Brokendude Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I feel like waking up is the hardest thing to do during these tough times, i gave up alcohol because it makes my mornings awful and severely depressing...i woke up sober today and its still just as hard, just to wake up and realize that the other side of the bed is empty, i have a knot in my stomach and its impossible not to shed tears, i am upset about my break up but i want to fight but i feel right now theres nothin i can do but to mourn this, anyone else feel like this when they wake up??
BrokenBox Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I feel exactly the same way. There's nothing more to it, the mornings are the hardest part of the day for me.
blue_jay_bird Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Good on you for giving up drinking. I gave up drinking too, but social i still drink. I had the same feeling as well some time start reaching. I would try getting new bed sheets and everything, this is your bed now. And get up at the same time everyday, when the alarm goes off, don't lie down, and think, move to any other room. I know that doesn't sound like much but, and some day's it doesn't work....but. it has helped me.
Author Brokendude Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Ty guys for even posting, alcohol or not its just really rough to wake up, like i said i wanna fight this proactively and havin people like u guys sharing ur experiences truly makes me feel im not alone, i hope we all can get thru all of this very soon
steveblack Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I am 100% is the same boat. This is the toughest.
blue_jay_bird Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 oh and you can turn on the radio, and leave it on... never turn it off. 1
PAWPAW Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 (edited) Yes, mornings are the worst for me and my counselor told me why.......She said that thinking about your problems and dwelling on them, running them around in your head at night is the same thing as cramming for a test. It works the same way. The reason people cram for tests is that when you do this, it stays in your mind, even while you sleep. Then you wake up and ...bam...its still all right there. Dwelling on problems at night before you go to bed is the same thing as cramming for a test, it stays in your mind even while you sleep and it is going to go into overload when you wake up. Try this. Find a hobby for night time to take your mind off things. Play music...your feel good music that helps your mood. Talk to friends, even a phone call....but dont talk about problems at night. Do anything to relax (leave off the alcohol...it never helps). Take a hot bath or watch a funny movie. Been there, and just now starting to wake up normally. All these things help. Good luck. Edited July 15, 2012 by PAWPAW 3
Author Brokendude Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Pawpaw that was great ty! Such a shame were meeting under tese circumstances but that was helpful i truly hope u find the peace and happiness ur looking for, well all get thru this 1
BrokenBox Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 PAWPAW that was actually very insightful. Thank you. 1
PAWPAW Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Your welcome. If you are going to counseling, it is also helpful that you go during the daytime hours too. Too late appointments will do the same...talking about all of that stuff too late in the evening. Set yourself a cut off time that you stop thinking and talking about it. Whatever your bedtime is, try cutting it off about 2.5 hours before. Train your mind....your mind will wander during this time and want to go back onto your problems,...but you have to train it to stay where you want it. Its hard...but YOU are in control of your thoughts during this time....just dont let them stray..... Youll make it. 1
TooHonest123 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Every morning since my ex left me for another man i would get feelings of anxiety, stress, anger when i wouod wake up...i felt my heart pounding...a pain in the middle of my chest..i felt as though insects were crawling under my skin in my hands and feet. It was the nastiest feeling... I spent 2 months thinking about why the relationship ended and what set everything off in the way it did. Then 5 days ago out of nowhere i rememmbered an instance in which my GF hit me, that somehow i had completely forgotten about..i guess i forgot about it as a defense mechanism since i had a traumatic childhood in terms of violence. I came to the conclusion that the moment she hit me the relationship died. Which eventually led to other problems...When this happend i cried of joy...because i finally felt i was not the bad guy in the relationship and I understood why i had done somethings i did later on. Just the fact that i understood everything made me feel so much more relaxed. The day after that I had the best morning ever. But trust me i still want her back lol...she is seeing someone else but i am going to work on myself and stay on the sidelines....but if i happen to meet someone else in the process then so be it...
