Lovelost1992 Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 My boyfriend and I have been dating nearly 10 months. I'm 20 he's 23, my first everything. After he graduated and started working full time at a place he hated and he became super depressed (that was 4 months ago) and it took a tole on our relationship. He decided to move back home because there is work there and family, he is one state over and really not that far in comparison to other places. A plane ride is an hour and we had plans to see each other 2 weekends (4-5 days each) once a month. He moved away 3 weeks ago and it has been very difficult on both of us. However, ive been traveling abroad and had more distractions than he has because he's been at home waiting for work papers to come through etc. He has spent most of his time inside and hasn't seen me, his parents (on vacation), or any of his friends from where he used to live and I know he is at a very low point right now. This man has been head over heels in love with me an vice versa since the first date. Everyone could see it. We talked about a future together many, many times. Anyway, he just told me something very upsetting and I don't know how to handle it. I have no close friends or family here so my support is all via email or phone and it's been very very difficult for me to stay positive. The other night he went on Craigslist and started talking to a girl and then it lead to flirting sexually and sending naked pictures. Hes apologized profusely and said he was just sick of watching porn and was very lonely and has no self esteem. I should probably mention that this happened a few months ago when we had another lull in our relationship and I was being distant because I was afraid of falling. Only that time it was just harmless flirtation and more from the girl, still it was not something I wanted to hear about and I was very upset but we talked it out and everything has been great until now. I know that you dont know me, and have no obligation to write me, but I am at a loss and have no idea what to do. At the moment we are not together, I broke up with him when I found out. Of course all my girlfriends are telling me to kick him to the curb, he wouldn't do that if he loved me blah blah blah. If you've been in this situation or if I could get the perspective from a guy I would very much appreciate it.
neverbackdown Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 If you think he'll do it again, don't go back with him. If you think he made a mistake, and that he won't do it again. Think. You love him. He loves you. Take him back on your terms
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