naughty actions and over exposed. bad or just normal girl antics? ladies please advis

[havNfun]

Please help,

 

Hello

This seems like a fairly anonymous and thoughtful forum so I have mustered up the courage to share my situation, albeit a personal and perhaps weird situation, in hopes of receiving some helpful advice and thought provoking responses.

 

I have been seeing a girl who I could see possibly marrying. We have been going out for around 5 months. Anyway, she has an uncommon fascination with my penis. The first time we got physical it was a really big deal to her to discover my dimensions. I am pretty used to my penis being an issue or "topic" at first with new girlfriends but Julie (current gf) focuses on the issue more so than most have. Anyway, I am not in anyway trying to blow my own horn here so I'll get to the point.

 

As we all might know, girls that are close friends sometimes talk pretty explicitly about stuff. So, one way or another it has gotten out to all my girlfriend's friends that I have an abnormally large penis. This has happened before but in the past I have not been as serious/sensitive about a relationship with a girl - as I am with Julie now; so, perhaps that is why certain situations are stressing me out in a new way.

 

Julie has a few different 'groups' of friends (work, old school, college etc). One group of friends - who we get together with most often, have discussed my penis as a topic several times in front of me and have (perhaps to joke) tried to get me to take it out and show it etc. Yes I know this isn't a big deal, yet, we are not a group of high school teens. We are talking late twenties to mid 30's professionals etc.

 

Two weeks ago when the group was hanging out - and the girls had just finished a commentary session pertaining to my member, I went inside the house to answer the phone, and one of my girlfriend's BETTER friends - out of the blue - came up and gave my penis a full on hand check.

 

The last incident I’ll mention was with another friend of hers that is part of her work group of friends. This girl, Kate, accidentally knocked her hand against me while several of us where dancing at a bar/club. Her hand accidentally flung right into my crotch - no big deal, accept then she made a comment and proceeded with an intrusively thorough examination of my private parts. It probably was only a couple 3 second squeezes or so but seemed very long – long enough for her to now have specific personal knowledge regarding the nature of my genitals. It took me by surprise and was over by the time I focused and thought to pull her hand away.

 

I feel silly explaining all this - it probably is silly.

My dilemma is that my girlfriend has no clue about either of these incidents (as far as I know). The women involved are two of my girlfriend’s better, closer friends. So my question is, do I just not worry and realize that I'm making an issue out of nothing? Or, should I be telling my girlfriend about these things? I really don't want to damage Julie's relationship with her friends in anyway and I also don't want all her friends to hate me for causing harm to the friendships etc. On the other hand, I feel a bit exposed and embarrassed etc.

 

Again, I know this may be strange, or absurd - definitely ABSURD

But I would sincerely appreciate some objective perspective on this

And if you do think I am looking at things all wrong or ridiculously

Please break it to me gently.

Thanks

Sincerely

Over-exposed

Me

[Olivia_19742004]

Have you tried telling her to stop talking about your body to other people? I'm very open about sex with my friends and I may share details about what was good or wasn't good but they certainly have enough propriety not to bring up my private details in front of other people. It just sounds so crass. Tell her to stop talking about your manhood.

[havNfun]

Olivia,

Thank you so much for your response. You are very right - it is crass. My girlfriend isn't a crass person persay and I'm not sure she realizes (or realized) that it was uncooth or was a big deal. She perhaps was just wanting to amuse her friends with details etc and perhaps didn't realize that her friends would make a public topic of it. I did tell her I'd prefer she kept some things between us after it became clear that her friends had heard something about my manhood

[CurlyIam]

Ithink gender isn't an issue here. They didn't pinch or touch your tush, they went straight for the main attraction. It is rude, it is insensitive and it is DISRESPECTIFULto all parties involved: you, your gf, your relationship, their friendship!

 

Under no way is this female curiosity! I would want to know if they were my "friends".

 

You are not blowing things, or drawing it out of proportions. Hey, they even came up with a name for it. It's called "sexual haressment"

[Mr baseball]

I'm not a lady but wanted to post my opinion anyway. I think your girl started the "curiosity killed the cat" syndrome. She should have never made any conversation about your member because now all of her friends have made this a subject to explore. I would say that it has went a little too far and I would let her know what is going on. You have to think that there is talk behind both of your backs and that will put both of you in a very uncomfortable position. I will let you know that at one time my wife and I used to joke that I could lick my eyebrows. That joke turned into being approached multiple times by my friends wives regarding my skills. I thought it was funny at first but it happened multiple times. I think after you tell her she will think about what is going on and this will stop.