tealover Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 To start out I was unsure to put this thread in cheating or breaking up because he technically got back with the ex and never told me so its a bit a both: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/336566-cheated-need-healing and This is the back story of what I'm going through right now. As of right now I'm trying to cope with it...I'm curious about how should I go about this? Yesterday I took a huge step back in my healing. His good friend and I made contact. I messaged her when I first broke up/ got cheat on wanting answers out of confusion but sadly she was off and vacation and she just got back. I found out I wasn’t the first girl this happened to. In fact I was the third. I was quite upset with this finding because this was the same friend that paired me up in the first place. He always ends up going back to the same girl in the end. In fact the friend was one of them. At first I wanted to get angry and say “you knew this and you paired me up with him” but instead I took a deep breath and asked it like a curious question. She didn’t know he would do this. From what she heard from him that he loved hearing and seeing me. He loved seeing me a lot. Which I didn’t understand because what he told me in an anger message war was he went on how ugly I was. Maybe he thought he loved me I guess? I don’t know rebounds work maybe a bit more insight? Also because of hearing this she and another friend of his are going to fight him on this. I’m aware that doing this will set me back. I shouldn’t be forcing on the person. I should be focusing on myself. Even tho I’m not the one doing the fighting. Just hearing about it kind of makes me think of him. Of course its hate and of course I want to make him suffer for what he did but is he really worth the time and energy? He already wasted my best days already. Does he need anymore? Thoughts? Advice?
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