somedude81 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I've dated shorter men in the past and they have expressed dissatisfaction with my height. They made it clear that they would prefer that I was shorter. Taller men don't just grudgingly accept my height; they actually like it. You do realize that the problem is with the individual and not with "all short men?" Also, there have been a few tall guys who have posted that they don't like tall girls because they don't seem feminine. So it's a bit of a stretch to say that all short guys don't like you being tall, and all tall guys like you being tall.
iris219 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 This is just projection from shorter men...they assume that you are going to dismiss them for their height, so they preemptively dismiss the taller woman for being "too tall" so that they can be the ones to reject and not be rejected. It's an ego thing. For others, it's just a safe assumption to effectively narrow down the dating pool. I personally don't consider dating anyone significantly taller than me for that reason. I think you just rejected me. I am pretty much convinced all short men will reject me or settle for me, so I don’t bother. I’m not even THAT tall and I’m very thin and fit, so it’s not like I look huge next to a shorter guy. Maybe it was a defense mechanism or insecurity on their part. Or maybe they realized they didn't like tall women as much as short ones.
amaysngrace Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 My oldest son is in college but doesn't date cause he thinks girls are too expensive right now. But I bet he ends up dating a tall chick even though he's short. He's a very confident young man.
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I think you just rejected me. Yes I did. How does rejection taste, hmmm? I hope I made you cry.
iris219 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Yes I did. How does rejection taste, hmmm? I hope I made you cry. It confirmed that I should never, ever give short guys a chance. Ever. Actually, I would be fine with a man shorter than me if he was genuinely OK with me being taller. I think it's hard to find these guys though.
iris219 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 You do realize that the problem is with the individual and not with "all short men?" Also, there have been a few tall guys who have posted that they don't like tall girls because they don't seem feminine. So it's a bit of a stretch to say that all short guys don't like you being tall, and all tall guys like you being tall. Just like you realize that not ALL women care about height? I believe most shorter men don't want to or would prefer not to date a woman who's taller. I recall you saying you wouldn't date a woman over a certain height.
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 It confirmed that I should never, ever give short guys a chance. Ever. False. It is they who should never, ever give you a chance. Actually, I would be fine with a man shorter than me if he was genuinely OK with me being taller. I think it's hard to find these guys though. I used to be steadfast in the "don't date taller girls policy," but more recently, I just dropped it altogether. There was this pretty cool girl I met a few years ago on a cruise that I still keep in touch with as friends. She's an inch or two taller than I am, so I never considered anything more than friendship, of course as a defense mechanism. But nowadays, height doesn't bother me as long as it doesn't bother her...the only problem is that I often instinctually assume it bothers her...
monkey00 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 It confirmed that I should never, ever give short guys a chance. Ever. Actually, I would be fine with a man shorter than me if he was genuinely OK with me being taller. I think it's hard to find these guys though. I have a co-worker who's probably 5'6 and his wife is like around 5'8...she is gorgeous. He has a great personality and is pretty confident as an individual so she's probably attracted to that. It might be harder for you, but they those guys exist. My ex was half an inch taller than me, and it was never weird for me even if she was wearing heels. But for some reason after being with her it kind of makes me appreciate shorter women more (and this coming from the guy who has always preferred tall women). 2
wheream_i Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Actually, I would be fine with a man shorter than me if he was genuinely OK with me being taller. Then let's do this!! 3
Els Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I am pretty much convinced all short men will reject me or settle for me, so I don’t bother. Sounds a bit like a self-fulfilling prophecy to me. 1
TheWatcher Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I find women caring about height to be a little silly cause most of them are so short themselves What difference does it make if a guy is 5'9 or 6'0 if you're 5'4 yourself? Status,how it looks like to other people,not wanting to be the only one in your peer group whose partner isn't tall,wanting to wear heels,wanting to feel small/feminine,wanting to feel protected,etc Those are some of the reasons that I've heard.
runner Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I think you just rejected me. I am pretty much convinced all short men will reject me or settle for me, so I don’t bother. I’m not even THAT tall and I’m very thin and fit, so it’s not like I look huge next to a shorter guy. Maybe it was a defense mechanism or insecurity on their part. Or maybe they realized they didn't like tall women as much as short ones. 5'9" doesn't bother me, i would date you (i'm 5'8"). but it's too bad you've already pre-rejected me ...oh well, off the beat some tigers.
pteromom Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 1. Smile - he must HAVE one, and if it is a nice, honest one showing good teeth, he's got my attention. 2. Eyes - sparkly eyes that reflect the smile. 3. Shoulders - broad shoulders are yummy. Those are really the biggies for me.
RedRobin Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 His overall demeanor. His 'energy' (no, I didn't say confidence). How he is put together and if it is consistent with other things I observe about him. This is the first thing I notice.
Badsingularity Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 I believe most shorter men don't want to or would prefer not to date a woman who's taller. I recall you saying you wouldn't date a woman over a certain height. I'm am the same height as my wife. Both 5' 9". She is slim. I wanted her to be able to feel smaller than me and more feminine. So....I decided to become fatter Worked like a charm:bunny: 3
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