dassme Posted July 8, 2004 Posted July 8, 2004 Does this sound fair? My girlfriend of nine months receives calls from her friends ( guys or girls ) on a regular basis. If it's a girl I'm fine, but when a guy calls I'm a bit uptight and try not to think things. I suck it up and play it cool. I'm a jealous person but I've been controlling it very well when the stituation arises. Anyway, yesterday a friend of mine who happens to be a girl calls me just to say hello, I told her I was with my girlfriend and I'll talk to you later. As soon as I hung up she asked who it was, from where do I know where, yada yada yada! She was really upset! Then five minutes later, my other friend calls me who happens to be a guy this time. He asked me what I was I doing and I told him I was with so and so and that I would talk to him later. As soon as I hung up with him, she was like how come you gave him my name but not to the girl? Yada Yada Yada! Basically what Im trying to say is that if someone calls her it's fine but when someone calls me it's not? This is so unfair! And right now she's not talking to me because she doesn't trust me anymore! I've sent her messages stating that nothing is going on but she won't reply!! What am I suppose to do??
dudesomewhere Posted July 8, 2004 Posted July 8, 2004 actually...you know what? I'm sorry to do this but I'm just going to throw this penny in the pot...she might be cheating on you yeah that sucks huh? Look, it might not even be it...but sometimes it is...some weird psychological thing where the cheater tries to look for things to get offended about to alleviate guilt. Now...you can ignore my comment or you can take it with a grain of salt...just thought I'd throw that wrench in your cogworks just to mess with ya . You can determine what's what though...for example, is she only recently became upset when the cards were turned...which it sounds like...or has she always been upset from the beginning? Here's an idea for you, send her a message stating what I said...that this person said "yada yada"...then say you believe that's what's going on and then end it with good luck to you in your life and never talk to her again. Now that's me, but most people use some form of Temporary No Contact...whereas no contact for me is no contact forever . Ah...the nogamesplayman I be
Debster Posted July 8, 2004 Posted July 8, 2004 Tell her that you trust her and don't place limitations on who can call and how often and you expect the same respect in return. If she can't give it to you, be prepared to walk.
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