Time to start NC...

July 18, 2012

don't feel like writing the whole backstory; i have some threads with a bunch of info. basically starting this to keep a log sort of, and maybe get some motivation to stay NC by making things semi-public (even though i don't know any of you lol).

basically my ex is in europe. she was supposed to do a lot of thinking on the trip (month long, with her gf) and we'd talk when she got back. well we're halfway into her trip. we started talking couple days ago (i iniated, b/c i felt bad for not replying to her goodbye xo text...more info on that in previous thread). convo went really nicely, and she was almost prying about what i was up to. anyway at the end of the convo (by text btw) i told her that i'd be booking off the long weekend in august to go up to my buddy's cottage (this is the first weekend she'll be home for btw) and it'd be awesome if she came. i also said (and maybe this wasn't the best) that if she could let me know this week so that i can ask someone else if she's not coming. anywya she responded rather dull/short saying she'd think about it this week and let me know.

today she msged me saying she didn't think she could come b/c she thought she'd be really tired and want to be home that weekend. really? tired? that doesn't sound like someone who's missed me on her trip and can't wait to see me. tired?? it's a f-cking cottage we're not going up there to run a marathon. anyway, my gut screams at me that she's over me. i'm just emotionally exhausted. i think about her ALL the time.

i hate that i'm going to just start ignoring her contacts, but it's what i need to do. i texted her back btw and decided to take the high road/not confront her about anything on her trip. i texted her back "got ur text, thanks for the quick response. don't worry about the email; enjoy the rest of ur trip". the email was something she said she wanted to send me (pics and updates on trip when she got near wifi) when she got a chance.

anyway, starting NC now. i know she will be contacting me, but it's time i just ignore her msgs. i don't know how long my NC will last to be honest. if she can let me go relatively easy (ie. msgs me a few times, maybe asks why i'm not responding, but then stops bothering/stops trying to contact) then it could be for good. BUT if she starts calling me, pestering me, and leaving voicemails wanting to talk etc etc, i mighth have to give in. b/c in truth, she hasn't said anything final with this, but i have lots of reasons for my gut to feel this way.

let it begin. no facebook (we're not friends, but i've been creeping her profile pics, and her friends page that she went to europe with and seen pics/minor updates etc)...no responding to emails/texts/calls, etc. all pics of her are deleted from my computer...and we don't really have any good mutual friends. time to heal!

July 18, 2012

Yep! Sorry dude. But I think you've got enough "friends" in your life right now.

You are absolutely right. Time to start healing and living!

July 18, 2012

ok, I am going through the same...Stick to NC ...It's sooo hard I know...I am ready to cry right now but it's for the best...

July 19, 2012

decided to send her one final text instead of just ignoring her from here on end...

"honestly vanessa, don't bother with me anymore please. i just can't do this any longer. i used to be ur world, ur best friend and partner through everything. now ur content with whatever the hell this is. it's crazy. it hurts, a lot. i'm done now tho, finally. i feel like a guy just getting in the way of ur new life and new guys u've replaced me with. i'll never comprehend how u just gave up on someone who loved and cared for u as i did. i've been the only one fighting for this for so long cuz i believed we had something really special, as u once believed too, but the way it's been given up on so easily obv means it wasn't all that special to begin with. anyway this isn't a pity party, i just didn't want to start ignoring u out of nowhere without telling u anything. i'll miss the old vanessa. the new one i don't even know. take care of urself."

and that's that. i think she'll reach out at some point. she's going back home to no job (she quit before she left), no trip to europe on the horizon, no quality guy in her life (she had a few guys she was interested in but it didn't seem they were interested in her that much), and nothing but time with nothing to do. but unfortunately i won't be giving her anymore attention or emotional support. time to start the healing process i kept pushing back. the hard work starts now.

Edited July 19, 2012 by Jono85

July 19, 2012

Make sure you practice what you preach now

I apologised on my thread by the way. I was still blowing steam out my ears when you commented. No harm done.

