Jaded82 Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 I don't know how to begin this thread, so I'll just spit it out. I was contacted by a mutual friend of my ex today who is at the end of her tether. She has informed me that during time my ex and I have been apart (nearly 3 months now) that she has been sleeping with three different guys, all unprotected. The first one she slept with the first time she met him, complete stranger from an online dating site. The other two are friends of hers. She has no intention of a relationship with any of them. These weren't single events either, she has been bed hopping between the three of them for some time now. Two of these guys she has brought into what used to be our home, while our son was there. I find her behaviour absolutely DISGUSTING. Has anyone had any experience with a woman like this? If so, how long did it last and more importantly, WHY would anyone act like this? I know she has low self-esteem but surely there's a limit. Our mutual friend is very worried about her either contracting an STD or getting pregnant, or both. I say she's made her bed so she can lay in it, but at the same time I would still like some feedback on this, for my own closure. Any help is much appreciated.
Chi townD Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 (edited) I say she's made her bed so she can lay in it, but at the same time I would still like some feedback on this, for my own closure. Any help is much appreciated. You answered your own question. If she wants to engage in dangerous practices that's not your problem anymore. What IS your problem is if she's exposing this dangerous lifestyle to your son. I would talk to a lawyer about getting custody. Seriously, if you can prove that she's engaging in sexual practice while your son is in the home. You need to look into this. Because if she's sitting your son in front of the TV while she takes a dude to the bedroom, that's child neglect. Edited July 17, 2012 by Chi townD
Samilia Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 I don't see how she's exposing her "lifestyle" to their son, unless the son is witnessing it, and I doubt he is. Sleeping with other men is not a crime, sleeping with other men in front of a minor would be. As she done so? Unless he talks to her, anything he heard is hearsay.
Author Jaded82 Posted July 17, 2012 Author Posted July 17, 2012 Whether the events happened or not is not the point of this thread, as I KNOW that they did. My son often wakes at night and walks into his mothers room. I am thinking along those lines Chi Town, I'll be seeking legal advice ASAP. Thanks for your reply.
Chi townD Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 I don't see how she's exposing her "lifestyle" to their son, unless the son is witnessing it, and I doubt he is. Sleeping with other men is not a crime, sleeping with other men in front of a minor would be. As she done so? Unless he talks to her, anything he heard is hearsay. I know sleeping with men isn't a crime, but just like in my example, if she's having the TV babysit him so she can have fun in the backroom with some dude IS! He needs to investigate what is going on. Because if she's irresponsible enough to be sleeping with three other men unprotected, what else is she being irresponsible about. She's definately not acting rationally.
flitzanu Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 or this "mutual friend" is lying and/or exaggerating the truth.
KathyM Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 I doubt you can do anything about this at all. Unless she is neglecting your son or putting him in harm's way, the court will not do anything about this. Sounds like she's trying to get herself pregnant to get more child support.
Chi townD Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 Look, All I'm saying is as a good parent. He should just look into it to ensure his son is in a safe environment. ANY PARENT WOULD. If she wants to be a disease ridden sl*t bag, that's her choice! All I'm saying is, as a good father, ensure that his son is safe. 1
g450 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 I feel for you Jaded. I know of two women that did that. One was a friend of mine (not anymore) and the other is my current wife. They did it for basically the same reasons. Low self esteem combind with the need for attention. Any attention from any guy would do. And both of them had a high sex drive (ask me how I know). Like you, I find that kind of behavior absolutely discusting. As for my wife, she outgrew that phase when she met me. There are also some women who use sex to snag a man if they are looking for a husband and a father for their kids. I believe that was part of it with my current wife. As is typical, the dirtbag she thought was Mr Right just wants a piece of ass and ditches her when he is done with her. All the "I love you"'s in the world dont mean jack $hit but some women never figure this out. As for my friend, she was fiercly independant and really just enjoyed variety I guess. And she is still going at it on Craiglist AFAIK. In her case she liked married men because they were safe. If they got to close or controlling she would threaten to tell their wives and that's how she would get rid of them when she got tired of them. She actually told me this. In both cases there were kids involved. Although they did not have sex in front of their kids, they did bring men home. To me that seemed low class. Although from what I was told, most of the sex was parking lot sex or on the side of the road (I know, classy right?) Thing is Jaded, you need to detach from that mental image. In my case my W's past really bothered me for a while. And maybe always will but all women have a history and none of them are saints. I try to look at things from another angle, like being a third person looking in from the outside. But honestly, you are going to feel that pain for a while. It will eventually drumb down to you simply not caring anymore some day. She will be just another nameless skank at the bar. And you will meet a woman with class.
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