2muchlove Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I typed a letter that I came very close to sending. And still am on the fence about it. It's been about 8 days NC and I've been going strong, until today I have such an urge to say something, ANYTHING. It's driving me insane. I can't concentrate on anything else other than talking to her. We ended it like adults but before that she treated me like absolute **** this past month. But I can't help but want to break NC. Today was a great setback in my progress. I don't understand it.
SeventhFloor Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 DONT DO IT Whatever you need to say, your head is not in the right place. The best thing would be to wait for her to contact you. Even then...its not worth it. Just don't say anything. NC is a tool for a reason. IT IS NOT WORTH IT! You will just be hurt. Imagine the outcome: She responds positively - you're still hurt b/c you're not together. She responds negatively - you're hurt even more She doesn't respond at all - you'll be waiting and waiting and the wait will kill you.
k100danny Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 By all means write the letter BUT wait 48 hours to send it, if you can read it and not want to change anything you have written then go ahead and send it. I sent my ex a letter after we broke up and I don't regret it but it wasn't a harsh letter or nasty in anyway and i also didn't beg her to come back. I didn't really get much of a response to the letter but I did it for me not her and it was something i felt i had to do. But seriously if you are in this state of anxiety wanting to break contact and feeling like you just want to say anything you probably arent in the right frame of mind.
Author 2muchlove Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 The letter is stating everything that we both did wrong in the relationship. Everything we did right. Everything that made us fall in love with each other. And finally ends with me asking her to tell me its over completely since she left me with no real answer. And I know what you're thinking. "If she hasn't come back then you have your answer." But I really don't think its that cut and dry with her, nothing is ever that simple with her.
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