Best of luck with the healing process. Make sure you let us know how you're feeling as time goes by. And if she contacts you, and if you respond. It does get hard sometimes not to reply. You know you shouldn't reply but something in the back of your mind says "what if this is her tryin to reach out to me and if I ignore it she will be gone forever" and you find yourself replying more or less to remind yourself it's done for good.

Don't worry yourself with ego boosts or you having the power or her getting the power or any of that bs. She can think she has all the power in the world and it's useless if it holds no leverage over you. As long as you have the power within yourself you can do whatever you need to do to make sure your happy.

Again mate, good luck and all the best.

July 19, 2012

Make sure you practice what you preach now
I apologised on my thread by the way. I was still blowing steam out my ears when you commented. No harm done.

Best of luck with the healing process. Make sure you let us know how you're feeling as time goes by. And if she contacts you, and if you respond. It does get hard sometimes not to reply. You know you shouldn't reply but something in the back of your mind says "what if this is her tryin to reach out to me and if I ignore it she will be gone forever" and you find yourself replying more or less to remind yourself it's done for good.

Don't worry yourself with ego boosts or you having the power or her getting the power or any of that bs. She can think she has all the power in the world and it's useless if it holds no leverage over you. As long as you have the power within yourself you can do whatever you need to do to make sure your happy.

Again mate, good luck and all the best.

thanks man, i appreciate it.

in your thread i was just giving you the tough love i thought u needed. everyone else seemed to just be accepting and supporting you through every broken NC and that's not really cool all the time. u, like me, need to STAY NC. maybe not forever, but at least until our exes desperately try to reconnect and call and ask for us back etc etc. that will most likely never happen, as they have ego's too. but f*** it, we put our ego aside and tried to fight for us, even when they broke up with us. so it's the least they can do back if they think they messed up.

anyway man, its real rough. i've cried a few times today. but i've been through this before. last year around january i was in a similar situation (ex left me for her ex) and i sent the same kind of msg as in this thread (there's actually a thread about it on here) and went NC, and i've stayed ever since to this day. she didn't try to reach back out though, so even though it was really hard, it was easier that way cuz she just never regretted it. i really believe this girl will contact me though...i'd put my life on it. we had a very strong bond at one point, and to be honest i think she's going to regret her decision in the next few months and ask for me back. but i think it'll be too late. my last ex i didn't really have those feelings and thought she was gone for good. we'll see how i resist her attempts down the road. could be a while though before i hear from her (i'm gonna guess between 3-6 weeks).

i will def update this thread as i go along. good luck to u as well in ur NC. please tho man, stay in it. don't let me down

July 19, 2012

Yeah afterwards I re read what ya said and realized it was what I needed to hear. It shouldn't have gotten me snappy but I replied in the middle of getting txts from the ex so it was all in the heat of it haha.

Good to see you're still in the position to be giving others advice even while seeking advice yourself. Your heads in the right place you'll be fine

We're in the same boat here, I feel if she does come back which friends think she will, that it will be too late. Especially if tonight goes well /fingerscrossed.

So we are both moving on and dedicating ourselves to 100% NC. I'll be watching your threads closely and keeping you in line keep doing the same for me too. I appreciate it.

July 20, 2012

it's only been 25 hrs since i sent her that closing text, and i've been a wreck. took work off, did a lot of crying. she hasn't responded to the text, and i don't expect her too for a while or until she gets back from her trip. i don't imagine she wants to deal with this on her trip, and i get that, but still cold nonetheless. whenever she was crushed (b/c i did break up with her a couple times, but always took her back very soon) i was ALWAYS there to comfort her even when i broke up with her. whereas the 2 times she's absolutely crushed me, both times i told her to either f*ck off and don't talk to me (was mean) or this time telling her i'm moving on/not going to talk to her anymore, BUT she ALWAYS takes that out it seems and just doesn't talk to me. i guess how can i fault her, but i DO. if u love someone and care for that person so damn much, and u know u crushed that person and they're devestated, i don't care what the person tells you, u see if they're ok/reach out to them. i hate this. always have to deal with this alone. oh well.

finding it real hard to resist urge to check her FB (even though all i can see is her profile pic) or her girlfriends who's on the trip with her and updating regularly. but i've made it 1 day without checking. time for another 24 hrs lol baby steps.

