miss_jaclynrae Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 So we're locked in on the conclusion that he is a douchebag who is only looking for sex?? Because I can text him today that we are over and he will get that text this coming saturday. (he gets his phone every saturday for an hour; terms of the restriction) No. He is young and doesn't want anyone else to have you yet won't make things clear with you. It is a power thing in the form of manipulation. Don't listen to him, in any true relationship, such a statement would never come up at ALL. The fact that he said that at all is disheartening. 1
Author usmclove Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Give it a few months and she will probably have an "USMC girlfriend" sweatshirt, or decal... or both. Lol the username was easy to remember. and i didn't want something I could be recognized by.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Lol the username was easy to remember. and i didn't want something I could be recognized by. Hate to say it, but the fact that he is on restriction should automatically rule him out. 2
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 So we're locked in on the conclusion that he is a douchebag who is only looking for sex?? Because I can text him today that we are over and he will get that text this coming saturday. (he gets his phone every saturday for an hour; terms of the restriction) No, not necessarily. Do your own thing for the next couple months. If you meet someone, then so be it. See where that goes. But if not, or if you want to wait for this dude, then wait it out. And now that I think about it, if he's on restriction, he probably did something stupid...or he just sucks... I'd personally pass... 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 No, not necessarily. Do your own thing for the next couple months. If you meet someone, then so be it. See where that goes. But if not, or if you want to wait for this dude, then wait it out. And now that I think about it, if he's on restriction, he probably did something stupid...or he just sucks... I'd personally pass... *chestpump* Same wavelength over hurrrr. 1
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 *chestpump* Same wavelength over hurrrr. Hahahah. You beat me to it.
Author usmclove Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Your user name seems to say differently...and why would you have mentioned it in your first post if you weren't thinking about it? Either way, listen to the others. I see this behavior on a day to day basis...and have to deal with those who realized 3 years into marriage just what had actually happened...it's honestly a pain in the ass... The reason i mentioned it is because me saying he is on restriction wouldn't have made sense otherwise.. lol I don't want to marry this guy, I just don't want to be taken for a ride
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 The reason i mentioned it is because me saying he is on restriction wouldn't have made sense otherwise.. lol I don't want to marry this guy, I just don't want to be taken for a ride Then what DO you want?
Author usmclove Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 *chestpump* Same wavelength over hurrrr. Underage Drinking.
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Underage Drinking. Hrmm...out of everything he could have gotten restriction for, it had to be this...that sucks for him...I have mixed feelings on this one...
Author usmclove Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Then what DO you want? When I'm in a relationship, Im 100% honest with the people I am dating. There is no confusion about my feelings for the other person. But I feel like he's not being honest. I really like him, all im saying is not all relationships have to end in marriage, I just met him a few months ago, I'd like to see where this goes. I just wish he was more open with how he feels, so I'm not here wasting my time on a guy who just wants to get in my pants. PS: Is it just me or are a lot of military guys very closed off emotionally? Why is that?? 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Oh I get it. Yeah, he is just an idiot. A majority of the guys drink underage, he must of done something stupid like to try to get on base while drunk or something.
Author usmclove Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Hrmm...out of everything he could have gotten restriction for, it had to be this...that sucks for him...I have mixed feelings on this one... Mixed feelings about him? Join the club. lol. But after hearing you guys talk, I'm leaning more towards sending him that goodbye text. 1
Author usmclove Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Oh I get it. Yeah, he is just an idiot. A majority of the guys drink underage, he must of done something stupid like to try to get on base while drunk or something. He had a damn bottle of vodka with him, and someone told on him. dumbasss
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 When I'm in a relationship, Im 100% honest with the people I am dating. There is no confusion about my feelings for the other person. But I feel like he's not being honest. I really like him, all im saying is not all relationships have to end in marriage, I just met him a few months ago, I'd like to see where this goes. I just wish he was more open with how he feels, so I'm not here wasting my time on a guy who just wants to get in my pants. PS: Is it just me or are a lot of military guys very closed off emotionally? Why is that?? No. Most of them are actually pretty open. Ok, so me trying to forget the fact that he is probably a controlling [and stupid for getting on restriction] man and totally not worth your time... He doesn't want to commit, yet doesn't want you to sleep with anyone else. So yes, in a way, he just wants to get into your pants. 1
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 PS: Is it just me or are a lot of military guys very closed off emotionally? Why is that?? I have mixed feelings on this statement too...I think the military has a tendency to draw certain personalities...and when you're fresh out of high school and don't know a damn thing about yourself or the world, then all you have is the guy to your left and right. And boys being boys will always be competing with each other to see who is the manliest man. And "men" don't show or express their emotions...so many young Marines are cultured to stay stone cold because it's cool to be that way amongst your friends and peers. And this ultimately leads to a lot of unhappy girlfriends and spouses. 1
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Mixed feelings about him? Join the club. lol. But after hearing you guys talk, I'm leaning more towards sending him that goodbye text. No, mixed feelings about the underage drinking...
