Mary Oak Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 So, when you are your ex break up, and you want them back. If both have issues to resolve, do you try to be friends with them and regain their trust or do you just move on and hope life brings you back together? What do you think works best?
CopingGal Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 It depends on the issues. My ex was a troubled bastard but I tried to understand. I thought if we got back together, it would be great because he agreed to go into therapy. I thought I could have it all. But he lied about everything, even to the therapist. Here are things I learned: -Never see a couple's therapist if you don't like some of the strong traits your bf has -IF your bf keeps lying, keep lying, don't rely on the therapist to change him. -If your bf was a bad bf, don't be friends with him after the break up -If your instincts are SCREAMING not to get back with him....don't. 1
Author Mary Oak Posted July 18, 2012 Author Posted July 18, 2012 Well, I was the one with intimacy/anger issues and she took as much as she could stand (her words) before she left. I am in therapy now and am working on these issues. BUt, we I talk to her she says that she doesn't know if she can overcome this hurt. I do want her back and we work together so we talk everyday. Today is the first day we did not talk about US. I am trying to put myself in her shoes and thinking that she may feel pressure from me when I tell her all the things I am learning. But, on the other hand, I want her to know my progress. We were together almost 8 years.
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