Ponzzz Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 so it's been 3 weeks since our break up and she already has another boyfriend. She was able to hide it from my feed but he's actually a mutual friend so it leaked through his. This is a massive step and has provided a ton of closure for me . He lives 3 hours away from her so I wonder how they're going to manage that but it's really none of my business. I am not in the best of moods right now but I really am truly happy for her. I hope for her sake that she's not rebounding though. She moved on massively quickly... What steps can you actually take from here? It seems it would be hard to maintain a friendship if anything at all and luckily for me I have already been moving on with my life so it's not such a huge blow.
esteem-jam Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 (edited) So how do you find that dude? Is he a good match for her? Or he gets more than he deserves? I think such things matter when leaving everything behind. I mean, if I knew that he is a sincere, good pal that will make Her happy, I wouldnt mind that at all. Edited July 16, 2012 by esteem-jam
Author Ponzzz Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 They're a terrible match but what can you do? Perhaps they were meant for eachother, perhaps not. All I know is I don't think either of them are going to end up happy, it's just so toxic :-/
tallydoo Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I'm glad you're dealing with it so well, Ponzzz. My advice is that you don't try and reach out or be friends with her at this point--it's going to be weird for you both and too much heartache for you. Keep your distance for now, keep wishing her well, and keep moving on. Good luck!
headonstraight Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Ponzz!!! Sounds familiar doesn't it? Remember you said you were envious of me since my ex had a new BF within days of our BU?! Now you can enjoy the same thing I enjoy! FOCUSING ON YOU! I am happy for my Ex too, in an odd way. But I refuse to be her "buddy" (she still reaches out every now and again, and I continue to reject/NC her). I sincerely wish her the best, because I'm simply a good guy and value people. Some notable accomplishments: Since we broke up a month ago, I have been running ~5-7 miles every other day (I'm training for various marathons as a personal goal), intense workouts every other day, and I'm in the best shape of my life. Ladies comment about my looks/physique/etc. ALL THE TIME now. The aura of my new-founded confidence must be quite visible to them (plus I'm constantly smiling). I was literally hit-on all weekend during the various outings with my friends. No woman ever believes my actual age. It's hilarious. Enjoy the closure like I did. I am having the time of my life. You will too. :-) I'm so happy for you Ponzz!
Author Ponzzz Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 I didn't reach out to her. In fact, I removed her. She knows where I am if she wants to talk and I might not even talk if she does. I am happy to hear about your new life headonstraight! 5-7 miles is intense! I've been working a little on that as well but I only run 2-3 miles and want to train for a half marathon perhaps. I totally get you on the refusing to be her buddy. I have no intentions on being her "buddy" either. She has a boyfriend for that, she can go to him. I really want her to be happy but it's like watching her drown and knowing you can't do anything to help. The only thing you can do is let her do what she wants and live with it. I am no longer concerned about her as a potential relationship and hope that she has finally found someone who can make her truly happy. Perhaps one day I may decide to be a friend but im done running circles in my head
Author Ponzzz Posted July 23, 2012 Author Posted July 23, 2012 it's been awhile since i've posted on LS now, here's my accomplishments of this past week in dealing with my breakup. 1) Her best friends keep messaging me. So you want information to tell her? Well on Wednesday night I met a beautiful woman who I don't doubt i'll be seeing again soon. 2) Really stuck my head out there and got myself back in the game. Been out with friends every single night for the past week and I have to say life is pretty exciting when you give it a chance 3) A couple of nights ago before falling asleep, I started to get intense warm feelings for other women that I had met previously. Of course after that I felt guilty about the feelings but hey, at least im working through it 4) My workout regimen is working fantastic! im fit, looking good, and feeling good! 5) Made a life long friend with a mutual friend of ours. After a nice long real man talk I am glad to say that he's truly a good friend. Potential Negatives: 1) I had at least 2 drinks/day for the past 6 nights. People still bring her up in conversation but I can now just be brutally honest without any shred of remorse or regret. It's all thanks to her that she allowed me to take total control over my life! It's sad knowing that she's just fading away into a memory but I have no regrets; I gave her everything and she didn't accept it, her loss. Enjoy your 4 hour LDR that you hopped into off a whim, I sincerely hope you are happy with him.
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