CopingGal Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I feel like waking up is the hardest thing to do during these tough times, i gave up alcohol because it makes my mornings awful and severely depressing...i woke up sober today and its still just as hard, just to wake up and realize that the other side of the bed is empty, i have a knot in my stomach and its impossible not to shed tears, i am upset about my break up but i want to fight but i feel right now theres nothin i can do but to mourn this, anyone else feel like this when they wake up?? Here's a video clip that shows what a woman does with her mornings. The woman is not in the video clip, but you can hear her. See out pleasant her mornings are. She speaks very softly. Buster the Beagle waking up happy, happy, happy - YouTube
edelveis Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 i used to feel like that the 1st month after the brake up..the best to do is try to fight it,get up and do something you enjoy.eat a nice breakfast and listen to good music..u wont be able to make it by the 1st time but soon you will..it might sounds typicall but with time IT GETS BETTER.
CopingGal Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 See out pleasant her mornings are. That is supposed to say: See HOW pleasant her mornings are.
Author Brokendude Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 I was off today so i slept in and decided to fight this and do something about it, i got my ipod and ran on the track despite the sweltering heat, made me feel better about myself, one day at a time guys, we got each other right now, im sure ill be back on here when this thing knocks me on my butt again but for now i chose to fight 2
edelveis Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 good luck dude we ll be happy to be reading about your progress in your upcoming threads
Author Brokendude Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Thank u edelveis, the morning felt good but now its late afternoon on a sunday and im strugglin w this, putting on shoes and play basketball, ahh i hope i dont run out of things to do, im really so overwhelmed by this
LostGirl11 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 This is what I did, I stripped my bed, the sheets, duvet cover ect and just let it air for a 2 weeks whilst I slept in another bed. I made sure I went to bed at the same time every night, listened to the same radio station every night and woke up at the same time every day! As soon as I started to think about him BAM! I got my ass up and opened those blindes! Then when I went back into my room I kept up my little routine. I even made silly little changes to my bed side table, lol. I'm not sure how this helped me but it has. 1
Author Brokendude Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Lostgirl, that does make sense its all about preventing negative thoughts to creep in, i will follow everyones advice on here for sure!!
LostGirl11 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Lostgirl, that does make sense its all about preventing negative thoughts to creep in, i will follow everyones advice on here for sure!! I used to read before I went to sleep but my mind always starts to drift, then I cry, then I stay up too late then I feel like crap the next day. So I can only read during the day at the moment It's a horrible feeling so I feel for you. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one that wakes up to this feeling. Another silly thing I did was move my mobile to the other side of the room as when we were together the first thing I did when I opened my eyes was text him. So a funky little clock is in its place.
Author Brokendude Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 I appreciate everything guys, knowing im not alone is def giving me some power back, cant wait to be ok
theskyisblue Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Hey yeah it really is tough getting out of bed. Do you have some way of mixing up your routine? Also tough is when it's really light and you wake up and realise how early it is and then can't sleep. Are you getting much actual rest? Also struggling a lot but maybe we can get through this.
BrokenBox Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Bad morning for me still. My problem is that close to waking up, I dream heavily about her, about the good times. About cuddling and kissing her. And then I wake up The tears are in my eyes again.
theskyisblue Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 That sounds like something I can relate to, it really does. You wake up and think about them. Should it really feel like this? Have you got stuff to keep you busy, like at work or friends? Maybe listen to some music when you wake up - or put the tv on for a distraction? Probably sounds meaningless to you - my friends offer advice but it seems like empty words.
Author Brokendude Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 Woke up today and the same thing happened, it just pierced right tru me and i did everyones advice on here, everything and it still felt like hell... Crying right now im so mentally and physically exhausted from not being able to sleep well and bring emotionally drained...woke up rethinking what i couldve done etc but i kno its of no use and its just something i hafta accept but my heart is so extremely broken, truly doin everything i can but nothing but severe pain rt now
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