July 20, 2012

You're not alone mate! Dont think that. I'm only on my second day of NC too remember.

You're obsessing on the thought of her. Completely normal. But good work for sharing it on here and not contacting her or causing yourself any more pain.

Yeah it hurts but you should know as well as I do that her not contacting you is doing more good than harm. At the end of the day it's what you need. Her contacting you will only hold you back. And you know it. Block her from fb so you cant even find her name. And her friend too. For now at least. Cut off EVERYTHING that links her to you from your life. Posessions, photos, fb, txt history everything.

You're having a rough time, it's the early days of course it's hard. But remember I'm going through the same here too. You cant give me the tough loving and then turn around and buckle under the pressure yourself Stay strong mate. You owe me that much

July 20, 2012

You're not alone mate! Dont think that. I'm only on my second day of NC too remember.
You're obsessing on the thought of her. Completely normal. But good work for sharing it on here and not contacting her or causing yourself any more pain.

Yeah it hurts but you should know as well as I do that her not contacting you is doing more good than harm. At the end of the day it's what you need. Her contacting you will only hold you back. And you know it. Block her from fb so you cant even find her name. And her friend too. For now at least. Cut off EVERYTHING that links her to you from your life. Posessions, photos, fb, txt history everything.

You're having a rough time, it's the early days of course it's hard. But remember I'm going through the same here too. You cant give me the tough loving and then turn around and buckle under the pressure yourself Stay strong mate. You owe me that much

thanks for the words bud. good to go through it with someone else and we seem to have started it around the same time anyway.

yeah as weak as i am in the inside, i know i won't buckle and contact her or anything. i've done this before and went a year plus (still going) without a single contact to my other ex.

and yeah maybe i should block her, but i feel it would be sort of immature, but obv that probs doesn't matter.

i think obv there's a part of me, that i can't really do anything to get rid of right now, that is hoping she comes back from her trip, to realize that i'm serious this time, for once, and refuses to lose me. when we were broken earlier this year, i started getting distant and she caved calling me after a couple weeks saying how much she misses me blah blah blah and we got back. but this is the 2nd time this is happening, so one phone call will not be doing it unfortunately. i think regardless of what she does i feel i need at least a few months, maybe more, of space away from her. could that change if she begs me and pleads? sure. but i also doubt she'll be diong that.

anyway keep in touch bud, we can do this. don't let me down, as i won't let u down. NO CONTACT.

July 20, 2012

thanks for the words bud. good to go through it with someone else and we seem to have started it around the same time anyway.

yeah as weak as i am in the inside, i know i won't buckle and contact her or anything. i've done this before and went a year plus (still going) without a single contact to my other ex.

and yeah maybe i should block her, but i feel it would be sort of immature, but obv that probs doesn't matter.

i think obv there's a part of me, that i can't really do anything to get rid of right now, that is hoping she comes back from her trip, to realize that i'm serious this time, for once, and refuses to lose me. when we were broken earlier this year, i started getting distant and she caved calling me after a couple weeks saying how much she misses me blah blah blah and we got back. but this is the 2nd time this is happening, so one phone call will not be doing it unfortunately. i think regardless of what she does i feel i need at least a few months, maybe more, of space away from her. could that change if she begs me and pleads? sure. but i also doubt she'll be diong that.

anyway keep in touch bud, we can do this. don't let me down, as i won't let u down. NO CONTACT.

