ptp Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 If you don't want to get friend zoned, you should use my fool proof anti-friendzone method. When you are with her, make sure she is sitting down (for her safety), stand up facing her, pull it out and do the wiggle wiggle wiggle dance. At this point one of two things will happen: - she is going to be disgusted (more than likely she is a lesbian anyway) and you can move on or - she (99% of the time) will be drawn to your seductive movements and will succumb to your charms. In either case you win.
yongyong Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 I can't believe people are giving such stupid advices here. You met her at the meetup. you didn't even talked to her enough. you found her on facebook and added her (creepy). you asked her out and she gave you the clear answer. you don't even know her yet and you are talking about friend zone. What you are saying is like this. 'I talked to this girl for 15 min at the bar. she told me she was going to the restroom but she didn't come back. I found her in other room. Should I have told her 'hey listen, I want to take you out, you can be honest with me, yes or no?' If you keep asking her out, she won't even go to that meetup because of you.
thatone Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 I think this is why MEN have it harder than women when it comes to dating. Men have to think or judge for themselves on whether they're being too pushy or not to get a straight answer from a woman. It can be sometimes hard to judge, when she's being evasive or something....you don't want to come off pushy or even labeled as a stalker, but yet you don't want to miss out on something that could be great if you didn't ask for REAL clarification. accept the fact that you won't ever likely get straight answers. then it won't be so hard to judge. and while you're at it stop worrying about labels.
Author irc333 Posted July 17, 2012 Author Posted July 17, 2012 You met her at the meetup. you didn't even talked to her enough. Talked to her "enough"? You weren't there, so you have no way to gauge how long we were talking for at the BBQ party. I consider a considerable amount of rapport and face time, enough. Plus, she knows a lot of people that I know personally, so no big deal.
thatone Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 I can't believe people are giving such stupid advices here. You met her at the meetup. you didn't even talked to her enough. you found her on facebook and added her (creepy). not everyone lives their life vicariously through facebook. a lot of people simply don't care who reads their facebook page. this is a prime example of "don't believe what women say", because women plural doesn't mean anything in considering the woman singular standing in front of you. you asked her out and she gave you the clear answer. you don't even know her yet and you are talking about friend zone. What you are saying is like this. 'I talked to this girl for 15 min at the bar. she told me she was going to the restroom but she didn't come back. I found her in other room. Should I have told her 'hey listen, I want to take you out, you can be honest with me, yes or no?' If you keep asking her out, she won't even go to that meetup because of you. agree on this, though. second part of above post is stop getting attached to women you don't even know.
Author irc333 Posted July 17, 2012 Author Posted July 17, 2012 not everyone lives their life vicariously through facebook. a lot of people simply don't care who reads their facebook page. this is a prime example of "don't believe what women say", because women plural doesn't mean anything in considering the woman singular standing in front of you. agree on this, though. second part of above post is stop getting attached to women you don't even know. You met her at the meetup. you didn't even talked to her enough. you found her on facebook and added her (creepy) Of course I added her, but I asked first and she said Yes. Besides, you weren't there to define on what "enough" is...I spoke with her long enough to build up rapport. Plus, she knows a lot of the people that I know.
yongyong Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 Since she knows a lot of people you know, don't you think you should be more careful approaching this chick? anyways, you sound like you would do what you want to do. just ask her 'hey just tell me yes or no' Of course I added her, but I asked first and she said Yes. Besides, you weren't there to define on what "enough" is...I spoke with her long enough to build up rapport. Plus, she knows a lot of the people that I know.
thatone Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 Since she knows a lot of people you know, don't you think you should be more careful approaching this chick? anyways, you sound like you would do what you want to do. just ask her 'hey just tell me yes or no' you'll have better odds doing the opposite of what yongyong says, lol. that is pretty good advice no matter the situation honestly, take whatever advice any woman gives you...and promptly do the opposite of whatever they suggested. a) he should downplay any apprehension on her part by pointing out that they know the same people so are basically friends already. b) he should never prompt any woman for yes/no answers because that's an invitation to say no. you think all those women who have an "oops i slipped and his penis accidentally wound up inside of me, what do i do after a one night stand?" moment were asked by some random dude "do you want to have sex with me right now yes or no?" clearly not.... there is very little upside and a whole lot of downside to trying to get straight answers out of single women.
USMCHokie Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 Not at all, I just prefer to give me a straight up answer to he question. Sorry to be like an attorney, but hey...that's what I'd like to hear. I'm sure if we meet again at another Meetup, I'm sure we'll converse, but there might always be that "elephant in the room" of me asking her out, and being evasive about it. You did get a straight answer. But the ego seems to be getting in the way of accepting this...and 10 bucks says she's not going to notice any pink elephant...another 10 says that you're not even on her radar...
Author irc333 Posted July 17, 2012 Author Posted July 17, 2012 Well, the kind of women you'd never get a straight answer out of, would for poor communication in a relationship, which is pretty much the #1 or #2 reason people are divorcing (next to finances).
Kofybean Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 This thread inspired THIS thread. When you refer to how men should be aggressive, take control, etc. Some women just want attention. They also want a way to justify their behavior without accountability. For instance, in this situation, the end result would have the same outcome regardless if you were aggressive or not. The excuse would just have adjusted. You need to be a little faster in identifying them and bouncing before wasting your time.
thatone Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Well, the kind of women you'd never get a straight answer out of, would for poor communication in a relationship, which is pretty much the #1 or #2 reason people are divorcing (next to finances). but what you're missing is that there is no magic formula you can find on the internet that will better help you find a needle in a haystack. i don't disagree with you, but that doesn't change the fact that you can't do any of this by googling "how to date" or reading loveshack threads. so on the offchance you do find the needle in the haystack, you'll blow it because you don't know what you're doing.
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