Nellek Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 I'm sure this is a commonly asked questions but this is how mine went down After your girlfriend told you, she needs space, did your relationship continue? Me and my girlfriend saw each other almost every day last week and she said i got on her nerves during this time and wants space. What do you think it means?
steveblack Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Did she break up with you? Or just tell you she needed space? How long dating and age might help me as well
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Give her space. LOTS of space. Don't initiate communication. Don't call her. Don't text her. Don't email her. Don't be active on Facebook or anything else for awhile. If she does any of the above, (initiates communication) reply when you want too. The next day. Or a few days later. And keep it short. She's testing you in my experience. Passing the test is not being so available & anxious to be with her. And don't let her push you around when she gets pissed about it trying to control how much space you are supposed to give.
Chi townD Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 It means I want to see what else is out there, I want to go out with some dude without you knowing or questioning it. It means I want to break up but I'm too much of a coward to pull the trigger so maybe after a couple of week of me not talking to you, you might get the hint. Sorry to be blunt. But it is what it is.
Author Nellek Posted July 19, 2012 Author Posted July 19, 2012 Did she break up with you? Or just tell you she needed space? How long dating and age might help me as well We didnt break up, im 19 shes 18 Also there are some problems that she is facing too which probably was another reason why she said she needed space, if thats good or not
steveblack Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 I would say 95% of I needs space, means its done. The other 5% could be a lot of things.
newmoon Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 are all men responding to this question? because you don't always know what 'i need space' means. often, a girl just needs some space, and it doesn't mean a looming breakup or that we've lost interest .. it means... we need space. maybe we want a bit of time to miss you, or to go out with friends, or alone, or maybe we have a giant pimple and it'll take a week to heal. it could be anything. unless you have/had problems already in the relationship just take her at her word and give her a few days of alone time. but, leave her to call you and initiate contact again.
Biscous Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Well last time that happened, my ex broke up with me over Facebook a few days later. A month later was talking with her ex, then a few weeks after starts begging me to reply to her texts and messages. So in my case no.
yogamobb Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Well last time that happened, my ex broke up with me over Facebook a few days later. A month later was talking with her ex, then a few weeks after starts begging me to reply to her texts and messages. So in my case no. Give atleast two weeks of no initation....none!
Chi townD Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 are all men responding to this question? because you don't always know what 'i need space' means. often, a girl just needs some space, and it doesn't mean a looming breakup or that we've lost interest .. it means... we need space. maybe we want a bit of time to miss you, or to go out with friends, or alone, or maybe we have a giant pimple and it'll take a week to heal. it could be anything. unless you have/had problems already in the relationship just take her at her word and give her a few days of alone time. but, leave her to call you and initiate contact again. LOL! I'm sorry but I did find your post funny. Don't get me wrong. I don't think it's ridiculous, and you make some valid points. But, I never seen a thread where a guy came on here to ask what his girlfriend mean by "need space". I just pictured everyone giving advice and then the OP come back on here and say, " IT'S OKAY!!! Everything is fine. It was just a pimple. False alarm." LOL! I got the giggles now.....
Biscous Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Give atleast two weeks of no initation....none! It's been 7 weeks of NC for me now.
lil hoodlum Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 It means I want to see what else is out there, I want to go out with some dude without you knowing or questioning it. It means I want to break up but I'm too much of a coward to pull the trigger so maybe after a couple of week of me not talking to you, you might get the hint. Sorry to be blunt. But it is what it is. I can not agree MORE with this statement. DUMP HER AND DUMP HER QUICK. It is not just her in the relationship. It takes two to make a relationship work. It only takes one to break it. She is fixing to kick you to the curb. Beat her to the punch. Good luck.
