?

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It's been almost two weeks since he's broken up with me,he still likes me and cares for me(as he said when he was breaking up) and wants to remain friends..but it hurts too much for me to be friends at this moment.

 

I was so in love with him but he was really nasty to me at the end of our relationship,because of how he was to me,I was moving on quickly than expected,but not when he texted me..

 

My friends' suggestion is keep the NC rule,I wont text him first,but the problem is I find it difficult not to text him back, he knows well that I am not ready to be friends yet,but he still texted me which reminded me of the pain,this is really mean... people suggested me to tell him what I think,which is "we cant be friends right now because I am not over you yet",but I cant do it..

 

So should I just ignore his text messages? and calls if he ever calls me?

 

pinkfairy,

 

yes, my recommendation is to not text back or call and MOVE ON...you said it yourself, he was nasty to you. This is what you will expect if you get back together with him. Think about it, his negative response to you AND his full knowledge that his communication is hurting you shows someone who is selfish...do you want to be with someone like that?

 

Please try to move on...at best, you move on and find someone worthwhile and he is the one who feels crappy having realized that he lost someone special...at worst, you dodge a bullet and find out what a jerk he really is...

 

Good luck!

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Thanks for your suggestion,you are so right about it.. I'll just have to try to be mean like him and ignore him..but I just wonder what made him contact me when he knows well that I am not over him yet.

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It's not mean to ignore him. Please stick to no contact if you don't it will prolong your agony.

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