Boyfriend and "checking" up on me

[sue99]

We have been together for about a year. Live together and get along great!

Now the confusion- he checks my phone all the time and tells me he does, like I am supposed to be ok with that. He has a problem with me going out with my friends alone, if we are at the bar, he has to be right "on" me. Does not give me any breathing room, and a few other odd things.

He really has never gotten that upset with me so I dont know how he would be if we actually "fight". We argue but he will follow me around the house til we talk it out. What I am confused about is- is he just clingy, or controlling or what? I get really confused on all that. Does he do that stuff cause he loved me? We are supposed to get married in a few months, and are really happy, I am just concerned about his behavior.

[YellowShark]

he checks my phone all the time and tells me he does

 

Why does he check your phone and tells you he does? What is his answer to this question?

[spiderowl]

I would be seriously concerned about a guy who checked up on my phone. It shows he doesn't trust me. Are you happy that your guy doesn't trust you and takes things into his own hands? Telling you after the fact isn't exactly asking permission.

 

I agree with the other poster that you should ask him why he is doing this? He sounds very possessive and insecure. He has no right to crowd you like this.

[skyisfalling]

the fact that your on this forum asking about your bf's behavior indicates that your gut feeling is telling you something. i think deep down inside you KNOW this isn't normal and your gut is telling you this is a red flag. he is being controlling and you should get to know him from ALL aspects before you marry the guy. You guys haven't fought ONCE and you're willing to marry him? You need to know how he handles himself in adversities, in anger, through troubles all of that, the whole shabang before you commit the rest of your life with him. PLEASE dont marry this guy in a couple of months.. no bueno.