slu22 Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 When a woman is attracted to a man, are there obvious signs of her attraction? Which signs are conscious flirting as opposed to unconscious reactions? I know this is a loaded question........
FryFish Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 unneeded touching(brushing arms from more than an intimate distance). Leaving her hand way out and alone where it could easily be grabbed(This happens to me often... My first thought when I see it is usually "that seems like an odd almost uncomfortable way to sit"). Glancing at your lips while you talk... or the more obvious, when you arent talking. Playing with her hair, and laughing at jokes that you KNOW she doesnt find amusing... For me though, it is usually the subtly touching me needlessly that clues me in. Or the less subtle version of grabbing my arm or poking my abs/chest followed by the word "damn"
GLDheart Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 If they (very confident girls) look at you with hungry eyes... ... or they (more shy ones) seem nervously intimidated ... or they (maybe stuck in a relationship) cover it up by being a little mad at you (like they are already mad that they can't have you) Those are three recent ones I can think of. Sometimes I get a chuckle out of it. 1
FryFish Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 ... or they (more shy ones) seem nervously intimidatedI got this one hardcore today... she wanted to talk and talk and walked/stood ridiculously close to me... but could barely look me in the eyes... Then got ALL kinds of goofy when we parted.... And she is a pretty confident young woman.
Stillgrowing Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Curious, FishFry, how does that make you feel about the girl when she gets nervous? Do you find yourself more or less attracted to her? Does it depend on if there was an attraction to start? sg
Shaun-Dro Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 Curious, FishFry, how does that make you feel about the girl when she gets nervous? Do you find yourself more or less attracted to her? Does it depend on if there was an attraction to start? sg There are women who do this who aren't flirting. Always remember to not take women at face value. You'll be better off.
Stillgrowing Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 I am a woman...but I don't take anyone at face value, men or women. I'm just curious. I recently found myself getting flustered around a guy I'm attracted to who was/is (?) attracted to me. It can't amount to anything bc we are both married, but I'm curious if my behavior had any imact on him. I'm not looking for any judgement here...I know I shouldn't be flustered around someone who isn't my dh, but I was and this guy has gotten nervous around me which I found kind of endearing. I'm just wondernig in general what a man's take on that is. sg
GLDheart Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 ... It can't amount to anything bc we are both married, ... I'm not looking for any judgement here...I know I shouldn't be flustered around someone who isn't my dh... No judgement needed. It would be pointless to assume no other person on earth will be attractive/attracted to our spouses. It's natural. Acting on it is what crosses lines.
FryFish Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Curious, FishFry, how does that make you feel about the girl when she gets nervous? Do you find yourself more or less attracted to her? Does it depend on if there was an attraction to start? It's cute and actually kinda flattering... Shaun-dro, Im certain she is flirting... Today she played personal space invaders with me...
Stillgrowing Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 (edited) Thx for the response. Sorry about the name goof. I actually asked this question when I first joined. My question was about males flirting and a guy that I percieve as flirting with me when I see him. He always manages to touch me either a handshake, touch on the arm, touch on the elbow, etc.... Sounds like we all do the same thing. I'll hug people that I am/am not attracted to, but I'll rarely give someone I'm not attracted to a subtle arm touch. I also realized through introspection and self-observation after writing my inital post that if someone I'm not attracted to touches me I basically recoil and will do a blocking move, like arms folded. If someone I'm attracted to touches me, say, on the arm I'll return the touch with a slight pinch. Hard to explain, but I'll use my thumb and bent pointer finger to touch their arm. I've been far more aware of this going on since I wrote my first post. Sounds like she is flirting with you. I am very confident and the last time I saw the person I was ridiculously not myself. I blushed, I lost my train of thought, I couldn't hold his eye contact. Just silly and not like me at all. I've been attracted to people before and this hasn't happened, I wonder if it's because it's such a strong physical attraction and not just a, "hey I think he's cute" type thing? sg Edited July 21, 2012 by Stillgrowing
threebyfate Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Uncertain what species female you're interested in but baboons in estrous display engorged genitalia.
GLDheart Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Uncertain what species female you're interested in but baboons in estrous display engorged genitalia. yeah. check for that.
carhill Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 OP, since you mentioned 'woman' specifically in your opening post, I'll presume you're speaking of the human species and will offer opinion on that. IMO, there are no reliable signs of global attraction in human females, not even the ones you're having sexual relations with, though having sex is a sign that they find you attractive to have sex with. If that's solely what you want, then the classic physical signs offered in traditional literature on mating, as well as here, still are reasonable. I recall one MW who would go into fits of sneezing when I was around; it annoyed the heck out of her. I tried unscented deodorants, no-scent detergent in laundering clothing, etc. to no avail. I finally decided she was just allergic to me, except that she always seemed to have a smile on her face otherwise and leaned in a bit too far while assisting the dentist. Never heard her sneezing with other patients. Very confusing
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