nofool4u Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Dude, really simple. Just let the courts dictate what is a fair amount from the income that you are earning. I understand that you want to do right by your kids, but you have to live too. She has the house, the kids and a boyfriend she's banging. There's no reason for you to be living out of a cardboard box or out of your car or a friends couch for a ridiculous amount of money she's demanding from you. Oh, and don't tell her anything about what your future goals are. As far as she's concerned. You're just a carpenter. If she finds out that you're making a dollar more a year, I guarantee you she's going to drag you into court for an adjustment. Exactly. OP, take what I said, and what Chi said here, get a lawyer, and said attorney will show her that she can't get it all. 1/2 is yours.
g450 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Im a little late to the party but wanted to add my own two cents. OK you said your mortgage is being paid by her Moms boytoy? Is that right? Whos name is the mortgage in? If both then you should get 50% of the equity once it's sold and that includes your belongings. Your XW will have to decided to either sell it or buy her half and pay you for half the equity. Im no lawyer but that makes sense to me. The fact that her Stepdad or whatever is paying the mortgage doesnt means squat. Seriously, who owns the house? If its your house YOU need to live there. Leaving can be interpreted as abandonment and she can use that against you. I will say this, I commend you for doing your part. My current wife's ex is already two years behind on CS. Sadly, that's what most of the deadbeats do. They run and hide like cockroaches when it's time for them to actually take care of their kids. I will say this though, everybody here keeps talking about the importance of child support etc. The reality is, most exes just see it as money because that's what it is. More money for them to spend. And you can bet your azz that most of the CS money will not be spent on the kids. That's why I kind of chuckle at the postings telling you to "take care of your kids" as if you werent going to do that. Kids arent that expensive unless you plan on putting them through college. In which case you can simply save a tax free account for their education. SHe doesnt need to touch that. Freaking lawyers are scum and so are some ex wives. Right now I am on the other end of this. In my current marriage I am taking care of some other deadbeat loser's kid. But I think my wife is worth it. Hell he will be gone in four years anyway. Eventually his idiot father's stupidity and financial irresponsibility will catch up to him. Hopefully with some jail time.
2sunny Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Go back to court and get at least half your assets back. The house is half yours. If she stays - she needs to pay you for half of it.
g450 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 Ya know this has kind of bothered me for a while. Why is the legal system so screwed up and biased with divorces. Personally, I think that Adultry should matter in court. But it doesnt in most cases. I would take it a step further and make Adultry a crime. In some countries it still is. And at one time it was in most parts of this country. How could it not be. We sue people over stupid crap like coffee that's too hot but not over something that is as painful and destructive as Adultry? Seriously? Makes no sense. In the case of CS payments, I think that a father should be able to see where his money is being spent. The courts should force the mother to provide reciepts of what she spent his CS payment money on. Why not? We get reciepts when we buy things and pay bills right? It should work the same way. Any money that the bitch doesnt spend should be applied towards the next months CS payments or given back to the breadwinner. Why is there no accountability with stuff like this? You would think that common sense stuff like this would exist.
Steadfast Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 It doesn't matter what you sign or agree to. In most states, both parties have to submit a wage assessment for support. She can take you to court as many times as she wants to have it reviewed. If there's an issue, a caseworker will be assigned and they will dig for hidden income. That's the law and that's the way it is. Fair in some cases, unfair in others. A previous poster is right; if you can manage (or gain) full custody you won't have to pay her anything. But, unless she agrees or the court finds a long history of arrest/substance abuse/neglect...you'll pay her a hefty sum even if you have joint custody. It all depends on what she makes, what you make, and where they spend the majority of their time. Some things can be settled out of court, but probably not this. Lawyer up.
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