Hdubai Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Me ex and I broke up 5 weeks ago. We were in a long distance relationship for 10 months and saw each other most weekends. Towards the end he refused to come for my 30th birthday which really upset me although I kind of understood that he didn't have the vacation time to take off but it caused some arguments. To the point where he said that he needed some space to decide what he could put into the relationship. When he left he went home to the US for the weekend (we both live in the middle east - me in the UAE and him in Kuwait) When he got back to London on his trip we bbm'd a little and skyped one evening. He said that his feelings had not changed and that he didn't think it was right for us to be together at the moment. So i cut off contact and went back to the UK for my birthday etc. He sent me a message on the day which was nice and said that he would be in Dubai at the weekend and would like to take me for dinner. I agreed that we could do that. The night before I saw him I had plans for my birthday party at a club. I was with all my friends etc and he turned up. He knew I would be there and spent the night avoiding me (al be it he had a table next to the table I was on) it was not easy and at one point I asked him really politely if he wouldn't mind leaving as he was ruining my night by being there. It was awful. He said no that he was with his friends and that he wanted to stay and hang out with them. Can I point out if a girl had done this to a guy she would be accused of being a complete psycho stalker. Anyway the next day we went for dinner which again was awful. He was cold and distant, i don't even know why he wanted to go. Was it to make him feel better. He got me a present and I told him to take it back that I didn't want anything from him. So we went our separate ways. He said again that he didn't think we could have a healthy relationship not living in the same country. I was crushed. A day later we met for a coffee as he owed me some money and was leaving again on another trip to the US (suddenly he found some vacation days) I pulled myself together and was fine with him told him to have a good time and that I'd see him soon. From then I went into 2 weeks of NC. Its been awful... even though I have deleted him on Facebook I still have a little look every now and then. He's been checking himself and his friends everywhere in LA, partying. Pictures of girls.... one of who looks weirdly like me. British, Petite, etc. Last night I'd had enough I broke NC. Im so disappointed in myself. He said he hadn't been in touch as he thought I didn't want to speak to him. That he's been sick most of his trip (on his deathbed as he put it) and that he refused to go round in circles again and have the same conversation with me as to why we're not together. I know that its bad of me to be so weak but I feel that I've just been abandoned my him, that he doesn't have a care in the world and that he's rubbing everything in my face. I didn't even want to talk about getting back together I just wanted to ask that he didn't broadcast everything on FB as its disrespectful with the situation how it is at the moment. I said how sad I was that he is not in my life anymore but that I agreed with the breakup and the reasons for us being apart. He got really angry with me and told him that I was just making him miserable that the conversation wasn't helping anything and that he was refusing to speak to me anymore about the situation. Whilst I get that I can't get closure on this. I need to move on from him but he seems to pull me in and the push me away. I know now we have no change of reconciling and to be honest he is turning into such a nasty piece of work that I am not sure I want someone like him in my life. Im just not sure why he is acting this way. Is it because he can't deal with the breakup and is pretending its not happening. What is going on. When we broke up he told me he loved me that he wanted us to be able to work this out with time and space. Was that all lies when all he really wanted was to leave and never see me again. I don't understand. Any advise would be great guys and thank you so much in advance for any tips you can give me to move on from this. I am obi starting NC again. And have emailed him saying that due to the way he speaks to me and the contempt he has for me, when I have don'e nothing wrong I am done trying to keep the lines of communication open for us and when he realises (if he ever does) how he's treated me then he can contact me but at the moment I have no interest in being in contact with him. Was this wrong? was this the wrong thing to say. I was so mad with him.
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