Jimbo143 Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 I was talking with one of my buddies tonight and he was pretty mixed up about life and purpose. He just broke up with his GF and seemed crushed about life. She broke his heart. It made me think about a lot of things in my life and what is important. Well, being the good freind that I am I consoled and listented to him. In the end I realized he was in need of some staunch advice. So I gave it to him straight and didn't hold back. I gave him advice about life, his future, and women from what I have been able to gather in my 26 years and what my own father has told me over the years. Lately I have realized that many men are without purpose because they fail to realize and accept their "calling" due to fear. I know sometimes it may seem life is dictated by what others think and societal pressures, but as men we must be willing to take risk "The biggest risk you can take is to not risk at all". Our only fight against this is to be the "Man" we are called to be. Well what is that calling? Follow your passions and apply your strenghts. Make decisive decisions and give it everything you have. Dont look back and don't doubt yourself. So tonight I devised a list. Here is the TOP TEN THINGS I think every man could benefit knowing. This list is not the end all be all but I strongly feel that some guys just need to hear these things and I have to remember to follow this list at times also. 1. Don't center your life around what you think women want you to do, or your parents, or friends, or boss, or religion, or government, or your selfish inner child. None of it matters. Instead, center your life around principles such as integrity, fairness, justice, morality etc. Everyone who has a conscience knows these principles. Make goals for yourself and pursue those goals with these principles in mind and forget the rest. 2. Patience is the most imoprtant virtue you can have. All things will come to you if you are willing to work and be patient for them. 3. Detach yourself emotionally from the outcome of what you pursue. Celebrating or sulking with every turn of events will distract you from reaching your goal. 4. Live within your means. Don't buy things you don't NEED, direct the cash you would use for those things to savings. Don't spend money you don't have (credit). 5. Don't be afraid to fail. No great thing has ever been achieved without first enduring great failures. 6. Be sure you are completely independent before getting in a relationship or else you'll end up being co-dependent. 7. Before getting serious, ask yourself this (even if you don't want kids): "Is this the kind of woman I would want raising my children?" If the honest answer is 'No', drop her. Also, when it comes to women, friends, anyone.....ALWAYS BE WILLING TO WALK AWAY. 8. Freedom is more valuable than love and money put together. If you're living with a woman who controls you, get rid of her. If you live with parents who control you, move out. The financial cost, heartbreak, and guilt trips is NOTHING compared to your freedom. 9. Eat healthy and Workout 10.LASTLY.. TRUE SUCCESS IS GIVING BACK TO THOSE LESS FORTUNATE. I cannot stress this enough. As men it is our duty to give back to others. So here they are. I printed this out for myself and put in on my wall in my room to be a reminder everyday. If anyone wants to add or challenge these I would be happy to discuss.. All comments are welcome. 3
Radu Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 I ws expecting some kind of PUA bull****, but most of this stuff is common sense and is good for both men and women.
El Brujo Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 Unfortunately, none of it has worked for me. NEXT...
Forever Learning Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 I was talking with one of my buddies tonight and he was pretty mixed up about life and purpose. He just broke up with his GF and seemed crushed about life. She broke his heart. It made me think about a lot of things in my life and what is important. Well, being the good freind that I am I consoled and listented to him. In the end I realized he was in need of some staunch advice. So I gave it to him straight and didn't hold back. I gave him advice about life, his future, and women from what I have been able to gather in my 26 years and what my own father has told me over the years. Lately I have realized that many men are without purpose because they fail to realize and accept their "calling" due to fear. I know sometimes it may seem life is dictated by what others think and societal pressures, but as men we must be willing to take risk "The biggest risk you can take is to not risk at all". Our only fight against this is to be the "Man" we are called to be. Well what is that calling? Follow your passions and apply your strenghts. Make decisive decisions and give it everything you have. Dont look back and don't doubt yourself. So tonight I devised a list. Here is the TOP TEN THINGS I think every man could benefit knowing. This list is not the end all be all but I strongly feel that some guys just need to hear these things and I have to remember to follow this list at times also. 1. Don't center your life around what you think women want you to do, or your parents, or friends, or boss, or religion, or government, or your selfish inner child. None of it matters. Instead, center your life around principles such as integrity, fairness, justice, morality etc. Everyone who has a conscience knows these principles. Make goals for yourself and pursue those goals with these principles in mind and forget the rest. 2. Patience is the most imoprtant virtue you can have. All things will come to you if you are willing to work and be patient for them. 3. Detach yourself emotionally from the outcome of what you pursue. Celebrating or sulking with every turn of events will distract you from reaching your goal. 4. Live within your means. Don't buy things you don't NEED, direct the cash you would use for those things to savings. Don't spend money you don't have (credit). 5. Don't be afraid to fail. No great thing has ever been achieved without first enduring great failures. 6. Be sure you are completely independent before getting in a relationship or else you'll end up being co-dependent. 7. Before getting serious, ask yourself this (even if you don't want kids): "Is this the kind of woman I would want raising my children?" If the honest answer is 'No', drop her. Also, when it comes to women, friends, anyone.....ALWAYS BE WILLING TO WALK AWAY. 8. Freedom is more valuable than love and money put together. If you're living with a woman who controls you, get rid of her. If you live with parents who control you, move out. The financial cost, heartbreak, and guilt trips is NOTHING compared to your freedom. 9. Eat healthy and Workout 10.LASTLY.. TRUE SUCCESS IS GIVING BACK TO THOSE LESS FORTUNATE. I cannot stress this enough. As men it is our duty to give back to others. So here they are. I printed this out for myself and put in on my wall in my room to be a reminder everyday. If anyone wants to add or challenge these I would be happy to discuss.. All comments are welcome. I want to thank you so much for all the time and thoughtful effort you put into this list. I am extremely impressed!! Well done!! I plan to print out this list as well. I know you wrote it from your heart, and I think you did an absolutely phenomenal job. LOVE IT!!
MaxNoob Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 3. Detach yourself emotionally from the outcome of what you pursue. Celebrating or sulking with every turn of events will distract you from reaching your goal. And take all the fun out of it? Steve Jobs said the best way to succeed is to find something you enjoy doing, otherwise you won't have the motivation to keep trying.
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