miss_jaclynrae Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 I honestly don't mind this. I have no issues with "traditional gender roles," especially during the early stages. But it's when she doesn't return a voicemail or message in a timely manner that aggravates me...and I do one of these: ...followed by: . Yep. My tolerance is very low when it comes to communication. I know for a fact girls my age are surgically attatched to their phones. You don't answer my call or text within a 24 hour period, you better have a damn good reason. Even so, my attraction has already dwindled as a result. The worst for me is when we're texting back and forth, developing a nice rapport, responding to each other within 10 minute intervals, and then I ask a question and the convo stops dead. You both would hate a gal like me.
Author MrCastle Posted July 18, 2012 Author Posted July 18, 2012 You both would hate a gal like me. :mad:
KungFuJoe Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Girls (and I say girls, not women) will pull all sorts of tricks and it can have absolutely no bearing on whether they like you or not. In my experience, most of the time when women play hard to get...they don't just like you...they WANT you. But, to me, it doesn't matter if they like me or not. If they start playing ANY kind of games, they are automatically OUT. I used to play around with that stuff when I was younger thinking it was kind of fun, but you get tired quickly. Nothing I hate more than immature girls.
USMCHokie Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 You both would hate a gal like me. So is it because you intentionally do it, or because you have so much on your plate socially that you have a tough time juggling it all...?
Author MrCastle Posted July 18, 2012 Author Posted July 18, 2012 So is it because you intentionally do it, or because you have so much on your plate socially that you have a tough time juggling it all...? Come on man. "So much on your plate?". The president texts for ****'s sake.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 :mad: I guess I am just a lazy dater. I work a ton and have very little free time. I hate texting, and talking on the phone takes WAY too much effort. Unless I super really reallyyyyyyyy like the guy, I don't mind not talking for a day.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 So is it because you intentionally do it, or because you have so much on your plate socially that you have a tough time juggling it all...? I intentionally do to a point, I will reply eventually, especially if it is pertaining to another date, or a first one. I am good at that, it is the banter and chatting that I can slack off on. I am dating two guys right now. One I have only been on a few dates, and I like the guy, but we didn't say a word to eachother all day... and I am more than fine with that.
USMCHokie Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Come on man. "So much on your plate?". The president texts for ****'s sake. It was my way of tactfully asking if she multi-dated often...I remember her saying that she went on a lot of dates...so I assume they aren't necessarily all with the same guy(s). Naturally, a woman who multi-dates won't be able to respond in as timely a manner as one who just dates one person at a time, and I wouldn't expect her to. There may be stretches of days where there's no contact because she's busy with other dudes. She should just understand that she'll be expecting the same level of contact and enthusiasm/interest out of me.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 It was my way of tactfully asking if she multi-dated often...I remember her saying that she went on a lot of dates...so I assume they aren't necessarily all with the same guy(s). Naturally, a woman who multi-dates won't be able to respond in as timely a manner as one who just dates one person at a time, and I wouldn't expect her to. There may be stretches of days where there's no contact because she's busy with other dudes. She should just understand that she'll be expecting the same level of contact and enthusiasm/interest out of me. I do multi-date. However, that is not what keeps me from responding. Sure, if I am on a date I won't reply... I have a demanding job though as well, I can't text while driving, and most my time off is spent with other people like family and friends, which makes it difficult to have full conversations over text.
USMCHokie Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 ...it is the banter and chatting that I can slack off on. I personally think there's too much of this happy horsesh*t that goes on before the first date and even between early dates. Save it for when it's the real deal... For myself, calls and texts early on should just be arranging the next date. I'd rather get to know someone in person than over 160 character text messages...but people tend to be text-happy these days... 1
Author MrCastle Posted July 18, 2012 Author Posted July 18, 2012 It was my way of tactfully asking if she multi-dated often...I remember her saying that she went on a lot of dates...so I assume they aren't necessarily all with the same guy(s). Naturally, a woman who multi-dates won't be able to respond in as timely a manner as one who just dates one person at a time, and I wouldn't expect her to. There may be stretches of days where there's no contact because she's busy with other dudes. She should just understand that she'll be expecting the same level of contact and enthusiasm/interest out of me. Ahh, I see. Well, I can get pretty petty when it comes to this stuff. I have a set of rules that I use to equalize these situations. If we're going back and forth every few minutes and the convo just stops? No more contact for that day. Same deal if you take a certain amount of hours to reply to a simple question. Anything over 5 hours or so, even if you respond, you'll have to wait until the next day for me to text you back. I don't mess around.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 I personally think there's too much of this happy horsesh*t that goes on before the first date and even between early dates. Save it for when it's the real deal... For myself, calls and texts early on should just be arranging the next date. I'd rather get to know someone in person than over 160 character text messages...but people tend to be text-happy these days... EXACTLY. I would so rather save those conversations for the actual date.
