ringetteplayer Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 Hi after 14 years of being in an oil rig marriage I was sent an email that my husband was leaving me and that he purchased a 400 000 home in another province. We have 3 children and now live in seperate provinces., he moved to Alberta and left us in Ontario. He sometimes pays the mortgage he makes $3500 a week but is too broke apparently to come to see his children, I went to alberta (via a friend) emailed him about being there he agreed to see the children for a week, went well although they had to be with him and his new love and her kids, I waited at a coffee shop for an hour as planned to pick up the kids the cops called me informed me I would be picking them up at the cop shop instead. I was petrified they said I was harrassing him so not true, he wishes haha. He texted me that he was keeping the kids in Alberta he was just flexing his muscles but it scared me and scares me, anyways all fine and good i left with the children. I could not believe he would do this to them, anyways the kids and I left i've never spoke to him since we are back in Ontario now he's called once and emailed 2xs the RCMP called me again tonight saying that I wont let him contact the kids, not true, anyways I since found out he took a lien on the matrimonial home and it has been released. How is it that he gets away with this I have nothing he has everything. I am not working applying faithfully for work however I have been a stay at home mom for 12 years. I am scared that he will get custody as he will leave me broke. I have a lawyer but I am waiting for her to tell me what to do. Anyone have any suggestions, as to how to proceed a little faster? Thank you.
so_difficult Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 He's trying to intimidate you and scare you into giving him whatever he wants, but believe me you have lots of rights. He won't get custody and you won't be broke. IMO the courts won't remove kids from their home and send them off across the country unless you are abusive to them. You get half of whatever you two own, and you have a far better chance of getting full custody of the kids. Make sure you keep record of every single contact you have with him (or he has with you).
bentnotbroken Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 Have you consulted an attorney in your area? You need to know what your rights and his responsibilities are. This is a serious situation that you need professional help with.
Author ringetteplayer Posted July 18, 2012 Author Posted July 18, 2012 Hi yes i do believe he is trying to intimidate me as he has done that our whole marriage, I feel like such a fool now looking back, however its my turn now to be incontrol of me and our children. He just phoned me today screaming at me how I am not looking very good in front of his lawyer by not letting him talk to the children. I can't handle his abusiveness anymore and his bullyness how does he get to call me whenever and say whatever however I cannot contact him. It's too bad as I would love for him to have a loving relationship with his kids he is so hung up on hurting me that he doesn't realize all the pain he is causing himself and his children. As far as an attorney goes, yes I do have one and have an appointment on monday. thanks for your responses greatly appreciate you taking the time to reply to me
bentnotbroken Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 You need to record his conversations if you can. Document all contact(time, date and length of conversation as well as subject matter), no matter what he says only talk about the well being of the children and the finances. Do not lead him into any confrontations but always remain respectful and calm. I know it is hard but to protect yourself and your children...you can do this.
Author ringetteplayer Posted July 18, 2012 Author Posted July 18, 2012 well i know i am being told to record everything but for what? is everything really going to be displayed like that in court? for what purpose? I was in the past horribly mean not calling him names just mad that he left me and how did it and how he spends his money on his lady etc., I have not texted or called him since the police called me and such. Any other suggestions and advice would be appreciated thanks.,
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