k100danny Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Basically when I got together with my ex she had broken up from a 4 year relationship around 3-4 months previous. Obviously we discussed taking it slow and she just wanted to date but she became attached very quickly and quite possesive. She had dated a couple of other people in this time and having mutual friends i knew her old relationship was bad for a long time, she said it felt more like friends for the last year before she kicked him out for the second time. Basically though I think I may have been a rebound, maybe more so at first and then an actual relationship formed although we would argue quite a bit and she would act out a lot but i had come to learn that this was possibly a personality trait common of her. We were together 7 months and went through quite a lot i that time, toward the end when she was leaving to go travelling she said she wasnt sure she wanted to go anymore and she was scared I wouldnt be here when she got back. Anyway I pulled away a lot, I was angry she left, She said she would stay here for me and i think on some level she wanted me to make that decision but i would never do that. I got more and more distant over her first couple of weeks away, maybe acting out and i wasnt calling it was all her and then i wasnt that great when she did call ect. anyway we had an arguement and didnt speak for a few days then it ended. I obviously contacted her a bit the first few days then i stopped, she contacted me after about 5 days of NC, then almost a week later she contacted me again. I got fed up and said if it's over then I don't want to sound rude but it hurts to hear from you. she didnt reply and we havent really spoken since, I think i text her once after this but then I stayed away until she finally did what i asked after a week and deleted me from facebook. I didnt use to check her page and i had blocked all updates but I noticed she wasnt in my chat list, There was just one thing, an item of property I wanted back so i contacted her, she told me she deleted me because i asked her to, and that she would send the item back as soon as she could. Here is where I don't know what went on. I was friends with my ex previous to her, A very close friend and she didnt like that i could speak to her ect so i tried not to while i was with her. now i had been out for dinner with my ex that week (not a date, no sexual feelings she has a great boyfriend who i know also) and she had commented on my facebook status, something along the lines of baby annabelle loved you today, see you soon dinner is your treat next time xx she had brought her friends new baby for a walk basically and we had gone for lunch, I love children so i spent a lot of time playing with her. Now i think my recent ex may have seen this and hence the deletion. I don't know this is the case, I can't be 100% sure at all it very well may not be. anyway after the message about the property I say nothing else other than hope you're well thats all. Around 5 days later she has a new profile pic of her with a guy at the beach, she met him shortly after we broke up, I didn't know if this was just to rub my nose in it? I asked her to block me but she didn't but maybe she thought i deleted him it's ok he wont see or just didnt care. She was writing things like isnt he so cute on the pic ect and two weeks previous to this she is telling me she is still thinking of me everyday. she also added her ex previous to me on facebook not long after the split. I know i may have been the first rebound and she may be really happy with this guy, It seems a little too happy though after a couple of weeks. or maybe he is a rebound too? He is italian and does speak some english but I know relationships between other cultures are sometimes hard to maintain due to well differences in culture. I'm just thinkin maybe i was this rebound and now she has found a great new guy. or maybe this guy is a rebound too? I dont know. I do know she doesnt tend to stay out of relationships for long. I know it shouldnt matter im just venting and i've told the story lots of times before so sorry to all of you who have heard it. Anyway she is blocked now and I do hope she finds happiness I just wish i could too.
bosox Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 She's doing what she has to to move on. Same as you should be doing. Doesn't matter if he's a rebound or not. She's now moving forward. If this guy is a rebound then there will be another guy that comes later. And it doesn't matter if she is really that happy or not. Fake it until you make it! It honestly works. If you pretend to be happy eventually you really do become happy. Now do just that and move forward with your life. You'll be just as happy soon.
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