mm1212 Posted July 8, 2004 Posted July 8, 2004 I have been seeing this guy for over a year know. He was going thru a divorce when I met him and know it is finalized. I care about him as a person and he is someone I would like to be in a relationship with but he doenst feel the same. He just wants to hang out as he calls it and do things together. I am fed up that this isnt going anyplace and that he is always calling me and wanting to hang out. If he doenst want a relationship and cant commit I dont know why he cant leave me alone. I dont want him to but I also want some kind of commitment. And I know i wont get it so I told him recently that I met someone else. I didnt but I was hoping to make him jealous but I doubt it worked. I just think its silly to play these games. I am not a child I am 24 years old and he is 30. How do I stay away from him and let him go even though it hurts? I know that telling him how I feel wont do anything even though he told me he wants to know what i am thinking. I will be just more hurt when I open my heart to him and he will reject it. He has before. He is extremely confusing and I am confused. Any advice would be great. thank you for reading this.
kirkyswife Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 UGH - This man just got his divorce he certainly deserves time to reflect, heal and adjust his life plan. As for you, this has nothing to do with you - it has to do with he's free - not tied down. My suggestion to you is decide if he's willing to wait for and if he is, back off and just hang out and do things. Now if this something that you simply can not handle then I suggest that you find someone else who will. It's not a good idea to pressure a man to doing anything, but most importantly marriage - it's the making for a short lived disaster. Kickback Cowboy!
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