lovers Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 (edited) a girl who I have known for awhile and been kinda close, called me up to hang out with her and watch a movie. We went drinking a little before and went to her house. We cuddled and kissed before, but we never had sex so this time it was really different. We were naked on the bed, kissed, cuddled, and right before we were gonna have sex she rejected me. So I was annoyed but tried not to show it and was like well I can't sleep so Im gonna head home which was in the middle of the night. Its the next day and I am pretty embarassed about what happened last night. Embarassed to see her and that she probably told her friends, which I am friends with also. She might have even told her I tried to rape her last night to her friends. Of course this is just all in my mind. I'm thinking about never talking to her again and not initiating any contact with her. First time I have ever been rejected like that so my self-esteem is a bit down cause of it. It's not like I actively pursue her, I haven't talked to her in a bit, but whenever she tells me to come over and we cuddle. I just become really flirtatious and touchy. But I think I learned my lesson and need to move on. What do you guys think I should do? am i wrong for what i did? Edited July 16, 2012 by lovers
Med Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Only time you should feel embarrassed is when you umm tool is bellow average size.
Author lovers Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 yeah u r right, but it takes two to tango. What I am confused on is should I just ignore her and not hang out with her anymore whenever she asks me? I'm not the one that asks her to come "hang out" with me in the middle of the night (happened multiple times).
Med Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 ^^ Then you have nothing to fear, if she asked you to hang out...
princess_e Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Maybe when you guys were hanging out, you started getting too caught up in the kissing and cuddling you became a little too aggressive or made her feel uncomfortable/pressured into sex? Dont make a move on a girl you don't really know too well until she initiates it something. If she only kisses u then just kiss her back dont really try anything else. Basically just go with whatever she is doing to make her feel like she is the one in control and youre just going with the flow. If you are getting mixed signals maybe try to ask her casually about how far she wants to go and check in with her to see if she is feeling comfortable with whats happening (Am i coming on to strong right now?, etc) it may be a little awkward to say and ask such things but at least both of you will have a clear understanding of what you both want. Dont be embarrassed... it happens and it is a good lesson for the future... stay calm, be more aware and follow the girls lead to avoid this happening again. If you still have to see her around, maybe casually apologize for what happened... "hey sorry if it was a bit awkward last time I was at your house, im not sure if i was just being a little too agressive or i was getting the wrong signals from you, but I hope everything can be cool bw us?"
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