monkey00 Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 From what I've seen from OLD, it seems a lot of women have different priorities in what they look for in a guy. I've seen profiles asking for a guy who is passionate about their job, to having a passion about something. Well I don't really see a woman asking for a guy with a great paying job they are okay with..that's just too demanding to put on OLD. But after being on dates I noticed the latter does matter to a lot of women. I also find that sheltered/young/traditional women tend to want the whole job passion thing. But for opinion's sake, I just want to see which 3 really matter to women on LS? or a combination of it? And why?
curlygirl40 Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I think the answers you get may depend on what age bracket you're in, so I'll say that I'm in my 40's. At this point in my life, I am not looking for someone to support me since I can support myself. So I'm looking more for a partner. At my age I have learned that someone could be making 100K a year and be 200K in debt, whereas someone could be making 35K a year and spend their money wisely and that is more attractive to me. So to me what is more important is how much money they keep or save (not make), or the fact that they're not living above their means. Make sense? So as long as they like what they do, I'm o.k with that. If they were making a lower income and hated what they did for a living and complained about it, that would be a turnoff. But as far as having passion for their work? I think for some people a job is just a way to make money to enjoy other things they are passionate about. And that's o.k with me.
january2011 Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Passion in bed helps a ton. Passion in his job, not so much - BTDTGTT (Been There Done That Got The T-shirt). No more workaholics for me. All I care about job-related and money-wise is that we're not living hand-to-mouth and can still put money towards going out to dinner every other week, a day trip once a month and maybe a holiday once a year. But I'd forgo all that if we had something else to use the money for such as personal develpment or professional development (assuming we couldn't get sponsorship). Oh and that we don't have a ton of debt. Oh yes, and good anecdotes. That's very important. Love a good work anecdote. Edit: Curlygirl, good point. I'm in my 30s.
Author monkey00 Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 But as far as having passion for their work? I think for some people a job is just a way to make money to enjoy other things they are passionate about. And that's o.k with me. I share the same viewpoint about that whether it's for a man or a woman. Passion comes and goes with people. People lose and pick up new interests all the time and it happens with jobs. A lot of people grow content with their jobs and fall into the comfort zone, it happens to the best of us. I kind of find the whole expectation of someone being passionate about their job thing to be kind of naive and superficial...almost out of touch from reality. Not that it can't exist, but the numbers are far in a few.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I would much rather be with a man who has a steady income from doing what he loves. I support myself so I don't need a man with tons of money. I was with someone who HATED his job but did it because he made more money than others in his age group and hearing him complain about it all the time and trying to make him happy when at home was WAY too much work.
Author monkey00 Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 I would much rather be with a man who has a steady income from doing what he loves. I support myself so I don't need a man with tons of money. I was with someone who HATED his job but did it because he made more money than others in his age group and hearing him complain about it all the time and trying to make him happy when at home was WAY too much work. Well what if he doesn't love it/doesn't hate it and doesn't complain about it either?
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Well what if he doesn't love it/doesn't hate it and doesn't complain about it either? As long as he is happy and hardworking. It is all fine by me. I guess HAPPINESS, is what matters more. Usually those who are in jobs they are passionate about are happy, which is why being in a job you are passionate about seems so appealing. At least from my stand point that is how it would seem.
udolipixie Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Early 20s (21) Great paying okay job. I couldn't care less if a guy is passionate about his job or has a passion about something I'm only curious if he's going to be bitter, negative, or complaining about his job or in general.
SarahRose Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 A dirty hippy who busks on the beach with his didgeridoo is fine with me
Silly_Girl Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I'm in my 30's. I fell in to a profession that pays well but I don't get a good deal of spiritual fulfilment in my job, although I am very driven. I have classed myself as a mortgage-whore for years now, my job enables me to go places and do things that I love, things that excite me. It's important to me a guy can get fire in his belly about SOMETHING, no one finds a cardboard cut-out sexy, and that thing can be his job, or not. As for cash, someone earning in my range is ideal but I don't meet many single guys who are, so someone who isn't in debt and spends wisely is the next best thing. Hope that answers your question OP, but I get the impression you're looking for a simple formula and I don't think there is one
Snakechammah Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I'm obsessed about Canadian cops. But if I may never meet one, then I guess I'll take any other jobs... except butchers and undertakers. I would prefer the guy to make more than me (though Canadian cops may not but its ok. Only for Canadian cops, I'll make an exception!) Someone who has a powerful job, passionate about what he does, preferably doing something good for the environment (and not cheating old ladies in the street), and has ambition to succeed! So there.
irc333 Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Yeah, but think about it....are you the: 1. Live to work 2. Work to live? ..type? From what I've seen from OLD, it seems a lot of women have different priorities in what they look for in a guy. I've seen profiles asking for a guy who is passionate about their job, to having a passion about something. Well I don't really see a woman asking for a guy with a great paying job they are okay with..that's just too demanding to put on OLD. But after being on dates I noticed the latter does matter to a lot of women. I also find that sheltered/young/traditional women tend to want the whole job passion thing. But for opinion's sake, I just want to see which 3 really matter to women on LS? or a combination of it? And why?
DjinnAgain Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 A man who is happy with what he is doing -- even if that means a job he's not so fond of for other choices he prefers. Not everyone feels the need to be passionate about work. Others, of course, need the passion in their job to be happy. I'd rather they be making nothing doing that. Basically, don't be the one who complains about his own choices and it's all good!
zengirl Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I definitely care whether a man has a stable job that he can support himself with, and it's definitely important to me that it not be soul-sucking and something he hates so SOME level of passion or interest in his job is important, as is some major passion in his life (which doesn't have to be his job) and having actual interests. In Hubby's case, he has a good deal of interest in his job, and it incorporates his passion (designing programs) but not wholly, so he has something he's working towards as well. There's also plenty of BS with his job he doesn't like, but it's a good job he can leave at the office - he doesn't own a business or need to tend to his job 24/7, thankfully, and works pretty much exactly 40 hours a week, sometimes 35. It also pays well. None of that really 'attracted' me to Hubby, though I do find it very sexy that he can do the intense calculus required for the (fairly rare - and that's why it's very well-paid) kind of programming he does.
FitChick Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Women tend to forget that a man who is passionate about his job and very successful is less likely to have time or energy for a relationship. Women need to be very independent and have their own interests outside of the relationship. 1
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