tealover Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Greetings, It's a pleasure to meet you all but I was curious about your input on this. I don't really know how to make sense of it sadly and to be quite honest It would be quite good to get some healing tips for this sort of issue more than anything. I've recently broken up with a guy or should I say, he broke up with me and never told me about it. I've met this guy. I knew that he was cheated on by his last girlfriend and I slowly started to get to know him. We moved faster then I would usually go through a relationship. I can only describe it as something just felt right about this guy. I guess I can say the one thing I found a bit odd is how he seemed very stressed when his ex from his last relationship contacted him but then again she would attempt suicide and say everything under the sun to try to get him to contact her. After she heard he was in a relationship she stopped for a bit. Other than that I always had a good time with fellow. I can say I've had my best times in a relationship with this guy. My love for him got deeper. He always said I was his light in the dark. he talked about marriage. we always called each other "wifey and hubby". I was moving in soon. I met his family. It all just seemed right. Until his ex from his last relationship contacted him again and this time he didn't feel stressed. He only felt stressed when I brought it up and questioned it. He fought me on it and said that he needed some time to think. He said after he cleared his thoughts he would be back together with me. He just needed time to think. I trusted him and waited for him to contact me until a friend told me that he is with another woman and that woman happens to be his ex from the last relationship. Confused and mad I message him wanting answers. His reponse is that he put with years of torture with this woman and is willing to give up me to have it all again. Shortly after the woman messages me calling me every dirty name under the sun and tells me to stop messaging him and to back off. I realize that I've become the ex and she has become the gf again and to be quite honest I've never treated this woman poorly but as soon as she got back together with him it became a different story. she also claims that he would have sexual contact with her even tho me and him were supposedly together. He starts to trash me with her and what turned into simple answers turned into a message war. Given I wouldn't message her back, just him. I also find out she moved in with him when I was suppose to. I feel quite betrayed. He claims he used me as emotional support for a time so he can get back together to his ex later. So I know I was a rebound. how do I even begin to heal from this? I truly loved a guy but in the end I was treated like trash. It's quite painful still for me.
Samilia Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 That's pretty bad the way he handled it, that's for sure. See I learned a lesson and your story reminds me of it, don't be anybody's rebound, even if things are great at first, they usually end up turning sour. So let's not date guys who just got out of a (x) years relationship.
Chi townD Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Awww Geez! That's Horrible! What a Jackass, asshat, douche rocket, scumbag!! Look, this is all too fresh for you right now. So, I know that there isn't much we can say or do to make you feel any better. But, you need to stop contacting them both. He's the frickin idiot that wants to be with a cheater that will probably cheat on him again, that's on his dumbass, not you! It wouldn't surprise me if he contacts you after a while. IGNORE HIM!!! Start working on yourself. I am a firm believer that there is a guy out there for you that is going to treat you like a princess. Yeah, you thought you had it with this screwball. But, trust me, you know it when he finds you. And he's looking for you right now. He just hasn't found you yet. So, in the meantime, start working on yourself and post here often to talk or vent or to be talked out of contacting him!!
Author tealover Posted July 19, 2012 Author Posted July 19, 2012 (edited) That's pretty bad the way he handled it, that's for sure. See I learned a lesson and your story reminds me of it, don't be anybody's rebound, even if things are great at first, they usually end up turning sour. So let's not date guys who just got out of a (x) years relationship. ah yes I've learned my lesson quite hard for this. As harsh as this is for me it serves as a terrible reminder no matter how well something may seem in a rebound relationship they may hop back to there ex in the next. Awww Geez! That's Horrible! What a Jackass, asshat, douche rocket, scumbag!! Look, this is all too fresh for you right now. So, I know that there isn't much we can say or do to make you feel any better. But, you need to stop contacting them both. He's the frickin idiot that wants to be with a cheater that will probably cheat on him again, that's on his dumbass, not you! It wouldn't surprise me if he contacts you after a while. IGNORE HIM!!! Start working on yourself. I am a firm believer that there is a guy out there for you that is going to treat you like a princess. Yeah, you thought you had it with this screwball. But, trust me, you know it when he finds you. And he's looking for you right now. He just hasn't found you yet. So, in the meantime, start working on yourself and post here often to talk or vent or to be talked out of contacting him!! Thanks very much for your input I appreciate it. I've cut my contact with him and his new gf. It was useless talking to him. All they both seem to want to do was crush me in the most meanest way possible way together. She seems to know all of my intimate moments with him. I'm pretty sure any secret I told him was spilled too if she knows that. It was quite disturbing to fight with something like that. I quite literally had no choice to stop messaging them because it was low blow after another. I really do hope I find the right guy for me but as of right now my view of love has been very damaged. Its going to take a bit to repair. Maybe the true medicine I need right now is time. If he really does messages me again all I have to do is look at this post. Do I really want to be tortured again.... Edited July 19, 2012 by tealover
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