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Whenever you come to a crossroads or question like this in your relationship, remember: Women make time for what's important to them. Think on it. 1
Dblock10 Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 LOL! I'm sorry but I did find your post funny. Don't get me wrong. I don't think it's ridiculous, and you make some valid points. But, I never seen a thread where a guy came on here to ask what his girlfriend mean by "need space". I just pictured everyone giving advice and then the OP come back on here and say, " IT'S OKAY!!! Everything is fine. It was just a pimple. False alarm." LOL! I got the giggles now..... i agree with chi. it means they want to explore what is out there. sorry. same thing happened to me. don't get me wrong, we still saw each other and had a lot of sex. but she was moving on getting used to me not being there, and meeting her now boy f
Arabella Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 I don't know how it works for most people, but I've only asked for space once in my entire life. He refused to give me space and emotionally assaulted me so bad, with questions and demands... every minute of the day, until I cracked and ended it. If he had left me alone as I asked, we would be together right now. No questions asked. -A
mike588 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 My ex. and I dated for a year then out of the blue she said she needed space..4 days later she told me she was getting back with her ex...Ouch.
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 I don't know how it works for most people, but I've only asked for space once in my entire life. He refused to give me space and emotionally assaulted me so bad, with questions and demands... every minute of the day, until I cracked and ended it. If he had left me alone as I asked, we would be together right now. No questions asked. -A There is no way for you to know this to be true. There is a higher probability that your emotions would have concluded you were "happier" without him and would have ended it with the space when you asked for it. Women make time for what's important to them.
Arabella Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 There is no way for you to know this to be true. There is a higher probability that your emotions would have concluded you were "happier" without him and would have ended it with the space when you asked for it. Women make time for what's important to them. Actually, I do know. I loved him very much, and to some degree still do. Although it wasn't the only issue, the straw that broke the camel's back and made me end the relationship was his constant restrictions, paranoia and questioning everything I did. I went away for a few days to think about things and figure out what I really wanted. I decided that I wanted to be with him, and when I got back I was going to tell him that... but I never got a chance to. The minute I set foot in the apartment, he started questioning what (or rather, whom) I'd done during the trip, and picking a fight about the same as always. That's when I cracked and ended it. In fact, I've seeing him recently in hopes that we may be able to get back together, but he is still doing the same thing. We haven't been together for four months, and he's still acting entitled to dictate what I do, or whom I see. This is most likely going to be the reason why we won't get back together. I've told him this, but he can't help himself... -A
Gulf-Delta Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Actually, I do know. I loved him very much, and to some degree still do. Although it wasn't the only issue, the straw that broke the camel's back and made me end the relationship was his constant restrictions, paranoia and questioning everything I did. I went away for a few days to think about things and figure out what I really wanted. I decided that I wanted to be with him, and when I got back I was going to tell him that... but I never got a chance to. The minute I set foot in the apartment, he started questioning what (or rather, whom) I'd done during the trip, and picking a fight about the same as always. That's when I cracked and ended it. In fact, I've seeing him recently in hopes that we may be able to get back together, but he is still doing the same thing. We haven't been together for four months, and he's still acting entitled to dictate what I do, or whom I see. This is most likely going to be the reason why we won't get back together. I've told him this, but he can't help himself... -A Sounds pretty selfish. You love him, but evidently it wasn't very much because you left because he was worried about you? You think he was asking to piss you off? Are you so NAIVE to think he was doing it to control you? It never crossed your mind that he loved/cared enough about you to be concerned about you?
Arabella Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Sounds pretty selfish. You love him, but evidently it wasn't very much because you left because he was worried about you? You think he was asking to piss you off? Are you so NAIVE to think he was doing it to control you? It never crossed your mind that he loved/cared enough about you to be concerned about you? No, right, I didn't love him very much... I was just engaged to the guy... who lied to me constantly and never trusted me... and I only put up with the constant emotional assault for six months before I ended it. All while my life was crumbling around me in an attempt to help him with his. And I'm the selfish one? Think again. -A
Author Nellek Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Okay well everything is fine for me now, my girlfriend is pretty darn arrogant and stubborn i say, which led her to get mad and ignore me but the other day, i patched things up. I dont think she really ment i need space, more like im mad at you, do something to make me forgive you
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