beforewegrewup Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 My girlfriend is hella indecisive about everything so it seems. This has been the case for years and being a Project Manager I have to make hard decisions often. Given my background I have to, but some decisions are so sensible she goes back and forth on them (like when her friend stand her up often to go places or treats her badly when she doesn't want to go out clubbing she debates on whether to keep them in her circle or not). The real issue is her process to finally making a decision. She wants me to decide who should be her friend or not. As flattering as that may sound from a caveman perspective I want her to be independent and make her OWN decisions on these sort of matters. She doesn't want to take any responsibility for her decisions on any "tough" decisions. This is frustrating because she can make "hard" decisions with me, yet, bend over backwards for everyone else and make herself miserable. I should have identified this years ago, but I chose to overlook it. My bad on that. I really wish she would grow more as a person and call a spade a spade. As I am typing this I also believe I should do the same and now that her progression in life won't be at the place or pace I would like it to be. The relationship is becoming a massive headache where it is becoming an environment where I have to manage my brain and hers. The issue is, I can give my input, but she'll end up doing whatever she wants anyway. In the beginning it wasn't like this, but over the years and the more we dated it has evolved into this roller-coaster effect of extreme left and right when it comes to her making decisions and it is really becoming really exhausting. Is it wrong that I want to break-up with her because of this? Mind you, I have been patient and trying to work (and communicate) with her regarding this matter for about three years now. What are your thoughts LoveShackers?
Samilia Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 I don't see it as being wrong, I have a hard time with men who never take charge, so I can relate. I am not saying I want the guy to take charge all the time, it's just tiring to always be the decision maker, a 50/50 would be nice. So yeah, again, I can relate, and no, I don't think it's overly harsh. However, I would probably talk to her about it and inform her of how serious this problem has become.
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