robaday Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I saw my ex gf on an online dating website and i feel pretty bad about it.....there wasnt a picture but it was her. it was only three weeks ago that she was telling me she loved me, and wanted to see me, and shes spent three months bombarding me with emails. I even saw her a week ago after she asked me out and we had a drink together, it was nice to be on better terms She isnt doing anything wrong I guess, I just dont know why she would tell me those things.
todreaminblue Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I saw my ex gf on an online dating website and i feel pretty bad about it.....there wasnt a picture but it was her. it was only three weeks ago that she was telling me she loved me, and wanted to see me, and shes spent three months bombarding me with emails. I even saw her a week ago after she asked me out and we had a drink together, it was nice to be on better terms She isnt doing anything wrong I guess, I just dont know why she would tell me those things. Your ex has obviously tried to move on.... doesnt mean that she didnt mean the things that she did say.....maybe the drink together that you had was a form of closure for her....Do you want her back?
Author robaday Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 She did the breaking off. I let her go. I loved her and it wasnt easy, I went NC. I didnt reply at first, but it was clear she was really really hurting, and seemed pretty serious about staying in my life - begging me to talk to her, begging to see me. I was tremendously cautious and if Im honest, I havent fully recovered - Im in mixed minds about getting back together myself - id need to see she was serious. Seeing that has made me realise she isnt she logged on 4 days ago, after kissing me and wanting to see me again.
todreaminblue Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 She did the breaking off. I let her go. I loved her and it wasnt easy, I went NC. I didnt reply at first, but it was clear she was really really hurting, and seemed pretty serious about staying in my life - begging me to talk to her, begging to see me. I was tremendously cautious and if Im honest, I havent fully recovered - Im in mixed minds about getting back together myself - id need to see she was serious. Seeing that has made me realise she isnt she logged on 4 days ago, after kissing me and wanting to see me again. ok its clearer to me now.....now you clarified she broke it off......tread carefully, instinct tells me she wants to keep you for a back up .....you are rightly confused about her intentions and i dont think it is fair for her to keep you guessing.....try talking to her i guess but if she hasnt told you she is on dating sites than she is keeping that a secret for a reason and might not come clean.....if you were to wait for her to admit" hey i joined this dating site but i have realised i just want to be with you"... that would be more legit...its not right for women to play games anymore than it is for a man.....my advice is keep your heart safe in this case and until she comes clean she is not being honest about her true intentions in regards to you.......best wishes....deb
Author robaday Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Thing is though - Im on there too! Ive also been on a few dates, so am trying to move on, but my emotions are still wrapped up in her and Im not over her. Im wondering if I should maybe disappear again, and just reply if she contacts me, maybe fade out a little. I dont want to get burned.
todreaminblue Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Thing is though - Im on there too! Ive also been on a few dates, so am trying to move on, but my emotions are still wrapped up in her and Im not over her. Im wondering if I should maybe disappear again, and just reply if she contacts me, maybe fade out a little. I dont want to get burned. Continue moving on meeting new people, fade her out and if she opens up and is truthful there is possibility...in all honesty I wouldnt waste time on someone who plays games with you.....while you are wasting time thinking of her ....someone who is worthy of your affection is out there and that person is the one you will need to look forward to meeting up with one day.....your ex is playing the field.....and there is a strong chance you are the one who will get burnt.fade her out...deb
Author robaday Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 She came on really really strong which is why Im confused by this - shes really not the type to play the field, shes only ever had relationships. I dont have any claim over her, its not like we were back together or anything, and in truth she isnt doing anything wrong. She wanted to sleep at mine the other night, but I put her into a cab instead, said maybe when we are at a better place with each other. Ah, I just gotta get my focus back, stop worrying about her and focus on myself.
todreaminblue Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 She came on really really strong which is why Im confused by this - shes really not the type to play the field, shes only ever had relationships. I dont have any claim over her, its not like we were back together or anything, and in truth she isnt doing anything wrong. She wanted to sleep at mine the other night, but I put her into a cab instead, said maybe when we are at a better place with each other. Ah, I just gotta get my focus back, stop worrying about her and focus on myself. She may only have had relationships in the past I dont know the girl.....but she isnt being an honest with you so its a game.....i think you are on the right track as far as focus goes.....your feelings are important and focusing on you will bring you clarity......if down the track you have a heart to heart with your ex you will be able to make a clear headed decision based on what you really need from a relationship...for you i think honesty would make you happy, and read her true intentions clearly through her honesty with you.....i wish you all the best and hope in the future everything becomes crystal clear for you ....good luck with you.....deb
Author robaday Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Thank you for your advice, I really appreciate it! this has hit me pretty hard, even though it has been some time since we were together. It has all been her, as in initiating contact, wanting to see me, and an awful lot of pretty intense feelings from her. Ive tried to keep my head straight, but guess I thought we were back on the right track, because I let her do the talking, pushing. Were scheduled to meet over weekend again. Not sure what to expect.
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