doing something to impress women

[bobsmith76]

PLEASE NO COMMENTS FROM GUYS

 

 

Do you know that scene in that movie/book the Notebook where the guy rebuilds a house that he met the girl in or something like that? And the girl is impressed by it? Well, I've found in real life women don't like that. At least women that you're not in a relationship with. If you're in a relationship with a woman and try to do something to impress them I'm guessing that they like it. Having only been in a relationship for about 12 months with 5 different women in my entire 35 year life, I really can't speak from experience. What I've found is that if the woman does not know you and you try to do something to impress them, (I usually write poems) they absolutely hate it. In fact, they will call the cops. For some reason they don't seem to mind flowers that much, but with poems they seem to go absolutely nuts and break out in a panic attack. The five women that I did have a relationship with they enjoyed it, but sadly, since they were all foreign, I'm not sure how much of it they understood.

 

So my question is, why is it, that you women, get so nervous when I guy that you don't know all that well writes you a poem or does something else which he perceives as romantic?

 

PLEASE NO COMMENTS FROM GUYS

[belocchoc129]

Do you mind me asking what does the content of the poem sound like? For someone you barely know or don't know very well and trying to impress them, I would suggest not writing some too personal or too intimate. In my post that you commented, I actually wrote a poem for the guy that I'm interested in on his 21 birthday and I don't know him that well. I tried to make it cute and casual but also showed my interest by complimenting that he has a very cute smile. He actually liked it.

As a girl, I love it when someone wrote a poem trying to impress me but it would scare the hell out of me if you're trying to say something too personal or intimate in the poem. And I guess it depends on the person and the level of comfort the person feels towards you too. I would run away if someone I just said 'Hello' two or three times suddenly gave me a romantic poem while I haven't known them well at all. So I would suggest either wait for a special occasion or getting to know them better before showing any romantic gestures.

[bobsmith76]

In my post that you commented, I actually wrote a poem for the guy that I'm interested in on his 21 birthday and I don't know him that well. I tried to make it cute and casual but also showed my interest by complimenting that he has a very cute smile. He actually liked it.

Yea, I think guys would like that sort of thing. I know I would. How are things going with that guy?

 

 

 

Here's an example. This woman did not break out in a panic she just never responded. I found her profile through myspace. This was back in 2006. She had enough information on her profile such that I found out what church she went to. I went there once but I couldn't find her. I'm pretty sure I was going to tell her that I had a different name and that I was not going to tell her that I had been contacting her through myspace. In any case I never met her. It took me a long to figure out that women just don't appreciate romantic gestures from men that they did not know. I was rather baffled by it because I knew that my intentions were genuine and that I meant no harm and that my goal was marriage. But women could never understand. They always assumed the worse, that I was a sick stalker.

 

 

once more, sweet anissa,

i encourage you to correspond.

i reiterate that an ardent christian

of your beauty is very rare indeed.

i have studied your numerous photos,

analyzed them and it is my conclusion

that you are flush with happiness and mind-rose,

that felicia pulsates in your harbors,

that your trees are bright with soul-shine,

and your stars flashing of glee.

this is an admirable attribute,

its contagious mirth-flow a boon,

its delicious coconut a prize.

i also see in you altruism and philanthropy,

one eager to assist others in life,

supporting them, uplifting them, encouraging them,

their buildings rendered stout

by your vivacious smile and fabulo-cheer.

i can only interact with women

whose love for the Creator resounds,

whose dedication to prayer effuses,

and whose comfort in church rainbowfies,

this embrace of the celesto-king

you have clearly expressed in your profile.

 

as for myself i am searching, passionate,

eager, intense, surging and moist.

although it is not obvious from my web-writings,

i also have a sense of humor,

i adore the joke and the jest,

i enflame amid irony and sarcasm,

laughter is my brother

and glee is my sister.

i dedicated four months of labor

to helping those recover

from katrina’s inhuman blight,

i attend church sometimes three

or four times a week,

there worshipping, there listening, there interacting.

i have written an immense body

of religious work,

sustained myself amid its bounty,

and found solace in its honey.

i have self-published a prayer-book,

seen my faith wax and wane,

conversed with others regarding the deity.

if you find my profile bizarre,

as many do, its maze a hurdle,

then it is my sincere wish

that you will put aside this initial judgment,

and attempt to unlock whatever

diamond, ruby or topaz,

lay hidden in my quarries.

 

so let us correspond,

for your sight of arcadia, correspond,

for your immersion in moon-foam, correspond,

for you acquisition of dazzlo-cheer, correspond,

let not lizard-fears block you,

let not your reluctance enshackle you,

let every synapse fire,

let every heart-beat pulse.

[orcunderabridge]

Yea, I think guys would like that sort of thing. I know I would. How are things going with that guy?

 

 

 

Here's an example. This woman did not break out in a panic she just never responded. I found her profile through myspace. This was back in 2006. She had enough information on her profile such that I found out what church she went to. I went there once but I couldn't find her. I'm pretty sure I was going to tell her that I had a different name and that I was not going to tell her that I had been contacting her through myspace. In any case I never met her. It took me a long to figure out that women just don't appreciate romantic gestures from men that they did not know. I was rather baffled by it because I knew that my intentions were genuine and that I meant no harm and that my goal was marriage. But women could never understand. They always assumed the worse, that I was a sick stalker.

