Titanwolf Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 You will be blown away by how much bro-science you've accumulated over the yrs about getting in shape. Good Lord, so much this. The broscience is strong in this site. If you have a weight issue, please inform yourself of the facts so you can too, become enlightened. It's time to take responsibility for your size.
Garfish Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 Believe it or not, there are plenty of guys, some average-sized and good looking, who go for "fat" girls. I used to be one of those guys (ok I'm still good looking, thank you). You don't have to go down to 120 or 140. Be realistic. I missed your height, or did you post it? You might only have to go down to 165. If most of the weight stays around your bottom and breasts and not your middle, guys will be attracted to you, believe me. Try to lose 5 pounds every couple of weeks or so, and reward yourself with a NON FOOD treat, like a movie or a trip. What you do need to do is permanently change your lifestyle and stop using food, internet, and TV to try to lift your mood. Get outside and get active. Find a park near where you live and think of some activities you could do there. Really, you've got to work on your negative attitude and please, don't list "cooking comfort food" in your profile!!! You need to get away from that stuff!!! If I were you I'd get a nutritionist or doctor to help but I definitely wouldn't do the surgery thing. Did you say you were a virgin at 30? For a guy to be a virgin, that's a really bad thing, but for a girl, it might be an asset. Lots of guys out there looking to marry a virgin (some of them weirdos though).
mario_C Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 It's true! I myself don't but I've fallen for "fat chicks" with pretty, not jowly faces, who have energetic dispositions, who are kind and take care of themselves in other ways. Very fat people who feel sorry for themselves and wallow in self-neglect? Not attractive at all. I hope you do not go for bypass surgery. If you're going to blow that amount of money, a bicycle and organic groceries would be a wiser investment. There's no self-torture involved, just a call to be active and eat clean quality food. That will do wonders for your energy and outlook, which will make you lose at least a pound or two and make you feel more attractive, which is the point.
Garfish Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 It's true! I myself don't but I've fallen for "fat chicks" with pretty, not jowly faces, who have energetic dispositions, who are kind and take care of themselves in other ways. Very fat people who feel sorry for themselves and wallow in self-neglect? Not attractive at all. Yes, those are the girls that I'm talking about. Like Emme (the model) or that girl Garcia from the (U.S.) TV show "Criminal Minds".
Author spooky48 Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 If you have been totally unsuccessful though, bottom line...is it a sign to just give up looking & would you delete all of your profiles?
proseandpassion Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 I have an acquaintance. Overweight. She wanted to do gastric bypass surgery, but she wasn't fat enough to qualify for it. So she intentionally gained weight so she could qualify for the surgery. After the surgery, she complained that she couldn't eat. Well, no sh-t. Instead of making sure she eats nutritional food because the amount of food she could eat is very limited, she still ate cookies and junk. So she also became really unhealthy. So now years later, through her sheer iron will, she managed to stretch out her stomach so she could eat more food now. Mission accomplished. Now she can eat a meal AND cookies and ice cream. But guess what? She gained her weight back. So yes... many people can't keep off the the weight they lost. But is it really destiny? Read the article I linked to.
proseandpassion Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 I know what you mean & admit it. Yes, I threw-in-the-towel on that date but, I still have active profiles out here but, I am inactive to the point of hardly even checking them anymore. The only profile I utilize daily is a telephone line where I am degraded daily b/c it helps me "feel" & it is a bdsm "thing"...long story. I love your positivity though as I'm sure you have someone. I do not nor have not believe in a true love or a soul mate for myself but, do for others b/c I've seen it w/my own eyes how they haven't settled, lied, cheated, scammed or any other b.s. w/each other. I urge you to research the fat acceptance movement and go this route first before attempting to be more healthy via weight loss. First and foremost, weight loss should be for YOU and it should be about your health. Forget the negative **** in this forum, it will drive you crazy. You need to see fat babes exuding positivity and expressing their personalities so that you can see there is a hope out there to be fat and happy at the same time. YES, lose weight for your HEALTH if you want to. But nobody will ever love you if you don't love yourself (it's a cliche, but it's true). Go to tumblr and search "fat acceptance" in the tags and go nuts.
Author spooky48 Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 I urge you to research the fat acceptance movement and go this route first before attempting to be more healthy via weight loss. First and foremost, weight loss should be for YOU and it should be about your health. Forget the negative **** in this forum, it will drive you crazy. You need to see fat babes exuding positivity and expressing their personalities so that you can see there is a hope out there to be fat and happy at the same time. YES, lose weight for your HEALTH if you want to. But nobody will ever love you if you don't love yourself (it's a cliche, but it's true). Go to tumblr and search "fat acceptance" in the tags and go nuts. Hi, I heard SO many things about this but, I just guess I don't believe them. I've heard about how there's sexy really, really heavy women that men do NOT settle for & do NOT have a fetish about. I hope I can find a cool man like that. lol Anyway, I have lost a total now since we've last talked 4 lbs. Not too shabby. I want to feel good, not tired & weighed-down. Cheers.
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