The hope fades away as time goes by without contact. I don't hope my ex will come back anymore. More or less because she's told me so but still the hope has faded away. I think she will come back though. But I have to be strong and tell her no. I think I'll tell her that when I'm ready I will let he be a part of my life again but as nothing more than a friend. Cause we got along really well and she's in a dark spot in her life. So I'd like to be able to bring some happiness back to her life as a friend. If that makes sense? But not until I'm ready.

Got ya mate, NO CONTACT. I'll be checking up on ya. Stay strong

July 20, 2012

I wish my boyfriend (soon to be ex?) can be half as bothered as you guys. He just doesn't care. I text him (still in r/s but it's dying), he doesn't care. He takes 3 begging messages just to reply, sometimes up to 24 hours. He says he needs time. He ignores my pleas to meet, to reply me and to talk it out.

I don't even know what to do. My boyfriend is working in a job he hates and in a place he hates because I am studying here. I need 9 months to graduate so we can move (me leaving my whole life, family, friends here for him). He just needs to get through 9 months of work but he gets depressed easily and shuts me out.

1 week ago I even begged him to meet me so we can break up, and he can move on and go to another country, and when we met up he refused to do it. When we parted, he texted me saying he can't lose me and he needs me. Then halfway through the week, work f***s him up, he becomes depressed, and he shuts himself in and pushes me out again.

The entire week I tried not contacting. Every 2 days it gets harder and I succumb. I am determined not to do it this weekend because he said to give him time to "think about all these". I just don't know if I should hold on anymore. He's perfect in every way but this is just killing me.

July 23, 2012

still going strong...impressed that i haven't checked her or her friends facebooks yet, even though i've had strong urges. i seem to be gaining power on said urges with every passing day.

kind of weird/embarassing but the only thing so far that i need to stop doing that i've done a couple times, is thinking of her while i'm masterbating lol. i haven't gone in with that intention at any time, but a couple times, it just happened where i started thinking about her, and the ways she'd turn me on etc and i'd run with it/fantasize. might try to just take a break for a week from any 'self indulging' surely it doesn't help moving on lol.

other than that, a lot of ups and downs. last night i found myself crying on the way home from my cousins bday bbq. i went there alone, actually had a nice time, lot of laughs, a few drinks, some good convo's etc, and then as i left late at night, driving home by myself, it just all came at me. i guess partially b/c i remember last year when i went to the same bday bbq at my cousins house (that was the last time i went to that house) my ex had been texting me that night before she went to bed and i called her when i got home to wake her up for a talk. she'd always want me to wake her up after being out, so she could talk to me, no matter how tired/out of it she'd be, she'd stay on the phone with me sometimes in silence. just reminded me of how much she was in love with me/always wanted to talk to me. and now she is gone. ah well...i know it'll get better.

Edited July 23, 2012 by Jono85

July 24, 2012

Good on ya mate You feel like you're gaining power every day because you are healing more and more with each day that passes.

Haha >< I think lots of us are guilty of that at some point or another. Probably because there's actually physical memories to revisit as opposed to complete fantasy and imagination. But anywayyy haha.

The up's and downs will get few and far between in time mate just remember we have to feel all of it so we can let go. Good to hear you are going out and having fun for the most part without feeling bad until after the night is over. Memories suck hey, sometimes when I get indian food I get heaps upset cause my ex went on a holiday for 4 weeks to india but missed me so much she came home at the start of the 3rd week without telling me anything and I woke up one morning with her next to me in bed.... Hard to think I must have been so heartless that someone who once felt so strongly for me that she would cut a holiday short and fly 1000's of miles to sneak into bed with me could turn me away when I try to make things right..

Dont wanna thread jack, I've got a thread up about how I'm doing and whats hard for me atm. Called "Ex making things hard" check it out see what you think.

July 24, 2012

f'n facebook man, it really is moving on's worst enemy. Hate that f'n site. I really do

I've NEVER added a gf to my fb until this latest one that I'm having a difficult time with and I feel like a 13 year old girl checking her fb page for wall posts and status updates. Ugh. Hate that freaking site.

