LoverOfDance Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 So I was debating whether or not to go to this event because I knew he was going to be there(the guy I can't be with because he has a gf). I took a class that day and afterward I was feeling so energized and happy, I decided to go to the event. When I got there, the place was huge and he was really far away so I decided - "ah well, since he's so far away, I don't have to say anything then". I'm not one of those ppl that would see someone they know at an event or something and act like they don't know them. It creates too much tension and causes ppl to keep malice 4 no good reason at all. So if I see someone I know, I always say hi no matter what the situation is between us. Because he was so far away, I figured I didn't have to go and say hi to him if he didn't see me. I kept my distance and stayed far away from him. But of course it didn't work. He got up after a few minutes and all the way from where he was, he came to where I was sitting and was apparently passing by. Of course there was no way I would have let him walk right past me without saying hi. I said hi and we talked 4 like two minutes or more and I went back to watching the dance battle. Next thing I know, I'm wondering what happened to where he was going? I thought he was going somewhere but after we finished talking, he stayed close to me and never left until the battle was over(I was there 4 about 3 hours). After the battle ended I hugged him and we talked 4 a few more minutes(not long at all). During this very short conversation, I felt so bad about no longer coming to his classes which I had attended 4 an entire year that I promised to come back. My God, I don't understand how I could have let myself feel so bad that I made such a promise now I feel like I have to keep it. Not sure what to do. What do you guys think?
CopingGal Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 You do what you have to do to make yourself feel better. You are not obligated to him...even if you have to break your promised. You have to take care of you and that's it.
ihateslowjams Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Because he was so far away, I figured I didn't have to go and say hi to him if he didn't see me. I kept my distance and stayed far away from him. But of course it didn't work. He got up after a few minutes and all the way from where he was, he came to where I was sitting and was apparently passing by. Of course there was no way I would have let him walk right past me without saying hi. I said hi and we talked 4 like two minutes or more and I went back to watching the dance battle. Next thing I know, I'm wondering what happened to where he was going? I thought he was going somewhere but after we finished talking, he stayed close to me and never left until the battle was over(I was there 4 about 3 hours). After the battle ended I hugged him and we talked 4 a few more minutes(not long at all). During this very short conversation, I felt so bad about no longer coming to his classes which I had attended 4 an entire year that I promised to come back. My God, I don't understand how I could have let myself feel so bad that I made such a promise now I feel like I have to keep it. Not sure what to do. What do you guys think? Well, i think if you can handle the possible interaction you will have with him, then go for it, but if you think you won't be able to, i wouldn't go even if you did promise and you're a promise keeper. It'll just cause more ruin to you if it'll affect you in that way. Do you think you can handle it? Also, what type of battle did you watch? breaking? popping? I'm curious haha i personally like choreo, but my friends do breaking and popping. They join events and contests, while i watch them haha (I'm not good...)
Author LoverOfDance Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 Well, i think if you can handle the possible interaction you will have with him, then go for it, but if you think you won't be able to, i wouldn't go even if you did promise and you're a promise keeper. It'll just cause more ruin to you if it'll affect you in that way. Do you think you can handle it? Also, what type of battle did you watch? breaking? popping? I'm curious haha i personally like choreo, but my friends do breaking and popping. They join events and contests, while i watch them haha (I'm not good...) Freestyle's my favourite:D I sometimes find it difficult to focus in class so I have a problem remembering choreo. It's something I really need to work on. I just started breaking and I'm thinking of taking popping classes as well:) Thanks for the advice and thanks as well for your reply copinggal. I think my problem is that I know he'll be expecting me to show up. I feel like he knows me pretty well and if I say I'm gonna come, I'm most likely gonna come. Even though I need to go back to NC and stick with it, I don't want to hurt his feelings. Our relationship is quite strange. We don't talk much but he knows me pretty well. He knew a lot of ppl at the battle and probably talks to them more than he talks to me but he came to where I was and stayed with me. Other ppl came and said hi to me, talked to me 4 a few minutes and went back to where they were sitting. But he came and stayed I think I just don't want to strain the weird relationship we have right now - the one where it seems like we are close but we don't even talk much and our conversations are rarely long. How can I break my promise without making him feel bad?
Author LoverOfDance Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 I decided I'm not gonna go back. I'm scared of losing his friendship by breaking my promise but hopefully he forgives me. I just wish he understood where I was coming from but even though he knows how I feel, he has no idea what I've been through in the past few months. I have to be smart and I have to do what's best 4 me. I told him I was gonna come back and I wasn't lying. I'll go back....when I'm sure I'm completely over him.
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