without Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 How bad is it if you know a guy is really into looks? I think I met one, Well I'm always worrying about what if he starts to think i'm not good and what if a better one comes along and he leaves me... How bad could it be? Can someone be that materialistic? That all he thinks is looks? And i don't mean just in the beginning that they of course choose someone who looks attractive to them.. but can they leave you if a prettier one comes along? There are always better looking people than you, however you look...
january2011 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I think that anyone who is overly concerned with the front-end and doesn't care about the back-end is going to be a difficult person to please and/or be with. It is not good or bad in and of itself. It's just different. But is a good measuring stick with which to decide on compatibility. You sound as though you could get very insecure about this kind of thing. Therefore, my suggestion to you is to leave him where you found him and look for someone who makes you feel good about yourself and comfortable in your own skin. 2
Snakechammah Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Hmm, pardon my hijack on this thread with my astrobabble... but I believe if a man is obsessed about your looks or thinks you're goodlooking.. then there is probably a Venus in the 1st House synastry or his Venus makes a strong aspect to your Ascendant. If that is the case, you don't have to worry about him thinking about other people's looks or falling for someone prettier - you are the ideal person for him in terms of looks. That is the best assurance that he is bowled over by your looks no matter what you really look like. To him, you symbolize his dream woman in the looks department. Of course relationship should be about compatibilty and all that jazz. Looks shouldn't be the only factor. And of course, trust too. If you feel you couldn't trust this dude not to fall for another chick, then it is probably better to reconsider this relationship (or wanting one with him). Good luck! 1
mesmerized Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 All men (and most women) are into looks...The degree of shallowness differs however. I can tell when a man is extremely shallow and stay away. These are some of the things you should look for and possibly dump the guys who act this way: - Men who often use numbers to rate women. Do yourself a favor and RUN and never look back! - Men who make fun of/are mean to women who they don't find attractive. let's say you're walking with a guy and a big woman passes you and he makes a rude comment about her to you or laughs at her. - Men who enjoy fake women even though they know she is all fake! If he is into women who put a lot of makeup, have fake boobs and lips etc, he's likely too shallow and you wouldn't want to be with him long term. - I get that men look at other women, we look at other men too. But if a guy's wandering eyes are out of control, it's going to be a source of problems in your relationship and I wouldn't trust the guy. I'm sure there are more signs and I'll post them when I can think of them. 1
Author without Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 You sound as though you could get very insecure about this kind of thing. . Yes I do get insecure... Unfortunately. I don't know why but that's just who I am. Hmm, pardon my hijack on this thread with my astrobabble... but I believe if a man is obsessed about your looks or thinks you're goodlooking.. then there is probably a Venus in the 1st House synastry or his Venus makes a strong aspect to your Ascendant. Good luck! TBH I didn't really get what you mean, I meant he's into looks, so I get insecure because there are always better girls out there. If you want his venus it's taurus. If that helps. All men (and most women) are into looks...The degree of shallowness differs however. I can tell when a man is extremely shallow and stay away. These are some of the things you should look for and possibly dump the guys who act this way: Well he sometimes comments about some "aspects" of women when don't have it, he does it as a joke but I know he does like women to have that "aspect". big ones. Well many do, but still. He does like a girl to be tanned but isn't into so much make up.
utterer of lies Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 How bad is it if you know a guy is really into looks? I think I met one, Well I'm always worrying about what if he starts to think i'm not good and what if a better one comes along and he leaves me... There are always better looking people than you, however you look... You have to learn to accept that some things cannot be controlled. He might leave you the next day because he found someone slightly more attractive - or because he found his 'true love' or 'soulmate' - or because he realized he was gay - or anything else, really. This is just not in your control, and it's a waste of time and energy to worry so much about it. Better focus on enjoying the great times you have together. 1
Forever Learning Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Yes I do get insecure... Unfortunately. I don't know why but that's just who I am. TBH I didn't really get what you mean, I meant he's into looks, so I get insecure because there are always better girls out there. If you want his venus it's taurus. If that helps. Well he sometimes comments about some "aspects" of women when don't have it, he does it as a joke but I know he does like women to have that "aspect". big ones. Well many do, but still. He does like a girl to be tanned but isn't into so much make up. You do seem insecure. I was too, in my 20's. It landed me with an awful guy, and cost me many years of pain and suffering. One way to improve yourself is to read self help books about self esteem. Here's a great book you should check out at the library, it's a great starting point for you: "Women Who Love Too Much" by Robin Norwood. It's a very famous book, any library should have it. Read it twice! Slowly! And then look for other books on developing your self esteem. It's a great starting point for you. Don't feel bad, I've been there too. Cheers and all the best to you!!
Author without Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 You have to learn to accept that some things cannot be controlled. He might leave you the next day because he found someone slightly more attractive - or because he found his 'true love' or 'soulmate' - or because he realized he was gay - or anything else, really. This is just not in your control, and it's a waste of time and energy to worry so much about it. Better focus on enjoying the great times you have together. Hmmm well yeah all those can happen. I understand what you mean that I should enjoy the moment but sometimes it's hard. "Women Who Love Too Much" by Robin Norwood. It's a very famous book, any library should have it. Thanks, I give it a shot.
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