Had no choice but to add her this time. She asked me to add her to fb when we met at our new job together and that's how our romance started. Now 6 weeks later, she broke up with me out of the blue and quit her job when everything was going amazing.

Talk about being stable.

July 24, 2012

Facebook is good for: keeping in contact with old friends, and stalking people you like (when you are single)

Facebook is bad for: obsessing, and breakups.

Dude I have countless pictures of me and the ex on facebook. I have deleted most of 'em but have not had the drive to go one by one and delete them all. Its too tough, and they were really good memories. its tough

Whats even tougher, is my phone. I have many pictures taken sent to her in texts, pictures of us, etc. I have been totally avoiding my camera phone gallery. Havent even began to look at that. That will be a fun one.

July 24, 2012

worst thing about facebook is 'relationship status'. Two years ago me and my ex posted our relationship status for all to see...what a proud moment. But at the time I remember thinking 'so what do we do if we ever breakup?'

Even worse, neither of us has changed our relatonship status. Its like that last feeble link neither of us wants to cut (or neither of us wants to deal with our walls filling up with outpourings of banal sympathy of 800+ friends we haven't seen in 10 years (i have more than one ex who will love the schadenfreude...f&$k me...).

When I first started dating (and breaking up) nobody had to deal with this ****. Facebook is the worst thing ever for breakups...

July 24, 2012

Facebook is good for: keeping in contact with old friends, and stalking people you like (when you are single)

Facebook is bad for: obsessing, and breakups.

Dude I have countless pictures of me and the ex on facebook. I have deleted most of 'em but have not had the drive to go one by one and delete them all. Its too tough, and they were really good memories. its tough

Whats even tougher, is my phone. I have many pictures taken sent to her in texts, pictures of us, etc. I have been totally avoiding my camera phone gallery. Havent even began to look at that. That will be a fun one.

i've deleted EVERYTHING. it's the only way, for me anyway. everytime i see a picture of her, or of us, it will set me back slightly. b/c the end game is not having her a part of my life again, and to achieve that, i cannot realisticly fantasize/reflect on the goodtimes unless my mind involuntarily chooses to do so. i'm honestly afraid to look at her facebook until i'm over her. i'm still insanely attracted to her and it wouldn't be good. plus i KNOW facebook pictures or anything on facebook for that matter does NOT reflect ones life in the slightest. so i know if i see she looks incredibly happy on facebook, it doesn't necessarily mean that at all, but i know seeing that would still hurt me and make me curious.

July 24, 2012

speak of the devil...i caved today and checked her facebook. which didn't really give me anything b/c i can just see her profile pic, and it was with her and a girl at a beach, probs italy. but i also checked her friends where i can see everything. honestly, i thought they would have befriended a LOTTT more guys on this trip. most of it they've been staying with family, and there's only a couple pictures with some other guys, and they're not entirely intimidating. the trip honestly, looks rather really boring for a couple of young girls. but i had an idea it could be given they were staying with lots of family, and weren't necessarily in the big cities. i know, i shouldn't be thinking like this but can't help it.

i guess the reality though is that my ex didn't even respond to that last text. a part of me feels she was upset that i sent it b/c A. originally this trip was about space, even though it was her rambling on to me about her trip when we talked the one day, and i was hardly saying much, and B. she's coming home from her first time outside of canada (she's never even been on a plane before this trip), which is a huuuge first trip, a month to europe travelling to many different countries (6 or 7) and she gets back august 1st, and i wanted her to come to the cottage august 3rd...so in part i can understand that she thought she'd be tired and wanted to stay home that weekend. she's a homebody, majority of our relationship she lived an hour away from home and she was there every other weekend, and not b/c of her friends (she has very few) but b/c of her family. so a part of me thinks she was upset that i went all NC on her and told her not to bother me anymore when all she said was she didn't think going to my friends cottage the first weekend back was ideal.

