Author AlexanderJames Posted July 18, 2012 Author Posted July 18, 2012 That's great that you've only had a brief moment where you felt a bit sad! There is something about hearing from you about how you are doing that makes me think I can get on with things as well. I struggle with the idea of the fact that the relationship failed and that as hard as I tried and as much effort as I put in to it, it just didn't work. It sure sounds like you're getting your life together though. The idea of working hard and getting that extra money must have some kind of appeal. Gives you the opportunity to get out of the city and plan what you really want to do for yourself. Is that something people have been saying to you? Lots of people have been saying that to me - how I can do whatever I want with my life. I think she even said it to me which was really hard to hear. Don't really have a clue what that is which is very daunting. Like standing on the precipice of life and realising you have only you to make the choice. Also - not sure if you hear this from people but friends and family say you get closure and can move on and meet people, but the people that say this are usually happy, often in relationships and I wonder if they would listen to their own advice if they were broken up with? Perhaps it's something people say when they don't have any other advice to give you? Thank's It's good to feel on top of things once again. Hopefully for a bit longer than the last time though haha. I started getting caught in the illusion that everything with us was perfect again. It's amazing how easily it seems to be able to get caught up in these thought. I wonder if it would change things, for someone struggling with a breakup, to put on a sign "We were not perfect, we had problems, thats why we ended, it's time to get far far away from it" and hang it in their bedroom so they read it every morning and night. Maybe it would help.. Bit late for me to test though. My family have been supportive about the seachange. My mother included which is suprising. Because she found it hard when I moved out of home (Literally 5 minutes drive from her house) and then when my little brother moved to UK to live. So it was good to hear her support my idea of moving away. My friends on the other hand were more upset about the thought of me leaving. They're worried if I leave that our whole social group would grow apart. And that last bit about going out and meeting new people and getting closure. You might not believe it or listen when you're down and out or heartbroken. But it's definitely good advice. Meeting new people, and expanding your social circle. Especially meeting new people of the opposite sex. Can be very exciting and rewarding. It is a sense of closure in the sense that we are showing ourselves it's not the end of the world. And no matter how small we think the city or town we live in is there really is plenty of fish in the sea.
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