irc333 Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 There's this woman I kind of know on barely an acquaintance level. She said she's looking for both men and women who like BI women. Looks like we have a lot in common, in fact she's a big Sci-Fi/Cos-play nerd. I would imagine the single guys/nerds at the cons drool over here even, though her photos are professionally done fitness photos of her flexing her biceps and showing half-nudes of her body. And one in a Bat-Girl costume. Though, the pics tend to come off as a bit narcissistic in nature. Though, I don't really wear costumes myself, I'm into the characters and all things Sci-Fi. Pretty damned sexy though. But I would imagine the ratio of average looking "not entirely in-shape' men of the conventions might not appeal to her. Of course, she has to stay in shape in order to maintain the true nature of the characters in the comic books, right? A Nerds dream come true. IN fact, I'm kind of surprised she's needing a dating site, considering she's in constant contact with single men at the conventions. Go figure, eh? A nerds dream come true, however....she's Bi-sexual. She has kids from a previous hetero sexual marriage. So I was wondering if she's truly Bi? Would it be realistic if you were a completely STRAIGHT man, could you consider a serious long term relationship with an attractive BI woman, or just a short term fling because you're just attracted to the idea of a Bi-sexual woman? Be honest. I know some guys here will drool and say, "OH yeah man BI CHICKS ROCK!" But, be ready to be depressed...she will NOT do the mate swapping, couples thing. But lets have some mature responses please.
ThingsAreComplicated Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Excellent question. I'm trying this right now and I'm unsure. On the one hand I CLAIM that I could (obviously?) give her everything a woman could give. On the other hand she claims that it's still "different" and that she generally considers female bodies more attractive and erotically arousing than male bodies (lol no disagreement from me here^^). So yeah the basic question is: will she overcome her feelings for women or eventually cheat on me. I don't know So to answer your question: I'm "realistically" doing it with the goal of LTR / marriage because I really fell for her...
SunandMoon Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 There's this woman I kind of know on barely an acquaintance level. She said she's looking for both men and women who like BI women. Looks like we have a lot in common, in fact she's a big Sci-Fi/Cos-play nerd. I would imagine the single guys/nerds at the cons drool over here even, though her photos are professionally done fitness photos of her flexing her biceps and showing half-nudes of her body. And one in a Bat-Girl costume. Though, the pics tend to come off as a bit narcissistic in nature. Though, I don't really wear costumes myself, I'm into the characters and all things Sci-Fi. Pretty damned sexy though. But I would imagine the ratio of average looking "not entirely in-shape' men of the conventions might not appeal to her. Of course, she has to stay in shape in order to maintain the true nature of the characters in the comic books, right? A Nerds dream come true. IN fact, I'm kind of surprised she's needing a dating site, considering she's in constant contact with single men at the conventions. Go figure, eh? A nerds dream come true, however....she's Bi-sexual. She has kids from a previous hetero sexual marriage. So I was wondering if she's truly Bi? Would it be realistic if you were a completely STRAIGHT man, could you consider a serious long term relationship with an attractive BI woman, or just a short term fling because you're just attracted to the idea of a Bi-sexual woman? Be honest. I know some guys here will drool and say, "OH yeah man BI CHICKS ROCK!" But, be ready to be depressed...she will NOT do the mate swapping, couples thing. But lets have some mature responses please. You had me at female and sci-fi nerd... I know you said mature and all. But if she is truly bisexual it would open to possible ffm threesomes. Again stated; realistically, I believe it would be possible. It's just like any other woman just she has more personal prefrence as far as attraction. So long as she stayed true I would see no problem.
carhill Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 For myself, it would be a non-issue. Sex would only become relevant within an exclusive monogamous relationship, so her attraction style at that point would be moot if she choose the same path as myself. Her FOO, relationship and marital history would be relevant, as always. 1
Tulsy Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Date, maybe, but prolly not...I'm not that kinky. Relationship, nope. I don't share.
yongyong Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 You said Dating....why not? There is also a good possibility of Threesome.
Feelin Frisky Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 A one time thing or an occasional outing? yes (but she's have to at least look like I'm enough for her at that moment). I wouldn't seriously date or go into a relationship with someone bi and needful of sex with another woman however. It's just disquieting and I want to remove question marks with a relationship, not invite them. Those are my rules for better or worse.
carhill Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Dependent upon the individual, it's entirely possible that a hetero woman could have more 'options' than a bi-sexual woman, and one's sexual preference, straight, gay or bi, is no indicator of an individual's sexual, emotional or relationship style. A bi-sexual woman (or man) can simply and transparently feel sexually attracted to both women and men. Is it possible that such a woman could leave for another man or woman? Sure. The same potential holds true for a hetero or gay woman, constrained only be the gender of whom they're leaving for. With billions of people in the world, the difference in 'odds', all else being equal, is miniscule. A cheater will cheat, a serial monogamist will move from one to another, a LTR-centric person will invest in the partner in front of them. The rules of compatibility still apply. Dating, or 'getting to know', reveals such aspects. OP, you got a clue to some of her 'aspects' when she was talking about the 'swapping' dynamic. Why not meet her and see how it goes?
Andy_K Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 I would date a bisexual girl. I have dated bisexual girls. In fact, I would prefer to date a bisexual girl. They are generally: Less neuroticMore sexual, and more confident sexuallyMore open-mindedHave a better sense of humourLess easily offended They are just as capable of love as any 'hetero' girl, and no more likely to cheat. After all, I like blondes and I like brunettes, but I don't need one of each to feel sexually fulfilled I find guys who don't like to date them are generally insecure about their ability to satisfy them sexually. More confident guys are cool with it.
oaks Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Would I date a bisexual woman? Yes, absolutely, if she'll date me, and if she's attractive.