NONETHELESS, i know i'm backpedalling here lol, but i'm still going to stay NC in terms of actually contacting her. she must pursue me and try to contact me a few times before i break it. and even then it won't be until she says she wants to talk about us and is so sorry for everything/realizes that she completely ****ed up. doubt that ever happens, but just saying thats the only way i break NC. and even then i might not take her back. i have a lot to work on myself, and feel IF she did want back, i'd still want space for a while so i can get my "swagger" back. can't go back with her anytime soon as i'd be so insecure again.

k i'll try to stay away from the FB again...sorry for breaking guys, at least i'm not even considering breaking actual no contact...and i was honest about it

July 24, 2012

k i'll try to stay away from the FB again...sorry for breaking guys, at least i'm not even considering breaking actual no contact...and i was honest about it

Dude, don't beat yourself up. You aren't the first to break NC and you won't be the last. You're doing good.

July 24, 2012

Iḿ in the same sort of situation:

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/337178-what-would-you-do-situation

I met a wonderful woman and because of my own stupidity p*ssed it away by not listening, anywayś, she broke it off and said she couldn´t take anymore which was fair enough but she said she was happy to be friends. This hurts like hell, she´s really attractive and won´t have problems finding someone else. I can help but text her during the day. I must admit today wasnt so bad, normally I initiate by saying morning, hope you get to work ok that sort of ****e but Iǘe stopped that. I only texted her today because she asked me something and responded out of courtesy. I need to do the NC stuff to be able to move on. I do have a suggestion though, about a year ago I read a book called ¨No more Mr Nice guy¨ does sound bad but the book is brilliant, I learnt from it and am contemplating reading it again.

August 3, 2012

Dude, don't beat yourself up. You aren't the first to break NC and you won't be the last. You're doing good.

appreciate the support as always chi

so i'm still in NC (15+ days now), minus checking her and her gf's FB again. i did it b/c unfortunately i still care whether she made it home ok, so i checked the last 2 days on her friends page and sure enough yesterday morning she updated that she was so happy to be home. so that's the last i'll check their facebooks, haven't checked since. but yesterday i was pretty bummed that she didn't break NC to tell me she got home or to talk to me. i mean she's sending quite a loud msg by not responding/actually leaving me alone after i sent that last text. i'm quite surprised actually. even though i didn't expect one on the trip, as i figured she wouldn't want to deal with all that while she was away, esp since she couldn't talk/text without being charged a lot, but figured she'd cave in her first week back, but we'll see.

either way i won't respond, or at least don't plan on it. with every day it seems to hit harder and harder that she really doesn't want me anymore. i wish i could just allow myself to believe that wholeheartedly but i can't. the last weekend we spent seemed to show so many positive signs, esp since she was so emotional when i left her, and was telling me how the feelings came flooding back until i walked out on her pissed off for things she did while we were broken up. however to me those things were very big, and not sure i could ever let them go, even if we were technically broken up and no sex was involved.

anyway, i know 100% i won't be breaking NC, as in contacting her. i've been through this before with a different ex, and i never reached back out to her. but now the challenge becomes to accept that it's over, for good. and it's hard for me to accept that at this point. i fantisize about her breaking NC and fighting for me, and me ignoring it all until finally telling her that it's just not going to work anymore after the things she's done and her going through all the pain i've gone through upon realizing she made a huge mistake. like a large part of me feels i'll never be able to let everything go and reconcile with her, that the trust is gone forever, but naturally i still want her to feed my ego and show me i meant as much as i thought i did to her. that's the crushing part. i keep asking "how"...how did she just give me up like that after everything we've been through and everything she's fed me/told me. girls are such con-artists! they make u believe that u are the man of their dreams and they're so in love with u, only to get tired of u at some point and can just dispose of u. ah well. i know she's young (23) and is showing a side of her i never saw (drinking much more and meeting new ppl/becoming closer to this wild party girlfriend) so clearly she wants to experiment/take advantage of all the guys that are into her. we had problems (arguments), and were long distance, and she just gave up for happier temporary times without having to travel to see her man and all the work it takes to keep LD rel alive. just gotta keep goin.

