LovelyLaura Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 (edited) This is my first week apart from my man. He is my coworker, and i know him for about 1 year. Nothing romantic happen, because i never met him personally. He is working in branch office in another city, while my position here is in the headquarter. 2 months ago, i had to visit the branch office to do some audit. That's when i got to know him personally. I was new to the city, and he was so good to me, showed me around, took care of my needs, and our relationship slowly become more and more intimate. He is much older than me, im in my middle 20s and he is in his 30s. Being that much older, he is very attentive, the most caring person that i ever met. And from the beginning, he already stated that he is looking for a girl to built a serious long-term relationship. Not just some random chick to have fun. He wants to get married and have a family. Suprisingly the idea doesnt scare me. 2 months there is the most wonderful time in my life. But then i have to go back to my headquarter, 1 hour flight from the branch office. Not that far, i know, but still we couldnt see each other easily. This man is a very commited person. He already put a deadline to this LDR. It will be around 1, max 2 years before we get married and move in together. And im wholeheartedly agree with this. We already set ground rules to our LDR. Our main communication will be text, email, and telephone call. Skype is out of the table, because internet quality in his town is very poor.We will visit each other once every 2 weeks. So i will visit him 2 weeks from now, and then he will come to my town 2 weeks after my visit. This is my first LDR, and i dont know what to do, what to expect from this. I have several questions for all the master here My man is a little introvert. He is a quite type. While me, basically im a big 'ol extrovert.. I tend to enjoy being an armchair philosopher about all sorts of subjects, and love moving from topic to topic. We never have a problem about this while we were together. I could easily pull the topic, and provoke him to speak more. We laugh together, and we always enjoy each other company. But now, with the long distance between us, and the main form of communication is through text and email, how could i get him to express his feeling?Being an extrovert, I talk a lot about what happened during my day, and i love to maintain daily contact, back and forth text with him, but i dont know how to do it. I mean i love to do that, but i know he is busy with his work. I just want to keep the text flowing, and not stuck in just good morning and then silent, and then continue when we get home. I want the text to flow, he can reply when he has time, and so do i. Do i have to say this thing to him? Im afraid that i will look childish if i request this. Now, we just text when we have our break or lunch time. If its up to me, i will text him nonstop i guess, hahahaha. But i know its not a good move. So i kind of hold my self. I dont want to be seen as a childish, clingy, little aggressive girl. Any suggestion regarding this maybe? Edited July 17, 2012 by LovelyLaura
justwhoiam Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 So, how is it going? Are you getting along well?
sofedupwiththis Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 This is my first week apart from my man. He is my coworker, and i know him for about 1 year. Nothing romantic happen, because i never met him personally. He is working in branch office in another city, while my position here is in the headquarter. 2 months ago, i had to visit the branch office to do some audit. That's when i got to know him personally. I was new to the city, and he was so good to me, showed me around, took care of my needs, and our relationship slowly become more and more intimate. He is much older than me, im in my middle 20s and he is in his 30s. Being that much older, he is very attentive, the most caring person that i ever met. And from the beginning, he already stated that he is looking for a girl to built a serious long-term relationship. Not just some random chick to have fun. He wants to get married and have a family. Suprisingly the idea doesnt scare me. 2 months there is the most wonderful time in my life. But then i have to go back to my headquarter, 1 hour flight from the branch office. Not that far, i know, but still we couldnt see each other easily. This man is a very commited person. He already put a deadline to this LDR. It will be around 1, max 2 years before we get married and move in together. And im wholeheartedly agree with this. We already set ground rules to our LDR. Our main communication will be text, email, and telephone call. Skype is out of the table, because internet quality in his town is very poor.We will visit each other once every 2 weeks. So i will visit him 2 weeks from now, and then he will come to my town 2 weeks after my visit. This is my first LDR, and i dont know what to do, what to expect from this. I have several questions for all the master here My man is a little introvert. He is a quite type. While me, basically im a big 'ol extrovert.. I tend to enjoy being an armchair philosopher about all sorts of subjects, and love moving from topic to topic. We never have a problem about this while we were together. I could easily pull the topic, and provoke him to speak more. We laugh together, and we always enjoy each other company. But now, with the long distance between us, and the main form of communication is through text and email, how could i get him to express his feeling?Being an extrovert, I talk a lot about what happened during my day, and i love to maintain daily contact, back and forth text with him, but i dont know how to do it. I mean i love to do that, but i know he is busy with his work. I just want to keep the text flowing, and not stuck in just good morning and then silent, and then continue when we get home. I want the text to flow, he can reply when he has time, and so do i. Do i have to say this thing to him? Im afraid that i will look childish if i request this. Now, we just text when we have our break or lunch time. If its up to me, i will text him nonstop i guess, hahahaha. But i know its not a good move. So i kind of hold my self. I dont want to be seen as a childish, clingy, little aggressive girl. Any suggestion regarding this maybe? if you want him to express his feelings about whatever, ask him! "how do you feel about..." XYZ. i am sure he will answer your questions. and if you want the conversations to flow throughout the day in ya'lls spare time, text him/call him/email him when you have free time. he will more than likely text/call/email you when he has time. you don't necessarily have to tell him that you want him to talk throughout the day, just keep doing whatever you are doing. and maybe after a while if he just isnt getting the picture, tell him but in a nice way i guess... "hey, i'd really like to talk a little more than we do now. let me know when you have some time and we can talk " being in a relationship with a guy in the military (who is fairly introverted himself while i am extroverted), i have just flat out told him "HEY! lets talk now " and he always made it happen.
pettie Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 This post seems strangely familiar.... I think I've read this before around here.
TMichaels Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 This post seems strangely familiar.... I think I've read this before around here. Probably because it's an old thread (originally posted in July) and resurrected for some reason, now. Best, TMichaels
pettie Posted September 11, 2012 Posted September 11, 2012 Probably because it's an old thread (originally posted in July) and resurrected for some reason, now. Best, TMichaels Gah! I didn't notice the original date! Thanks.
TMichaels Posted September 12, 2012 Posted September 12, 2012 Gah! I didn't notice the original date! Thanks. No worries. All the best, TMichaels
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