Brokendude Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 My ex breaks up with me and i keep coming back an worse i dont resent her for it, i feel so used, she did this to me twice this month...i hate myself for missing her still, feel so helpless bur desperately trying to help myself this is taking such a toll on me that i keep putting her on a stupid pedestal, i dont kno why because its honestly so easy and natural for me to get women, i just cant stop idealizing her, so frustrated, weak, and devastated
Sameold Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 Dude rip her off that pedestal, it sounds like she has treated you like crap. As dumpees we remember all the lovely good times but they prove they are capable of treating us so badly....we can't forget or let them get away with thinking it doesnt matter. If she's like your ex all she will be saying to other people is how she "did the right thing" etc. The guilt will come if you had a good relationship.
Author Brokendude Posted July 17, 2012 Author Posted July 17, 2012 Ty so much for the input same old, ur def right, just gotta rip her off the pedestal, guess im still holding on and in denial, just really hoping we all get out of these holes
theskyisblue Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 Brokendude totally understand how much it hurts to be dumped, then they take you back, then they don't want you again. It's so hard to concentrate on anything else. Have you got friends and hobbies that you have to keep yourself busy? It's so tough that even though realise you keep getting hurt you can't help but try and keep being with that person. Hope you're getting some space for yourself to try and be calm and work out what you want to do from here.
Author Brokendude Posted July 17, 2012 Author Posted July 17, 2012 Hey sky, ya its a sad reality, as for me im doin all the right things, working, school, working out, friends, sometimes its just impossible not to relapse from it and feel seerely heart broken, im proactively battling but im only human
theskyisblue Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 Hey brokendude, yeah it's so tough and friends tell you how you'll meet other people and you just think - great, but she's the person I want to be with. Lots of people say exercise helps so that's what I'm thinking. Get some music playing, and just work out. Believe me I totally understand what a struggle it can be. It's when it's quiet that stuff is so hard. Lots of talking to friends seems to help as well.
Author Brokendude Posted July 17, 2012 Author Posted July 17, 2012 Sky, u seem like such a genuine person and its sooo sad that ur goin thru this struggle, pls kno tgat u can always talk to me if things get really heavy, so sad but we all have each other
Jason02 Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 Brokendude i know how you feel like. i let her back in my life for two weeks thinking she wanted me back, but little by little i realize she didn't. even now i am mad at her but i still hold her on the pedistal. We need to be strong and use logic when it comes to our exes. But i know how hard it is. I take in all the good advice people give, and i understand it too to be the best course of action, but once you get emotions involved in the equation, all that logic goes out the window. One day i hope we will let logic win in this situation.
Author Brokendude Posted July 17, 2012 Author Posted July 17, 2012 Jason, u sound exactly like me, were both smart and kno every single angle and take on this but when it comes to emotions all hell breaks loose, this is so impossible but well get through it man, we are all together in this
edelveis Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 my friend i guess its still early and what you are going through is totally normal..keep keeping urself busy and trust me with time if you remain strong it definitely gets better.i am sure u are trying your best and soon you ll be much more better! 1
theskyisblue Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Brokendude that's really good of you to say. I think I was in shock a bit and you talk to friends to distract you then you realise they are living their life and it hurts a lot. Waking up in the morning and thinking about them makes you feel almost helpless, like how can you get on with your life without them in it? Making plans for everything you want to do together and you realise that won't happen. They want you and then don't and they want you and then don't and it just really hurts you.
Sugarkane Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 If she's like your ex all she will be saying to other people is how she "did the right thing" etc. The guilt will come if you had a good relationship. I really hate it when they do that. Trying to convince themselves no matter what.
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