QUESTIONS Posted July 8, 2004 Share Posted July 8, 2004 MOVE ON.... thats what I am trying to do.. if they come back then I'll deal with it.. but until that time.. WHY WORRY ABOUT SOMETHING THAT HAS HAPPENED.. that maybe won't happen.. or THAT DEFINITELY WILL NOT HAPPEN... Okay.. I am saying this more for myself.. but if it helps anyone else.. feel free to use my advice. I know... easier said than done... my financee broke it off with me after two years of being together.. he said that he was just too busy to give me what I needed???? Idiot.. if you ask me.. Maybe one day he will be sorry.. maybe not.. maybe may be.. we can't base our lives on maybes..... live in today... RIGHT NOW THE MAN IS NOT GOING TO CALL.. and I have to deal with it... I CAN'T MAKE HIM CALL , I CAN'T MAKE HIM DO ANYTHING... of course, I would like to live in a fantasy .. that SUDDENDLY he will wake up and smell the coffee ... but MOST LIKELY PROBABLY NOT... and even if he did come back... WHAT IS GOING TO CHANGE?? LOOK inside yourself... list your good qualities and stop thinking about what they feel and what they are going through... Everyone in his family thought he was a jerk for letting me go... EVERYONE.. so ... leads me to believe.. and I know... that while I was not the perfect girlfriend.. I TRIED VERY HARD... and tried to patch things up.. So.. I'm smart, I'm pretty, I have a great paying job, I have a house, I have a son who loves me, I have friends who REALLY REALLY REALLY CARE!!! I don't have to drink and drug and forget him, I don't have to slit my wrists... I don't have to walk around with a puss on my face... I don't have to look horrible... I feel a sense of loss, a grieving of something or someone missing in my life... but I get to FEEL those feelings.. he on the other hand is just running away from those feeling.. and yes I know its the simplier, softer way.. but not in the long run.. HE WILL ALWAYS HAVE A RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS... or maybe just maybe I wasn't the girl for him... but I do know one thing... that life goes on... whether we want it to or not... get back in the game of life... I HAVE TALKED MY FRIENDS EARS OFF about my relationship... and whether it works out remains to be seen.. but I am trying to act like its over.. and when I get those feelings of maybe he will call I try and now dwell on it... I don't feel any ill-will towards him.. I did at first.. but I got over it.. Think of it this way... IF THEY LEAVE YOU ONCE.. whats to prevent them from doing it again... UNLESS they have come to grips with whatever made you breakup in the first place.. I personally would be very scared to go back... because WHAT HAS CHANGED... to make them come back???? I would be afraid that they would do it again... and I CERTAINLY DON'T WANT TO GO THROUGH THIS AGAIN... I have learned that I should not give my heart so easily .... that I should look for the WARNING signs... and take them to heart... TAKE IT SLOW... one day at a time... I HOPE EVERYONE HERE GETS WHAT THEY ARE LOOKING FOR... LOVE.. but with the right person... you deserve someone who is going to love you, respect you, care about you, treat you right, honor you, I know there are no prefect relationships in this world.. its something you have to work on... but I'm willing to take another chance.. but only and I repeat ONLY... IF I DEEM THEM WORTHY OF MY LOVE..HONOR AND RESPECT... not for the quick fix!!! Link to post Share on other sites
SGB8098 Posted July 9, 2004 Share Posted July 9, 2004 Great job, thank you for posting it Link to post Share on other sites
sweetadeline Posted July 9, 2004 Share Posted July 9, 2004 Great post, Questions! I'm going to print it out and read it whenever I waver. . .about the most recent ex or anyone else. Link to post Share on other sites
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