sevendozys12 Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 I want to text someone I've been going out with to tell her that I am serious when I ask her out. Because I am a humorous and confusing person, and it is hard to take me seriously sometimes. When I ask her out I tell her it's a date, but then when we are out she just acts like we are hanging out as friends until I grab her and hold hand or something, which changes her into girly date mode. I feel like I need to set the record straight because we are sending mixed signals to each other, which I feel is making her lose interest because she thinks I have no interest. I don't want to confess feelings or ask her to be mine or anything. I just want to tell her that I am serious about dating her. Is that ok to do over a text? I am too shy to tell her in a phone call or in person. I usually call her every time I want to talk, but this stuff just gets me choked up. I rarely have texting conversations with her anymore. Its all in person or over a phone call. I was thinking of just being honest and telling her I'm too shy to say something, then go into the message. I also have no idea how to keep in short, every time I wrote it out it was a super long message.
skyisfalling Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 From a girls point of view: please dont text. if you're really interested in pursuing a girl and your want to be taken serious, put forth the effort and say it either in person or at least over the phone. from a girls perspective: texting=laziness!!!
utterer of lies Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Don't text. It's weak. Call her, ask her out for a date, and kiss her.
veggirl Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 No serious conversations should take place by text message. Text messaging shouldn't be used for whole conversations really, unless maybe it's like back and forth banter while working etc. Please don't use it to express your intentions with her. When you go out with her, take her on a nice date. Do something romantic that will set the mood from the beginning. How about a picnic at night or something? If she acts like just friends or whatever, grab her hand and say whatever it is you would say on the text. 1
truth_seeker Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Anyone can write anything with a text. No one knows for sure if you're being real or just joking around. In person she will get a sense if you're being honest with her or trying to pull the wool over her eyes
yongyong Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Don't do that if she is an American woman. You will be labeled as creepy and desperate. Once you bang her and she is after you then you can send this out to look as 'generous' though.
Art_Critic Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 (edited) Kiss her.. that sets the record straight the best.. When I was single..I had always made it a point to kiss a girl on the first date.. it always pulls you from the friend zone and makes it clear that you want more than friendship.. it also weeds out the women who are not into you. Edited July 18, 2012 by Art_Critic 2
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