mysteryscape Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I met this artist recently at a reception and was really attracted to both her and her art -- pretty unlikely and unexpected! I would like to buy a piece of hers -- a piece of art, at least one -- and I would also like to spend some time with her in a non-business way. She certainly seemed to like me well enough, but obviously, this might just have been her trying to sell me something. It would have been awkward to try to get her phone number at the reception. Especially since, there was a guy there who was trying to get his hands on her shoulder, etc. From their conversation I got the idea they didn't know each other so well, but he was acting kind of proprietary. But impossible to tell anything for sure. So I don't know how he fits into the picture. Virtually certain she is not married. By the way, she is older middle aged, but could easily pass for 10 or 15 years younger. She looks hot with wild long hair. Very unusual for her age. She lives in the same city as I do; the reception was in a town about 90 minutes away. So now I am negotiating by email to buy a piece by her. Her phone number is not available on her website. I don't want to mix up buying the artwork with trying to see her some more. So, any ideas on how to proceed?
Art_Critic Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Are you buying the art to make her like you or help you with the "in" department ? if you are then don't do it. I would suggest one or the other... either buy the artwork or don't and ask her out.. You can always buy a piece of artwork from her at anytime. I doubt she will go out with you right after doing a business deal with you. 1
Author mysteryscape Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 I'm interested in the art and that's part of the interest in her -- part of the package -- only part. I definitely wouldn't buy something just to please her. Maybe you're right about her not wanting to mix business and social life -- but I've already inquired about buying a certain piece -- price, etc. -- so that train is already rolling, for better or worse.
Sunlight72 Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 (edited) Yes, these are two different, unrelated things (business, romance). I would strongly recommend you be honest - now. It's hard to do this well through email. Once you buy the art, it will be weird for her to hear you want to ask her out, and will make her question your strength as a man (since your communication didn't yet mention that you want to get to know her personally). Was the purchase just a really shy way to contact her? The more time you spend with No romantic intent during your emails, the more suspicious it will seem to her when you do get there. Don't make it a big deal Just tell her you like her art, and you also liked meeting her and thought her hair makes a beautiful personal statement. Buy the art very quickly so that you can get past that technical part of this whole deal and get on to flirting/meeting... or on to knowing she's not available or what ever. Move Fast! Slow will be weird. Don't make it a big deal - who knows anyway? Maybe she was nice during the opening to make sales and is a mess or jerk in real life? (I'm a professional artist - we often have to put on a game face when in public, just like lots of other people do when they're at work). Good luck, and remember, it's all just for fun anyway ------------------- "Tell her you'd like to pose nude for her. " Ha ha ha!!! Good one FitChick!! Playful, funny, and direct... perfect! Edited July 16, 2012 by Sunlight72
Author mysteryscape Posted July 17, 2012 Author Posted July 17, 2012 The art is bought -- but not in my possession until next month. No means of communication other than email, at least for 2-4 weeks. Any suggestions?
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