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 When I'm in a relationship, Im 100% honest with the people I am dating. There is no confusion about my feelings for the other person. But I feel like he's not being honest. I really like him, all im saying is not all relationships have to end in marriage, I just met him a few months ago, I'd like to see where this goes. I just wish he was more open with how he feels, so I'm not here wasting my time on a guy who just wants to get in my pants. PS: Is it just me or are a lot of military guys very closed off emotionally? Why is that?? Why do women think they are special because they are 100 percent honest with how they feel? do you not realize that the majority of women feel and think this why? why do women feel this is such a rarity/value? There is hardly never any confusion from how the woman feels or wants in this situation, It's the man being elusive and pretending to not know how he feels or doesn't want to make a statement he'll have to follow through with. You need to realize real quick that this is how it goes...this is negative sign, if a guy is closed off or elusive about his emotions, you do not wait to see where it goes...do you realize how ridiculous that is? What does that even mean to you? you think somehow magically things will become a different world? things will magically develop from nothing? what you see is what you get...If you can keep yourself from being hopeful and optimistic just because you really like a man you'll save yourself a world of trouble, in fact that would make you different and smarter/wiser than 99 percent of women out there If you can get that through your head....you can't change men either, let that one go, see what things are, see the reality not what you want to happen, you get that? Of course you're going to waste your time! you're 18, you'll probably be wasting your time with boy for a number of years maybe even until you are 30's or 40's! why? because you'll keep seeing where things go. If a guy is emotionally closed off....DO NOT TRUST HIM, you will get your ass burned, guaranteed. 2
Author usmclove Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 No. Most of them are actually pretty open. Ok, so me trying to forget the fact that he is probably a controlling [and stupid for getting on restriction] man and totally not worth your time... He doesn't want to commit, yet doesn't want you to sleep with anyone else. So yes, in a way, he just wants to get into your pants. Itll be sad since I've 'broken' up with him once before and he was pretty upset to say the least. But ill tell him that if he can't commit to me, then why does he get to tell me I can't sleep with anyone else
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 You can't make men feel or do anything...once you figure out that your life will be 100 times easier and you'll waste a lot less of your time with men who don't have what you want and what you need. Otherwise, like many women even still much older than you...continue to fix broken things rather than find something that doesn't need fixing. It's much much much easier when it's real and genuine, effortless really. 1
Author usmclove Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Why do women think they are special because they are 100 percent honest with how they feel? do you not realize that the majority of women feel and think this why? why do women feel this is such a rarity/value? There is hardly never any confusion from how the woman feels or wants in this situation, It's the man being elusive and pretending to not know how he feels or doesn't want to make a statement he'll have to follow through with. You need to realize real quick that this is how it goes...this is negative sign, if a guy is closed off or elusive about his emotions, you do not wait to see where it goes...do you realize how ridiculous that is? What does that even mean to you? you think somehow magically things will become a different world? things will magically develop from nothing? what you see is what you get...If you can keep yourself from being hopeful and optimistic just because you really like a man you'll save yourself a world of trouble, in fact that would make you different and smarter/wiser than 99 percent of women out there If you can get that through your head....you can't change men either, let that one go, see what things are, see the reality not what you want to happen, you get that? Of course you're going to waste your time! you're 18, you'll probably be wasting your time with boy for a number of years maybe even until you are 30's or 40's! why? because you'll keep seeing where things go. If a guy is emotionally closed off....DO NOT TRUST HIM, you will get your ass burned, guaranteed. Im pretty sure that just changed my life. wow. I didn't think i was one of those women, honestly. I was so damn proud and believed I would never let a guy play me like he is doing right now. wow. That mofo almost got me to WAIT TWO MONTHS for him, while I sat here and waited while he got back, just so he could have sex with me, and still not commit. Maybe he wants to visualize it romantically where i save myself for him or something, but it doesn't change the fact that I still would've been his f**k toy. I am one of those women I guess. It stings pretty bad, but you can bet I won't be going back to him.
It's Just Me Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 It's much much much easier when it's real and genuine, effortless really. BINGO! Why get involved with anyone who creates more questions than answers? Life's too short.
mesmerized Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 seriously??? Almost all men I've encountered so far don't want you to sleep with other guys even if they are just fwb with you and age has nothing to do with this.
snug.bunny Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Has he given any indication that he is serious about you/any indication that he's in it for the long haul? Or, is he is undecided atm. Whatever the case may be, it's perfectly reasonable if he wants and IS monogamous with you, and then wants to know if you're on the same page. But, one cannot expect/ask something of someone if he/she is unwilling to apply the same standards. We met two months ago and since then we've been texting and hanging out as friends every now and then (Never slept together; Just thought i'd throw that in there). He is a little bit guarded with his emotions, so when I went on about how much I missed him, and liked him one night, all he would say was "I like you as more than friends". Ambiguous. If you believe he is worth it, wait. You're more familiar with your interactions than we are and whether or not you believe he is genuine or disingenuous. I was always the one to bail on him, and lie and tell him i was busy. Truth is, I was so afraid of finding out all he wanted was sex that even when he wanted to do stuff completely unrelated to sex, i was quick to shut him down. If that is true, than certainly he may have reservations about you.
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