frozenflame01 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Ok I have quite a bit of questions, please don't judge, this is my first post ever and I'm lost...Ok so here's part of my story I'll try to make this short. My ex was crazy for me and introduced me to his family, friends ect and they all told me they've never seen him happier or even look at a girl like the way he looked at me. He wanted to do anything with me, and down the road asked me to move in. We had a super intimate and close relationship. (he was the first physical relationship) Out of the blue I would catch him staring at me and he would make promises with a future and made me promise I'd never leave him and that he'd never do anything to hurt me and the whole 9 yards blah blah blah. But then suddenly over night he grew distant and over time ignores me and treated me very badly as if i were dirt. He ended the relationship saying he did not want a relationship..He texted me begging to talk to him when I moved back to my hometown and I regret it now because it gave him the feel that I'd always be here and that he could have me at the drop of the hat and now he's still taking it for granted! He said he didn't want a relationship but I ironically he ended up on my Matches on the dating site we met on originally and under the new members section. He would only text me when he wants something or only when he's bored and has noone else to talk to and was very talkative. But if I made contact but his replies where short and rude. I thought he said he still wanted to be friends? Now he's out and dating again and seems to be having a very good time with these girls (I've heard from mutual friends) and that he's also been talking bad about me the whole time saying evil lies that obviously aren't true. Then just the other day he has his friend text me that he's, "sitting right next to my ex and he doesn't say hi." I think it's because I recently had our laptop we once shared stollen at my college and whoever stole it had access to emails the browser remembered. But now he has this crazy idea that I'm stalking him and hacked his accounts which doesn't help, I'm very bad with computers! He even treated my family bad and broke every promise and lied all the time!!! I don't get how he could be so crazy about me then one day just suddenly change out of nowhere and treat me so badly and he's moved on so quickly. He treated me like a queen and suddenly treats me the worse I've ever been treated which don't get. Is he a commitment phope? Everyone says yes and that he only used me and that he's very insensitive, narcissistic selfish, self centered and cocky. It was pretty much a one way relationship. He talks bad about people all the time who he feels are inferior to him and when I made a new friend he rudely stated that I wasn't aloud to friends with fat things because fat people aren't people.(he's a huge fit guy) Just the other day on FB he said he didn't need a female to get in his way because he was gonna be somebody in life yet he's on dating sites looking???? Why is he so angry towards me when he's the one who ruined the relationship? Why did he lie and why is he spreading lies about me? All I want to know is why did he just change and why is he acting and being this way?? And also why am I sooo hurt he's out dating again and afraid about them getting close. Are these feelings normal? I know I can't do anything about it. It's been 2 months since the break up, is it still considered a rebound? Being replaced is the same as being forgotten. It's like I never even existed or he never cared about me and I was used. Will he ever realize what he's done and change? EDIT: Just found out he has a new gf whom he met online...Is two months too soon (rebound) to date after a 7 month relationship, he seems serious..
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