apologise for begging?

[Acrobaticdealer]

I know this sounds like a bit of a contradiction, but would it be wise to contact an ex girl to apologise for begging?

Or is that just begging again?

I'm not talking about pleading for forgiveness for the relationship, just a quick email saying something like..

 

I just wanted to apologise for how I've acted since we broke up.

I hope you understand that it was just very hard for me to lose you and my emotions clouded my judgment.

I'm sorry for not respecting your decision.

Take care.

 

???? Is this stupid? Will it just piss her off more?

Any help would be great as I don't wanna make things worse for myself.

 

Its been 2 weeks since I last contacted her and 7 weeks since the breakup.

[Trimmer]

Since you were begging, I'll assume you were the "dumpee", but correct me if I'm wrong.

 

I would recommend that you do not contact her in any way.

 

Is this stupid? Will it just piss her off more?

The first thing I'm going to ask is: what is your goal? If your goal has anything to do with affecting her feelings or thoughts about you, then I would say "don't do it."

 

Any help would be great as I don't wanna make things worse for myself.

So here's the general concept: anything you do to try to affect her is making things worse for yourself, because you are wasting time - looking backward, fighting the past - that you could be using to move forward into your future.

 

It's also a thinly veiled excuse to stay in contact with her - and it keeps you connected with her, even though you will tell yourself that it's just a final thing, or for "closure" or something like that. To quit something, you have to say "no" at every opportunity, not just most of them.

 

Look forward, move on, start applying your energy to yourself and your future. Don't contact her, and don't look for excuses to do so.

 

Note that the above advice assumes that it's over and you know - at least intellectually - that you eventually need to accept this and move on.

 

If you are still laboring under the conception (misconception, perhaps?) that you want to convince her to get back together, then "what to do" is out of my area of expertise, because I consider it a very low-probability endeavor.