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BluEyeL Established Member

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As if the women on here don't hate me enough already. :laugh:

 

I love my freenemies, and would like to use you to see how your mind works, no hate, just grateful :laugh:

BluEyeL Established Member

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What exactly are you trying to learn?

 

No specific goal, just see how you approach women and how you conduct these interactions. Then maybe I can recognize similar trends when I date and in turn, know how to react without peeing my pants (here I cite BB) :). For now, I'm a wuss and I quit dating. Be a good freenemy and share :))

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MidwestUSA Established Member

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As if the women on here don't hate me enough already. :laugh:

 

Awe, don't be so hard on yourself!

Poppy fields Established Member

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Oh it doesn't bother me. But it's true.

 

But, I luuuuurve you, Mr. Soul. Just don't tell my husband.

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BluEyeL Established Member

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And/or he'll aquire a new set of stalkers from OLD. :laugh:

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Drseussgrrl Established Member

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What happened to the girl you were seeing?

Drseussgrrl Established Member

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It's our secret.

 

 

She's still around. She's the meat in my Thurs-Fri-Sat OLD sandwich. (We're going out on Friday). When and if she asks to be exclusive, I'll consider it. Until then, I'm an uncommitted man.

 

Wow. Lucky lady. :p

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BluEyeL Established Member

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I put women in the friendzone, they don't put me there.

Can you exemplify. What do you say to the women that you put in the friendzone? And why are you putting them in the friendzone instead of just stopping all contact?

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iv used online dating and find it a opposite to meeting people in bars , in the meet in a bar you find attractive and hope they like similar things to yourself but online you find out about them and then hope you find each other attractive lol

BluEyeL Established Member

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Date #1. Wish me luck. :p

 

Do report back please. Forget the player haters :p

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TheBladeRunner Established Member

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Wait till you find out she is married, has a bf, is transgendered, has Tourette's and more issues that require a subscription. Id love to hear your raving reviews about OLD. P

 

Or better yet her profile pic is 15 years old and what looks like "a few extra pounds" actually looks something like Jabba the Hut :sick:..........Hey, it's happened to me more than once!

BluEyeL Established Member

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Mr Soul is a big boy, can handle all the perrils :D

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BluEyeL Established Member

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They put you into this thread. Really? First date back to your place already??? I guess I shouldn't be surprised, you said it's off of OKC. I should say, good job....I guess, if you're happy, we're happy :p Depressing for me though :laugh:

BluEyeL Established Member

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To me personally, it's depressing, nothing to do with her or you. Your situation is fair, it was pretty clear from both sides, not a problem whatsoever.

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BluEyeL Established Member

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Yes, I had my own thread. I've been out with about 20 people in the past 3.5 months.

BluEyeL Established Member

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Had up to 3 dates a week lately, and got tired.

BluEyeL Established Member

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Oh wow. :laugh: And nothing? No prospects?

 

Not for LTR. For FWB or ONS, sure. I guess is foolish to look for LTR online?? I have a couple of threads with the details of half of those people.

Imajerk17 Established Member

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Both genders forget that the other gender is attracted to slightly different things. This especially shows up in the pictures.

 

Men are attracted primarily by looks. We like to see the curves on a woman's body, and that she knows how to wear a dress. Then after that we want assurances that she has a job and then friends. But it is mostly about looks. Women aren't attracted to looks per se as guys are. They are attracted to someone who has a full life and who is "socially proofed". If a woman sees other women responding positively (on a friendly level) to a guy she just met, then she will likely respond positively as well. She will probably assume that the guy in question isn't a creep--how could he be if all these other women like him? We men tend to not be interested in a woman who has too many guy friends though. It doesn't reassure us that the woman isn't a creep, instead, the way we see it, too much drama.

 

Thing is though, is that both genders tend to give in their pictures what the same gender would want. Men pick out their pictures in a way that would appeal to other men, and women pick out their pictures in a way that would appeal to other women. What do I mean?

 

Men post a lot of shirtless pictures to show off their bodies, because a woman's body is what turns a man on to a woman, and so he assumes that a woman would be turned on seeing his body in a profile.

 

Women post a lot of headshots with various friends many of them with guys, and not too many full body shots in them wearing say an outfit that they would wear on a first date. See many women assume that if a guy reading her profile sees that she has guy friends, that the guy reading her profile would feel more attracted/trust her more. Why? If a woman sees that a guy she doesn't know has a lot of female friends, then she feels safer around him--at least she thinks he probably isn't a creep!

 

I think the text in the profiles from both men and women is pretty bad though, lots of cliches.

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Jefezen Established Member

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Astute observation. I like your theory.

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Speaking of pictures, what's the best way to update my photos? I've got a lot less hair on top than before (as in I shaved my head), so do I just scrap my entire crop of current photos and upload all new ones, or mix it up?

BluEyeL Established Member

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I think I'm going to cancel my date tomorrow. Have non-OLD girl stay the night and take her out to brunch.

 

So Told ya you gonna get tired quickly with 3 dates/wk :laugh: You didn't last one week, granted you are actually in a relationship of sorts :D Have fun tonight and tomorrow.

BluEyeL Established Member

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And you kinda have one. Feel better soon!

BluEyeL Established Member

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It's too early to have her come over and take care of me. Even if we were dating.

I don't get it, don't you date the "new girl", the non-OLD one?

BluEyeL Established Member

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Ah, so you date her, but it's too "early" in the dating thing for "caretaking". But she stays the night though...

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I really thought I had met the man I'd be with on...... POF. Yep, it wasn't until recently that I heard many crazy stories about it. It just ended, in the last day or so. We were together a bit over a month. He said he was looking for long term and so was I. Never again. OLD is not for me. This was my 3rd attempt in a year. It seems many guys use OLD as a hobby. I guess some women do too.

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