usmclove Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Okay so, this is a little complicated, so try to follow along First off, I'm 18 years old, this guy i like is 20. We met two months ago and since then we've been texting and hanging out as friends every now and then (Never slept together; Just thought i'd throw that in there). He is a little bit guarded with his emotions, so when I went on about how much I missed him, and liked him one night, all he would say was "I like you as more than friends". Anyway... long story short. He is in the military, and got in trouble so he is on restriction for 2 months when he can't talk to/hang out with anyone. So the day before it was to take effect, he asked me if I was planning on sleeping with someone else while he was away. Then continued on with "Don't **** no one else" saying he didn't want to share me. Also asked if I'd wait for him. I don't get it. WHY? He is SO hard to read it is MADDENING. Why say all of that, if we're "JUST FRIENDS"??
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Ah...young Marines, they're so funny sometimes... 3
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 He wants that booty fresh! He wants to shag you with his willy If it isn't clear by now. You're all in love with him, you're an easy sure thing. 1
Author usmclove Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 He wants that booty fresh! He wants to shag you with his willy If it isn't clear by now. You're all in love with him, you're an easy sure thing. I know he does, but why ask me if I'm sleeping with someone else? How would that affect him or his chances..
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 He wants that booty fresh! He wants to shag you with his willy If it isn't clear by now. You're all in love with him, you're an easy sure thing. Ninja's got it. And now it's starting to make sense the appeal these 18-20 year old Marines have to their target audience of teenaged girls...
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I know he does, but why ask me if I'm sleeping with someone else? How would that affect him or his chances.. Territory. 1
MrCastle Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 He doesn't want another guy's penis to be inside of the hole where he plans to put his penis. 2
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 He doesn't want another guy's penis to be inside of the hole where he plans to put his penis. Say it ain't so...!
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I know he does, but why ask me if I'm sleeping with someone else? How would that affect him or his chances.. Because he's so stupid that he thinks you might sleep with someone else and he doesn't want anything else in there when he does get in. You see you're in touch with the emotional aspect of things... while his little one-eyed pirate is what's doing his thinking...therefore be prepared for a huge amount or lack of emotional sensitivity and emphasis on that part of your interaction, everything he says will be with one thing in the back of his mind (sex!)...he won't get it you and your emotions, he's not mature enough for all that and you'll just be left confused and distraught...sounds romantic doesn't it? 1
Author usmclove Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 He doesn't want another guy's penis to be inside of the hole where he plans to put his penis. Thats just depressing. I wanted it to something more, but I should've known, guys really are that simple.
madjac74 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 You are important enough that he is the only man that should be with you but....commitment? nah
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Thats just depressing. I wanted it to something more, but I should've known, guys really are that simple. This guy is...and many others who will tell you all the nice things in the beginning and you'll get swooned away by magical stories and empty promises, because the men who do that are the ones who leave you in the dust! You have many unfulfilling and one-sided romantic experiences in your future! so exciting! Because you'll be interested in the wrong guys and the guys who don't really like you the same way you like them. 1
MrCastle Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Thats just depressing. I wanted it to something more, but I should've known, guys really are that simple. Well what did you want it to be? If you were interested in a guy, but couldn't see him, would you want him putting his thing inside of any other thing that wasn't your thing?
Author usmclove Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Because he's so stupid that he thinks you might sleep with someone else and he doesn't want anything else in there when he does get in. You see you're in touch with the emotional aspect of things... while his little one-eyed pirate is what's doing his thinking...therefore be prepared for a huge amount or lack of emotional sensitivity and emphasis on that part of your interaction, everything he says will be with one thing in the back of his mind (sex!)...he won't get it you and your emotions, he's not mature enough for all that and you'll just be left confused and distraught...sounds romantic doesn't it? Okay. Im not really in the place for a relationship based solely on sex at the moment. If thats all he's in it for, I'd rather just put an end to it now. I was really startin to fall for this guy, but I don't want to end up getting hurt
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Because he's so stupid that he thinks you might sleep with someone else and he doesn't want anything else in there when he does get in. You see you're in touch with the emotional aspect of things... while his little one-eyed pirate is what's doing his thinking...therefore be prepared for a huge amount or lack of emotional sensitivity and emphasis on that part of your interaction, everything he says will be with one thing in the back of his mind (sex!)...he won't get it you and your emotions, he's not mature enough for all that and you'll just be left confused and distraught...sounds romantic doesn't it? He's a 20 year old Marine...you can't expect much when it comes to emotional maturity...or even regular maturity...the moment they leave the confines of the unit where they are at the bottom of the barrel and either go out to town or go home to see friends, they suddenly think they are gods among men...and of course women who don't know any better will eat that sh*t up... 1