Edited August 3, 2012 by Jono85

August 13, 2012

26 days now..

i'm actually surprised to be honest she hasn't contacted me. reality seems to be sinking in quite quickly. she's been home all of august, almost 2 weeks, and hasn't contacted me.

i can't seem to shake checking her facebook periodically (she hasn't changed her FB profile pic since Europe, which is reeeally strange as she usually changes it every week or less). i guess wanting to check her FB tells me i still have hope and can't seem to let go entirely. i think a big part of me wants to see if she ever posts a pic up with another guy. as deflating as that'd be it'd at least confirm 100% that she's moved on. i guess a reasonable person could come to that conclusion right now, but it's tough. a part of me feels she was mad at me for doing that (getting emo and telling her not to msg me anymore, etc.) on her vacation when we agreed we would use that month for space, and now she's waiting for me to msg her (which i was accustomed to do in the past). i wish that were true, hence her reason for not contacting me, but realisticly i doubt it. last week marked the longest we've gone without talking since we've met (3 weeks).

last night had an awesome family party at my house; a surprise party for my mom's 60th. i legitimately had a blast, and didn't really think about her during it much at all. but as soon as everyone left, and it was just me and my immediate family, i started missing her soo much. being long distance, at times we used to be solo for events such as this and i'd always love calling her after and sharing all the goodtimes of the party with her. i had no one to call and tell them about it ah well.

it's still relatively early, and i hope by 3 months i'll be in much better shape, b/c right now i think about her ALL the time still. a lot of it is even self-inflicted and me analyzing things. but this is what i do and have always done, sigh. i know it'll get better. just want to get to and past my birthday which is in a bit less than a month. b/c i have quite the feeling she won't even msg me on my birthday and it'll be quite depressing. that will be the final nail in the closure coffin. so i'm kind of looking forward to it. she only celebrated one of my birthdays with me (we were together for a year) so she may have even forgotten the actual day..which would still be messed up.

anyway...done venting for now. just waiting for this **** to stop consuming me

August 13, 2012

how long were you with her mate? and its nice she sent a txt saying goodbye. i got nothing when my ex left to travel. it was me saying goodbye.

could you not have stayed in touch whilst she went or was away? wasnt she going for only a short amount of time? a month?

sounds like you dumped yourself mate.. and told her it was over :S i dont understand why you sent that txt.

Edited August 13, 2012 by Dblock10

August 14, 2012

how long were you with her mate? and its nice she sent a txt saying goodbye. i got nothing when my ex left to travel. it was me saying goodbye.

could you not have stayed in touch whilst she went or was away? wasnt she going for only a short amount of time? a month?

sounds like you dumped yourself mate.. and told her it was over :S i dont understand why you sent that txt.

in a way..

i sent that text b/c she said she was to spend that trip thinking about whether she wanted to try things with me again or not, and we'd talk when we got back. well i was dumb and asked her to come to my buddys cottage during her trip, for the weekend when she got back, and she gave me a lame "i'll be tired and want to stay home" excuse, and for me that kind of answered my questions. if she was missing me during her trip and wanted to work on things when she got back that would have been the perfect start imo. i dunno i was just getting bad vibes. and to be honest that was just the final straw. the stuff before her trip, like the sh*t i found out on her phone she was doing in the brief time we were broken up was what kind of put me off.

u could look at it like i dumped myself...but she knows how i feel about her. even in my last text i detailed those things. she hasn't even reached out and seems content leaving things like that. so clearly she's not interested. i've been fighting for her the whole time post-breakup...it's time she fights for me if she wants this. she's chosen not to. she's even chosen not to respond or bother with me, as i asked. doesn't sound like someone actually wanting to be with me.

we were together for a year, with a breakup in-between for a couple months.

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