ls32ssibm Posted July 18, 2012 Share Posted July 18, 2012 I'm turning 24 tomorrow. I've been single for probably 22-23 of those years. My only two serious ex-girlfriends both got other boyfriends pretty fast. My most recent (we broke up August 2011) got a new boyfriend a few weeks later and they have been together ever since. My immature, babyish side, has wondered why this is fair, when I'm alone so much. Anyway, I get lonely, but I'm honestly in pretty bad shape to date right now. I'm working on getting a sort of career off the ground (20s suck) and after going all out with my last girlfriend (flowers often, dressing to impressing) I just don't think I have it in me. Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted July 18, 2012 Share Posted July 18, 2012 Focus on your career. "Single at 24" is not the end of the world that you think it is. Get yourself back on track with the rest of your life, then get back into dating. And stop keeping tabs on your exes. It'll hold you back if you keep trying to compare your life to theirs. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted July 18, 2012 Share Posted July 18, 2012 I'm turning 24 tomorrow. I've been single for probably 22-23 of those years. Oh, puleeeze.... Considering most people don't even begin having relationships of any substantive nature until they are 18 or even 20, you are barely two to four years into "being single." And you state you have had girlfriends so you have not experienced what it is like to be wholly and entirely single with no prospect or experience of a relationship. Lastly, the whole last sentiment you stated about flowers and dressing shows how superficial you are when it comes to relationships. Relationships are about connecting with another human being; not flowers and dressing. It WILL get better; I can promise you that. But you have to stop getting mired in the concept that you are without right now - just concentrate on enjoying life for what it is and what you have. You are young and have a long way to go... Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted July 18, 2012 Share Posted July 18, 2012 Things always feel more dramatic in your 20's. It'll pass. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted July 18, 2012 Share Posted July 18, 2012 If you dont learn how to stop making the mistakes with women that dump you, then yes, you wasted your life, if your life is all about being in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted July 18, 2012 Share Posted July 18, 2012 I really hate the danger in thinking you're nothing without a relationship. I also think that a lot of people like jumping from relationship to relationship, as it's easier than being single. I also have to remind myself that just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean your actually happy. I feel sorry for who ever ends up with my exes- it won't last. Link to post Share on other sites
jakelongot Posted July 18, 2012 Share Posted July 18, 2012 Keep working on yourself and doing things that make you happy. Stay social and be visible. It is great that you are single at 24. A lot of personal and professional growth happens in your mid 20's. If you keep healthy and social you will attract or meet the right girl just by being present. Don't get down on yourself...trust me. Enjoy the single lifestyle while it lasts. I didn't have my first real LTR until I was 27 (and still going today). The only thing I regret is not enjoying my single life more when I was in my mid twenties worried about love and being alone. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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