88% say they’ve creeped an ex’s Facebook page, study finds

[HybridTheory]

Sun News : 88% say they’ve creeped an ex’s Facebook page, study finds

 

What are your thoughts on this?

[blue_jay_bird]

It took me a month to delete the account. Ever day he would post happy things, he seemed so happy. Anyone out there that hasn't done it. DO IT. You will feel great, and in control. Creeping makes things worse. Do you really want to know the women he's doing, and all the fun he's having without you. It's just to much pain.

[esteem-jam]

Now all dumpees click on Like +1 button on that page, and leave some comment via FB social plugin =) ;) winky wink =)

 

You can think of this- we are in a new era, these things have not happened to humans never before. Previously in history humans did not know what their ex was up to. If you wanted to stalk, you had to go outside, sit in the bushes at night and watch through the evening window with binoculars or something.

 

If you lived in another place, even less contact. Only way you could hear about them was seeing them in newspaper or television. Now its all different, just a few mouse clicks away. So previously humans could not do all this. We have not coping mechanisms with this, because social networks are new. Think of us like a turning point, new generation of humans =)

[Sugarkane]

It still makes no difference when they make zero effort into getting back together with us. And snooping on a ex's page is too painful.

[carhill]

What are your thoughts on this?

 

One of the 12%. Non-issue.

[KatZee]

Wow, that makes me feel really good about myself to know I'm part of the 12% who is able to cut the cord and never look back. I blocked/deleted everything about him three months ago with no desire to EVER change that.

 

"Lukacs found that 88% of respondents creeped their ex's page, and 80% looked up their ex's new partner or suspected new partner.

 

'The more surveillance there was, the more distress there was, but it's difficult to say why,' Lukacs said."

 

It's difficult to say why?! I think it's pretty self-explanatory! The creeper is obviously comparing him/herself to the new person, is a glutton for punishment trying to find things out even though there's no point in even doing so...

Edited July 18, 2012 by KatZee

[k100danny]

I would say that percentage is about right, I think it's natural at least once or twice. I think I looked at my ex's page maybe 3 times in the few weeks after we split and i KNOW she looked at mine. She finally deleted me after I asked (she waited a week though and the deletion came after the previous ex to her wrote somethings on my wall) I then hit the block button and haven't been tempted to unblock her since. I will eventually when i'm over her, I don't like hard feelings but until that time The block is staying firm and maybe even after im over her it will stay there, who knows.

[Kovalchoke]

Creep as in how often?

 

And no I haven't done it for like a month, and i'm feeling good about that!

[antelope82]

i probably would have checked her's every once in a while but she deleted her entire account in front of me before we went into NC.

[StarlaStardust]

I didn't delete my ex from facebook because it would open up a can of worms of his family and all their friends that we're mutual with getting deleted, or deleting me, and all the drama around that happening, which ultimately undermines "NC." So I just don't look at any of their pages and blocked them from my feed. It will probably be at least a year before I can look at their stuff.

 

I looked a month ago and it looked like he was moving on, which just made me feel sick.

 

So I don't look.

 

Even though they keep popping up in my little friends module at the top of the page, I don't look. Why DO they keep popping up? I never interact with them. Sigh.

[blue_jay_bird]

Yeah i de-friended my ex. But if i go to his page i can still see updates, which sucks. I don't know how to get rid of that. ... grrr.

[StarlaStardust]

Yeah i de-friended my ex. But if i go to his page i can still see updates, which sucks. I don't know how to get rid of that. ... grrr.

 

That was the other thing -- we both have mostly public profiles (him cuz he doesn't lock it down for whatever reason, and me because I got this profile as a public figure for my old job), so there's really no point to going through the motions of de-friending.