Chips24 Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 Hi All, I'm brand spanking new... I'm confused on whether my ex dumped me due to G.I.Gs. Reading through Homebrew and Smokey threads he definitely shows many traits however others just don't match up. We were dating for a year (friends a couple of years before that) I am 26 and he is 28. Life/love was good, told me that he'd love to spend forever with me, never met anyone like me.. even his friends & family could see it. We are/were very compatible The break up happened all within two week. His brother brought a club, every weekend for the past 2 months was now spend hanging out with an under age crowd- hot 21 year old girls. Drugs and drinking also crept into the mix. The breakup talk went like this "I've nearly cheated on you a couple of times, I think it is a case of the grass is greener. I still really care for you and I've loved what we've had, I've never met anyone like you. I just don't want to hurt you, I'm not sure if i want to spend the rest of my life with you." I explained that I never expected him to know that- we had only been dating a year. He then tried to "upgrade" the breakup to just a break!! I said no thanks. I was pretty proud I didn't cry. Another thing he said was that "He knows that he needs to start settling down, stay away from his brothers club and that he surely wont be "toweling" up girls every weekend" This confused me, i think he was just saying it for my benefit? Looking back i can see he has the grass is greener mentality across his whole life, always looking at what others have and wishing it was him. Wishes for a better job (when he has a fantastic one) better upbringing etc.. Why I am confused: - He is 28!! - I'm not sure he ever really missed out on the "college life style" He was single for 4 years before he and I got together. - He had a 3 year relationship in his early 20s (as did I) but has moved on (as I have). - we were only dating a year. Maybe we just came to the end of the honeymoon stage. - He still hangs with most of his old friends - It seems like he is a little insecure & depressed I guess I'd just like to hear an unbiased point of view- all my friends and family say that 100% he'll come crawling back. At this point, if he does, I'm not sure. It'll be a tough life worrying that he'll fall out of love every 6months. Do you think it is possible he'll never snap out of it and be chasing rainbows for the rest of his life? Regardless of what he is suffering from, whether it be emotional immaturity, GIGS, or that he simply doesn't want to be with me, I've start NC- so I'll see how it rolls!
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