Author MrCastle Posted July 18, 2012 Author Posted July 18, 2012 I personally think there's too much of this happy horsesh*t that goes on before the first date and even between early dates. Save it for when it's the real deal... For myself, calls and texts early on should just be arranging the next date. I'd rather get to know someone in person than over 160 character text messages...but people tend to be text-happy these days... The funniest part of all this is that I've taken lukewarm girls and made them heavily interested in me just from my text banter. My text game is flawless...when girls actually reply to it
USMCHokie Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 ...to have full conversations over text. Well, to clarify, I am not a big fan of text conversations, especially early on, as I mentioned in the previous post...and once you reach a certain point while texting, it's obvious she's not doing anything, so a quick 5 minute phone call to discuss whatever it is you have to discuss can accomplish what 2 hours of texting back and forth will do. I'd only expect a response back for a text where I actually asked a legitimate question...not "sup"...
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Ahh, I see. Well, I can get pretty petty when it comes to this stuff. I have a set of rules that I use to equalize these situations. If we're going back and forth every few minutes and the convo just stops? No more contact for that day. Same deal if you take a certain amount of hours to reply to a simple question. Anything over 5 hours or so, even if you respond, you'll have to wait until the next day for me to text you back. I don't mess around. That is fine. As I said, if I REALLY REALLY like the guy I will respond as soon as I can, or if he is really holding my interest through text. If he is just a potential, I am not going to rush to text him back. But as you can tell, I am not one to freak if I don't get a reply right away. I figure if we are going to work out we will, if he wants to see me again he will ask, or if I want to see him I will just tell him that.
USMCHokie Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 The funniest part of all this is that I've taken lukewarm girls and made them heavily interested in me just from my text banter. My text game is flawless...when girls actually reply to it Yea, for a lot of women, texting is an art and a "game" in itself...we have become so enamored with the 160-character message that many people have become socially inept...so you may have this fantastic text rapport with a girl, but the moment you meet her face-to-face, it's like talking to a brick wall. At that point, you're better off sitting at different tables at the coffee shop and texting to each other.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 The funniest part of all this is that I've taken lukewarm girls and made them heavily interested in me just from my text banter. My text game is flawless...when girls actually reply to it That is a good thing. I am just saying for me personally, I would rather get to see that banter in face to face conversations. If a guy gets upset at me for not texting him right away that sets the tone for the rest of the relationship for me, and I personally find it to be too much work. It automatically makes me back down. And USMC, I usually always respond back to lets get together texts within a reasonable time. My job is so time consuming and draining though, my time slots are limited. LOL
Author MrCastle Posted July 18, 2012 Author Posted July 18, 2012 That is a good thing. I am just saying for me personally, I would rather get to see that banter in face to face conversations. If a guy gets upset at me for not texting him right away that sets the tone for the rest of the relationship for me, and I personally find it to be too much work. It automatically makes me back down. Yeah. I won't lie, it's definitely a pet peeve for me if a girl is a bad texter. Possible deal breaker for me unless she's amazing in person. I just have this Seinfeld level of observation/overthinking. I picture in my head the girl reading a text from me, and then going about her business without responding. It really annoys me. That image of some ice queen reading the text, then going back to whatever she was doing without being a human being and taking 15 seconds to reply is burned into my brain.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Yeah. I won't lie, it's definitely a pet peeve for me if a girl is a bad texter. Possible deal breaker for me unless she's amazing in person. I just have this Seinfeld level of observation/overthinking. I picture in my head the girl reading a text from me, and then going about her business without responding. It really annoys me. That image of some ice queen reading the text, then going back to whatever she was doing without being a human being and taking 15 seconds to reply is burned into my brain. GET IT OUT OF YOUR HEAD!
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