Do I have a reason to question?

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My BF, who if you read my first post on this site is quite questionable, brought up something the other night that has been bothering me ever since. One, the way we started our “relationship” was not the best. We had known each other for a year and a half. He had been interested in me and attempted to hook up with me basically every time I ran into him that entire year and a half. It finally happened at the end of last December. We’ve been dating/together ever since. He finally told me last week that he was “talking” to another girl the night we went home together. Now in his and my defense I planned on that being a one night thing. Maybe another hook up or two after that but nothing more. Well, here we are almost 7 months later and now in a relationship. I’ve been 100% honest with him as far as the few weeks after we first slept together I was seeing someone else. I never had sex with the guy but other things happened. Secondly – he has a “friend” that is an ex-girlfriend of one of his best friends. This girl moved to another country with her boyfriend, he broke up with her, she came back here and has been hanging out with all of her ex-boyfriends friends ever since. Including my current BF. Now, I’ve had questions about my BF and this girl’s relationship for the past 6 months. He seems to care about her A LOT. I’ve brought the fact up to him on more than on occasion that I think he is interested in her. He has told me he isn’t, at all. She is just a friend. So, the same night he finally revealed to me that he was actually seeing/talking to another girl the night we hooked up he also told me that he and his BF’s ex had something going on “briefly” when she returned.

 

I don’t know what to make of this. I’m glad he told me…finally. But…I was ALWAYS honest with him and told him point blank that I was seeing another guy as well as him in the beginning. He never told me he was “talking” to another girl. I still don’t know who this other girl was and I’m not sure I want to know. And I am really bothered by the fact that it has taken him over 6 months to admit to the fact that he and his friend’s ex-girlfriend had something going on. Albeit however “briefly” and prior to us getting together. He has known for months that I have serious questions about the relationship he has with this girl. Why not tell me that before now? I haven’t really brought up my concerns about this to him because when he originally revealed both things we had been drinking and I’ve learned that isn’t a good time for me to bring up my issues. But do I have a right to be slightly bothered by this? Or should I not be concerned about things that happened prior to us being “together?”