Author irc333 Posted July 19, 2012 Author Posted July 19, 2012 OP, you got a clue to some of her 'aspects' when she was talking about the 'swapping' dynamic. Why not meet her and see how it goes? Well,I think she takes herself too seriously, and a bit narcissistic. She would always post these "flexing" pictures in front of a mirror, when everyone has known for a while that she's in shape and into body building. From what I read in her profile and previous conversations with her, she doesn't seem to have much of a sense of humor either.....sometimes even demanding. Actually mentioned she's looking for an Alpha male, a successful man that can keep up with her. Almost an Alpha female (if there is such a thing).
Author irc333 Posted July 19, 2012 Author Posted July 19, 2012 For a good look at what she's all about...get ready to DROOL VERY nicely done costumes.
carhill Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 OK, with that further information, it appears you consider her to be incompatible. However, the topic you raised is a good one and perhaps deserves a general thread of its own. Since you've now personalized this, I'm assuming the lady is 'out there' with her bi-sexuality. I hope so. I didn't read all the stuff on her.
kaylan Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Id hook up with them, but I wouldnt date them seriously. Women who love penis and only penis come off more feminine to me, and I like knowing Im able to give a woman everything she craves. Plus Im not silly like some dudes who think another woman could not compete with a man. Thats usually many guys rational for even letting their bi gf hook up with other chicks, only to whine if she starts to fall for the other chick. So yeah, all in all, bi chicks can be a bit of a turn off to me. Also because of all the fake ones out there who think making out makes them bii even though theyd never date or have sex with a girl. Hell, you even have some younger guys doing that stuff now.
kaylan Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 (edited) ^First off, a woman is no more feminine than when she submits sexually to a man . in my opinion. (and only men) Secondly, you seem to be yet another poster who fails to read my posts with any understanding. I have always said I like fit women with slim, curvy, and strong bodies. Think of a fitness model like Jamie Eason. Just because a chick is strong (for a woman, and in comparison to other females) does not mean she isnt feminine. http://a3.ec-images.myspacecdn.com/images02/112/1a743cbb689b4131812b4d7036b5ada3/l.jpg Yeah this is so not feminine /sarcasm Jamie lifts all the time, and gets a great body because of it. Lifting heavy weights make a women tight and firm. They do not make her look like competitive bodybuilders. Female bodybuilders who compete, take male hormones (steroids) which give them unnatural bodies. With those hormones, you come out looking feminine, yet stronger like Jamie. I think American women need to look at European and Brazilian women. Those women are generally, stronger, fitter, and curvier due to differences in culture and genetics. Some guys like myself dont dig weak women whether they are skinny-fat (aka flabby) or just overweight in general. Im an athlete...so I like athletic yet feminine women. Next time dont misquote me and quit trolling. PS - nice broken link Edited July 19, 2012 by kaylan
EasyHeart Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 I've dated bi women in the past and I would again. The point is that she would have to be faithful to me; whether she cheats with a guy or a girl is irrelevant. OTH, I would not date someone who frequents SF cons. A man's got to have some standards, dammit!!!
Badsingularity Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 My wife looks and acts very feminine and she is realy BI. Not BI for attentioin. No one would ever guess she is attracted to women just by looking at her or even knowing her for a while. I know she likes men as I have seen her get worked up by both men and women. She also is very attracted to me, a man, as evidenced by how she claws at me and the number of times a week she wants to get it on. I would tell guys that it's no big deal that she is bi and to always work on being an attractive man and you should have no problems. 1
Author irc333 Posted July 19, 2012 Author Posted July 19, 2012 work on being an attractive man and you should have no problems. Yeah, but sometimes that's not possible.
ThaWholigan Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Yeah, but sometimes that's not possible. Chin up irc33 "I don't believe it" "And that is why you fail" (Yoda ). Badsingularity is bang on the money. 1
Sanman Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 I've done it twice and I do not recommend it. In theory, if she is the type that is able to commit to you and a serious relationship, then it does not really matter. In reality, both of the bisexual women I dated were a bit of a mess and one had real problems giving up women completely if we were in a relationship. She was willing to give up all other men, but that was not enough for me.
Leopard Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 I think being "bi" is another way of saying "I don't want to be exclusive". Sex is sex, regardless with what person.
Leopard Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 I would tell guys that it's no big deal that she is bi and to always work on being an attractive man and you should have no problems. :S A woman shouldn't be bisexual just so her man works hard to be attractive. Everyone needs to work hard to be attractive to their partner or the type of partner they want to attract. Apparently if a woman is bisexual then it's not "shallow" to expect her man to be hot, but if a woman is straight (therefore less competition) than expecting a hot man is "high standards". Ugh. (Not at you badsingularity, just venting)
neowulf Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Already have. Was never really an issue. Commitment is still comment, no matter what your sexual preference happens to be. At some point you have to forsake others to be in a committed relationship. Who she's attracted to makes little difference to me, so long as we're happy together.
Badsingularity Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 I think being "bi" is another way of saying "I don't want to be exclusive". Sex is sex, regardless with what person. My wife is BI. She can be attracted to both men and women. We are in an exclusive relationship. She is not involved with any one else.
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