Author usmclove Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 This guy is...and many others who will tell you all the nice things in the beginning and you'll get swooned away by magical stories and empty promises, because the men who do that are the ones who leave you in the dust! You have many unfulfilling and one-sided romantic experiences in your future! so exciting! Because you'll be interested in the wrong guys and the guys who don't really like you the same way you like them. Thing is, lol, it didn't start out romantic at all. There were no promises of fairy tale endings, and happy ever afters. He said he wasn't really lookin for sex either (LMFAO i know) just a friend. I mean, I personally feel that it has progressed from that point. We were starting to build something more than that. Just little things here n there (Planning 'dates' like goin to the movies, or to the club, or a restaurant) I was always the one to bail on him, and lie and tell him i was busy. Truth is, I was so afraid of finding out all he wanted was sex that even when he wanted to do stuff completely unrelated to sex, i was quick to shut him down. He KNEW from the very beginning I was VERY conservative, and had only had sex with a grand total of one guy before, and would never rush into sex. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Okay. Im not really in the place for a relationship based solely on sex at the moment. If thats all he's in it for, I'd rather just put an end to it now. I was really startin to fall for this guy, but I don't want to end up getting hurt You want to date a guy who is around exactly your age without a lot of experience that is closer to you so you can get to know him, not by what he says but how he acts...become friends, take it slow and get to know each other. Any fantasies and going off a whim of explosive emotions is going to lead you astray, especially If you can't even interact with the guy because he's away. And Hokie knows the dynamic of how these guys act and feel being in the service, I know how they act and think because of his age...guys your age and for a while will not have the emotional sensitivity to realize a lot of the things you want and are looking for, so basically try not to make too many mistakes with too many douchebags, so by the time your older you're not all jaded and bitter because you served your heart on a platter to these young and horny guys. Be careful with what you give, make sure whatever you gives somebody really earns it...don't give it away for words or because your emotions tell you that's what you want and need, they're going to mislead you...use your head, be smart about it, see things for what they really are. Find someone closer to your age right now, as a few years is a big difference...and with limited experience, not a guy who's had a bunch of girlfriends. Problem is you're probably going to be attracted to the jerks/douchebags, it's kind of in your wiring...the guys that pull the farthest away emotional but say the sweet little words...you'll want to change/claim into being in a relationship when all they want is the sex. 2
Author usmclove Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 He's a 20 year old Marine...you can't expect much when it comes to emotional maturity...or even regular maturity...the moment they leave the confines of the unit where they are at the bottom of the barrel and either go out to town or go home to see friends, they suddenly think they are gods among men...and of course women who don't know any better will eat that sh*t up... I am not impressed by his rank or military status. I respect that he is serving our country, but other than that it has never come up. I have never considered that before.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Ah, this has controlling all over it. Back away darling. Forget the fact that he isn't being open with you, but to TELL you what to do when he won't commit? Nope. 1
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Ah, this has controlling all over it. Back away darling. I was waiting for when you'd come to chime in... :laugh:
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Thing is, lol, it didn't start out romantic at all. There were no promises of fairy tale endings, and happy ever afters. He said he wasn't really lookin for sex either (LMFAO i know) just a friend. I mean, I personally feel that it has progressed from that point. We were starting to build something more than that. Just little things here n there (Planning 'dates' like goin to the movies, or to the club, or a restaurant) I was always the one to bail on him, and lie and tell him i was busy. Truth is, I was so afraid of finding out all he wanted was sex that even when he wanted to do stuff completely unrelated to sex, i was quick to shut him down. He KNEW from the very beginning I was VERY conservative, and had only had sex with a grand total of one guy before, and would never rush into sex. No that's going to be in general, I don't knwo what this guy said or did and how it all started...he doesn't sound like the sharpest tool in the shed since he so bluntly made the statement he did about you not sleepign with anyone else...that really said a lot about his character just by that posture. What I'm saying is many things are typical at your age, so there's a lot of that generic stuff that guys do that you're going to see a lot of. You're going to have to really get to know guys and trust your intuition on them being genuine, of course guys at your age will be horny but a guy who is interested will wait and still desire more if he respects you and sees you for more than that. 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I was waiting for when you'd come to chime in... :laugh: I'm the token "been there, done that." She won't listen to me of course... 1
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I am not impressed by his rank or military status. I respect that he is serving our country, but other than that it has never come up. I have never considered that before. Your user name seems to say differently...and why would you have mentioned it in your first post if you weren't thinking about it? Either way, listen to the others. I see this behavior on a day to day basis...and have to deal with those who realized 3 years into marriage just what had actually happened...it's honestly a pain in the ass... 1
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Your user name seems to say differently...and why would you have mentioned it in your first post if you weren't thinking about it? Either way, listen to the others. I see this behavior on a day to day basis...and have to deal with those who realized 3 years into marriage just what had actually happened...it's honestly a pain in the ass... Give it a few months and she will probably have an "USMC girlfriend" sweatshirt, or decal... or both. 1
Author usmclove Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 You want to date a guy who is around exactly your age without a lot of experience that is closer to you so you can get to know him, not by what he says but how he acts...become friends, take it slow and get to know each other. Any fantasies and going off a whim of explosive emotions is going to lead you astray, especially If you can't even interact with the guy because he's away. And Hokie knows the dynamic of how these guys act and feel being in the service, I know how they act and think because of his age...guys your age and for a while will not have the emotional sensitivity to realize a lot of the things you want and are looking for, so basically try not to make too many mistakes with too many douchebags, so by the time your older you're not all jaded and bitter because you served your heart on a platter to these young and horny guys. Be careful with what you give, make sure whatever you gives somebody really earns it...don't give it away for words or because your emotions tell you that's what you want and need, they're going to mislead you...use your head, be smart about it, see things for what they really are. Find someone closer to your age right now, as a few years is a big difference...and with limited experience, not a guy who's had a bunch of girlfriends. Problem is you're probably going to be attracted to the jerks/douchebags, it's kind of in your wiring...the guys that pull the farthest away emotional but say the sweet little words...you'll want to change/claim into being in a relationship when all they want is the sex. So we're locked in on the conclusion that he is a douchebag who is only looking for sex?? Because I can text him today that we are over and he will get that text this coming saturday. (he gets his phone every saturday for an hour; terms of the restriction)
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