Should I act on this?

[tenspoons]

There is a girl I have been seeing recently for about a month. We have a lot of fun together on our dates and I asked her out on a serious date recently which is on Wednesday, she accepted delightfully.

 

Now I am getting horrible feelings and vibes all of the sudden, like I want to attack and defend my territory, because my girl went out this past weekend with some girlfriends and one dude. They were at a bar and her girlfriends posted pictures on facebook of my girl and the dude. She was always just sitting there with a drunk smile on her face while he had his arms around her almost pinning her to the bar and a stupid drunk look on his face. they posted about 9 pictures and all the pictures were of them 2 doing things together(him leaning in, his arm around her, them smiling at the camera, etc.). there was no signs of kissing, flirting, or holding hands in the pictures, but it also looked more than friendly. Now just today he changed his profile picture to him and my girl at the bar. It makes me pissed, disappointed, and it puts me in competition mode. She just met him about two weeks ago when he was introduced through my girl's friends at a different bar night like the one I mentioned. they posted similar pictures the first time as well. All of the pictures that were taken those nights are only of them two, none of the other 1-3 girls that were there were ever photographed with this guy. he was always only with my girl. The conversations on Facebook that follow the pictures seems like it's just the 3 of them (my girl, the guy, and my girl's friend) being buddies. just inside jokes, and making fun of each other for being drunk and the things they did (not a teasing flirty way, very friendly). nothing sketchy is said, but my girl's friend keeps talking like she want's the 2 of them to go out. like it's hard to explain, but she sounds like she approves of something that goes on. idk what to think of it.

 

Am I right to feel this way, or am I over reacting to something that could just be friendly and alcohol influence? To me it looks like my girl is being innocent, but it definitely looks like this guy is gunning for my woman, which makes me disappointed in her for not pushing him away, or even telling me about him. It also makes me feel like she doesn't want me as much as I thought she did.

she has not even mentioned him once to me, and I have not asked her about him. I am hesitant to. I only know what the damn social networking site reveals, and I am not happy about it...

 

I have been out with her about 5-6 times and she has never once posted a picture of us together. But yet she takes pictures with some dude she just met and lets him go all over her, and use the pics as his profile picture.

 

I can see it as one of two ways:

1. the dude definitely need to back off.

2. they are good friends that get drunk together. meaning the physical stuff is booze influence (we all get loose, you know, I get it and idc) and the Facebook profile pic of them two he used was also a friendly gesture. I know people that do that, idk why though.

or 3. the dude definitely needs to back the **** off.

 

This is a bunch of facebook induced hoo haaa, which i don't like to take seriously in the first place, but I need some insight on the situation from what I have told. Please give me some real insight. none of that "just next her" crap. honestly. I like this girl and I want to know if I should consult her, or if it's just my imagination getting the better of me.

 

thanks

[Ami1uwant]

Did she take this picture or did one of her GFs post this picture of her and tag her?

 

Do these GFs know about you?

[tenspoons]

Did she take this picture or did one of her GFs post this picture of her and tag her?

 

Do these GFs know about you?

 

one of her GFs took them and tagged her. I have no idea if they know about me, but I have been mentioned on her Facebook only once when she went out with me for the first time. it was just her showing off her dress and who she was going with. I can only imagine that she talks about me, but I can't know for sure. I have never met any of her friends yet

[Ninjainpajamas]

Look, I'm just going to give it to you straight..how you react/feel about it is up to you..

 

1) First off, you don't "see" a girl for a month then finally ask her on a serious date, what are you waiting for an emergency flare?

 

Horrible progress on your part to pursue a romantic relationship, you need to get on it and make your intentions clear If you are interested in someone or you're going to get outclassed by someone who isn't afraid and more aggressive.

 

2) Is this guy gay? make sure this isn't a bestie or whatever, you might not even have anything to worry about with this guy intervening romantically.

 

However If he's not gay he's definitely gunning for your girl.

 

3) If another mans gunning for your girl (which she is not) and she's this easy-going with him It's because he makes her feel more comfortable with herself and knows how to have fun with her...not just play the patty cake which seems to me like you may have been doing.

 

What have you done to give her any excitement or peak her interest? or you just sitting on your hands this whole time?

 

4) You've put yourself in this position by not making a move/progress sooner...you think she's really going to wait around for you? A new cute guy pops into the picture and there she goes like a puppy chasing after a new toy because they're done playing with the other one...women don't want to wait around till you're comfortable or play games, they want to have fun, want someone who seems interested and It feels right in the moment, they just go with the flow...they're not like men who over-think things...unless she knows where she stands and certain things are clear and since you aren't official in any way then you're just an option at this point so you can't really intervene with this guy unless you're smart about it.

 

IMO If you want this guy to back off then put in the effort and take chances with this girl, stop pussy-footing around just waiting for the right moment or If you really like her that much or whatever the excuse is...you better take it up a notch and peak her romantic interest or the best man will win.

 

If you're not into her just let her be, because it seems your biggest problem is this new guy in the picture...it doesn't matter though, you think you're going to be able to "control" a woman and in someone "claim" her for your own? go ahead and be one of those douchebags that are so insecure they have to lock their women in the house because they're worried so other man will outclass them in the world...but instead I would suggest not being one of those guys and concentrate on the who really matters which is her If that's where your true intentions and emotions are at.