The Tallest One Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Hey all!, like a fool after 18 days I broke NC with ex gf. Just wanted to let her know that if she wanted to remain friends and keep in touch, that was ok with me. This was yesterday that I sent her an email. I thought I was ok with this, but now after having a sleepless anxiety ridden night, I think it was a very bad idea. I know that I wouldn't be content just being friends, I would always want more, and I know it's best to have no contact and just move on. I have been beating myself up for this for many many hours now and feel like a wackjob! Sheesh!
headsashed Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 We all slip up from time to time so dont bet yourself up about it. Just go back to nc and heal.
Brokendude Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Its nothing but a slip up man, everyone does it, dont dwell on it, we all do it, just keep things in perspective from now on
steveblack Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I am the same boat. I want to write that email too. "the hey, lets just be friends email,"... But it wouldn't accomplish anything. I am trying to have the strength not to do it! Its really really tough
2muchlove Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Stay strong tallest one. Don't even look at the response from her if there is one. And keep your head high. I myself wrote a long email yesterday giving her all of the things I realized drove us to extinction. Read it a few times and decided to wait 24 hours to see how I felt about sending it. And I still haven't. So I say if the time comes again give yourself ample time to think and really understand why you're doing it and how it could benefit you. Because chances are, in the state you're in it won't benefit you in the slightest. It's the reason I haven't sent mine yet. I'm still too raw from the BU. We need to give ourselves time to cope and come to an understanding within ourselves so that we can handle any outcome of sending such things.
Author The Tallest One Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 2muchlove, I haven't heard back from her and I'm relieved. Just need to move on and being friends would only prolong my pain.
Author The Tallest One Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 So this is the email I sent, and her reply she sent me last night that I read this morning. Hi (leaving names out)!! I have thought a lot about what you have said and also about the last fourteen months that we knew each other! I am so grateful that I met you, you are a truly remarkable woman! Getting to know you and spending time with you made me very happy and I will forever cherish those memories! I am also deeply sorry for all the craziness and issues that came about during this time! I will always regret putting you through that! I know now that I have work to do not only with my finances and getting out on my own, but also my self asteem and learning to be more independant! I am not ready to date anyone and won't be until I am in a better place! I want to thank you for all your support and encouriging words that have helped a lot! I miss being friends with you, and our texts! Still think of you and I hope you are well! If you would like to keep in touch I would enjoy that but at the same time I understand if you would be more comfortable not staying in contact. I just don't want you to hate me! Please be good! Her reply: Hi (no names again), I don't hate you and I'll never do. You were very important to me and I wish nothing but good things for you. You know that I'm here when you need to talk. Be good and smile lots! So what would you do in my situation? Just curious?
Acrobaticdealer Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I wrote a similar email and got a similar response. I made the mistake of then pleasing with her again(bad move) That was 2 weeks ago and I haven't heard a peep since. I also want my ex back but right now, she's not interested. I'd concentrate on doing the things you've said you would (finances ect) really put some effort in and then 2-3 months time, contact her and talk. At least your ex is being pleasant with you and would be open to talk so take that as an incentive. Don't give up on her if you really love her, just focus on you for now, get in a better position and then suprise her with some good news. Good luck buddy, I'm routing for ya
Chi townD Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Awww.... that was nice. Really safe response from both parties. heal and move on, dude. Heal and move on.
RogerWallace111 Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Just go back to not talking to her, you'll be ok. I feel like a wackjob too... With lube, from a fine young woman. Wood b great
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