 

 

once more, sweet anissa,

i encourage you to correspond.

i reiterate that an ardent christian

of your beauty is very rare indeed.

i have studied your numerous photos,

analyzed them and it is my conclusion

that you are flush with happiness and mind-rose,

that felicia pulsates in your harbors,

that your trees are bright with soul-shine,

and your stars flashing of glee.

this is an admirable attribute,

its contagious mirth-flow a boon,

its delicious coconut a prize.

i also see in you altruism and philanthropy,

one eager to assist others in life,

supporting them, uplifting them, encouraging them,

their buildings rendered stout

by your vivacious smile and fabulo-cheer.

i can only interact with women

whose love for the Creator resounds,

whose dedication to prayer effuses,

and whose comfort in church rainbowfies,

this embrace of the celesto-king

you have clearly expressed in your profile.

 

as for myself i am searching, passionate,

eager, intense, surging and moist.

although it is not obvious from my web-writings,

i also have a sense of humor,

i adore the joke and the jest,

i enflame amid irony and sarcasm,

laughter is my brother

and glee is my sister.

i dedicated four months of labor

to helping those recover

from katrina’s inhuman blight,

i attend church sometimes three

or four times a week,

there worshipping, there listening, there interacting.

i have written an immense body

of religious work,

sustained myself amid its bounty,

and found solace in its honey.

i have self-published a prayer-book,

seen my faith wax and wane,

conversed with others regarding the deity.

if you find my profile bizarre,

as many do, its maze a hurdle,

then it is my sincere wish

that you will put aside this initial judgment,

and attempt to unlock whatever

diamond, ruby or topaz,

lay hidden in my quarries.

 

so let us correspond,

for your sight of arcadia, correspond,

for your immersion in moon-foam, correspond,

for you acquisition of dazzlo-cheer, correspond,

let not lizard-fears block you,

let not your reluctance enshackle you,

let every synapse fire,

let every heart-beat pulse.

 

This is a joke right? ... right?

[LuckyLady13]

This is a joke right? ... right?

 

 

I 2nd that question

[GLDheart]

...

i have studied your numerous photos,

analyzed them...

 

Anyone gets to about right there and says: Creeper.

 

...they then stop reading and start carrying pepper spray.

[TaraMaiden]

In the strictest definitive sense, this isn't poetry.

 

It's Prose.

 

Poetry speaks in lyrical musings with no specific aim, except lauding.

Prose is a narrative and imparts information.

 

Poetry - 'To the skylark'. by John Keats.

First line:

"Hail to thee blithe spirit, bird thou never wert!"

 

Prose - 'Daffodils'. William Wordsworth.

First line:

I wander'd lonely as a cloud, that floats on high o'er vales and hills...."

 

(And yes, as a British person, I did know the first lines without looking them up. The links are proof - if it is required - that these pieces of writing, exist.)

 

If i received this prose, I would seriously believe you'd received a severe knock on the head and thought you were a blend of Robert Browning and William McGonnagal.

 

On a bad day.

[CarrieT]

Here's an example. This woman did not break out in a panic she just never responded. I found her profile through myspace. This was back in 2006. She had enough information on her profile such that I found out what church she went to. I went there once but I couldn't find her.

 

This IS stalking.

 

In any case I never met her. It took me a long to figure out that women just don't appreciate romantic gestures from men that they did not know.

Let me explain something to you... "Romance" comes from a degree of intimacy with another human being. You cannot create romance with someone you do not know. Your gesture is not romantic if you do not know the woman. It is creepy.

 

I was rather baffled by it because I knew that my intentions were genuine and that I meant no harm and that my goal was marriage.

How can you have intentions of marriage with someone you don't even know yet? Your intentions are not genuine towards their goals if you don't know them yet.

 

But women could never understand. They always assumed the worse, that I was a sick stalker.

I honestly believe YOU don't understand how to establish personal and intimate relationships yet. What you are doing IS stalking. You can't create poems and romantic gestures with someone who is a creation in your mind because that is all these women are to you yet; you don't have a friendship or even a dating relationship yet but you are writing poems? You are making assumptions on someone without even introducing yourself to find out if they would be receptive to poems and romantic gestures.

 

Also, the fact that you are continually starting threads and looking for advice but excluding men's input is baffling. Many have been where you are so not getting their insight into your situation speaks a great deal about the type of person you are.

[KathyM]

Relationships take time to develop and need mutuality of interest in order to progress. Trying to create false intimacy with strangers is never a good plan. You need to learn how to develop a relationship and let it take it's normal course towards emotional intimacy without pushing it too early on or talking too serious too early on. That type of thing you mentioned in your OP would scare any woman off.

[SpiralOut]

The entire point of romance is to show that you have genuine feelings for someone. You cannot have genuine feelings for a person you hardly know. Women don't like it when you act as if you know them when you don't.